IN THE MOOD TO TALK

swaby
swaby Posts: 51
edited September 22 in Chit-Chat
I was just sitting here and thought it would be great to chat a bit you start the subject
«1

Replies

  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    I have posted my number numerous times and you refuse to text me so I'll concede defeat and chat you up on the message boards. How are ya doing?
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    you should totally get a livejournal, and then add me! loathesome.livejournal.com
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    I never saw your number but soon good and you?
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    Never heard of live journal
  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    My number's in the forum just lookup text in the search. I was actually just about to head to bed. My nephew's having a hard time staying asleep but I think my sister just put him in bed for the third attempt.
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    Okay maybe some other time you are welcome to message me
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    livejournal was like...a crazy amazing venue to discuss your worldview before facebook came around and depessed me. livejournal.com
  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    Okay maybe some other time you are welcome to message me

    About to head to bed means I'll probably actually go to bed in 2 hours. I'm kind of addicted to this website.
  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    livejournal was like...a crazy amazing venue to discuss your worldview before facebook came around and depessed me. livejournal.com

    Why did FB depress you? There's hardly anyone discussing anything far less worldviews on FB.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    hey you guys. wanna chat with me? I'm feeling low :(
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    Sure what's on your mind
  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    What's up lucky?
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    my boss just basically told me that I suck as a teacher. I know this is not true, I am just in the wrong setting, but I can't help it, I feel like a loser.

    I belong in a grade-school classroom. I'm teaching former dropouts at a career college. I hate it. I have a 100+ mile drive everyday to go to a job I hate.
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    Make the most of the situation make your own happiness
  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    my boss just basically told me that I suck as a teacher. I know this is not true, I am just in the wrong setting, but I can't help it, I feel like a loser.

    I belong in a grade-school classroom. I'm teaching former dropouts at a career college. I hate it. I have a 100+ mile drive everyday to go to a job I hate.

    100+ mile! Are you nuts?! I would say quit that job and do something you love but it's probably not going to be that simple with the economy being as it is. Is there anything else going on in your life that your boss' comments affected you so much today or has s/he just been riding' you too hard for too long?
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    I moved from San Francisco to LA to take this job, and my sister helped me get it. SO I basically feel like if I quit (which I could potentially afford to do) then it will reflect badly on her. Which sucks.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    She's basing her assessment of me on the comments made by the dropouts. Every month they have a survey to take and a couple of them just don't like me so they talk ****. She is believing them over me.

    I know I am an excellent teacher. I just hate this situation. I hate that she is making me doubt myself.
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    100 miles is alot
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    because I really enjoy content...i love to read about peoples lives, I love to write about mine and be able to exhale everything I inhale...it feels really awesome. Facebook is just a way to brand ourselves, there is no content...I just don't like it. Going back to livejournal has given me a rush!
    livejournal was like...a crazy amazing venue to discuss your worldview before facebook came around and depessed me. livejournal.com

    Why did FB depress you? There's hardly anyone discussing anything far less worldviews on FB.
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    Learn to modify your situation or accept and try to be happy
  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    How long have you been at it? Maybe it's too soon for you to tell how much you like or dislike it or for your boss to see how effective you are. If that's not the case then consider this:

    Are you doing yourself any favors by putting yourself (and your car) through this commute and job every day?
    Would it reflect more negatively on your sister for you to quit a job with which you are unhappy or to be ineffective in a position which she helped you get?

    In the end, the decision is yours to make. I don't know your sister, I don't know your boss and I'm not in your situation but it's way better to be happy and broke (although it sounds like you'll be fine) than working and miserable. It was for me anyway.
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    I know you are mad, and that is why you are calling them the dropouts. But don't! I would just stand strong and remind your idiot boss that their perception of you is not a reflection of your job, but their attitudes, especially because they are in a career college. And discuss it with the students too, ask them what they want from a teacher, and what it looks like also, they probably don't even have a problem with you and are just misdirecting their attitudes. But don't call them dropouts, that is toxic!
    She's basing her assessment of me on the comments made by the dropouts. Every month they have a survey to take and a couple of them just don't like me so they talk ****. She is believing them over me.

    I know I am an excellent teacher. I just hate this situation. I hate that she is making me doubt myself.
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    You seem to enjoy live journal alot
  • swaby
    swaby Posts: 51
    You seem to enjoy live journal alot
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    I really do, I have been stressed and with no venue to just share my experience. Even if it is never read it feels good to even reread about my day.

    Maybe you should start an lj Lucky!!
    You seem to enjoy live journal alot
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    I started there in July. I pretty much could tell right away that I do not belong at a for-profit school. All they care about is whether the kids show up, not whether they learn. It's all $$$ with them, and as a teacher I am used to being measured on my teaching performance, not spanked over poor attendance. I feel powerless to change the attendance and that's all that matters.

    I am beating my car to hell, and after the gas expense I am working for half what they pay me, which is stupid.

    My sister means the world to me, and I would not want to embarass her or reflect poorly on her. She loves this school and wants to make a career for herself there (she's at a different campus, but same company)

    Every day I dread getting in the car for that drive.



    Sigh. Thanks for listening...
  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    I know you are mad, and that is why you are calling them the dropouts. But don't! I would just stand strong and remind your idiot boss that their perception of you is not a reflection of your job, but their attitudes, especially because they are in a career college. And discuss it with the students too, ask them what they want from a teacher, and what it looks like also, they probably don't even have a problem with you and are just misdirecting their attitudes. But don't call them dropouts, that is toxic!
    She's basing her assessment of me on the comments made by the dropouts. Every month they have a survey to take and a couple of them just don't like me so they talk ****. She is believing them over me.

    I know I am an excellent teacher. I just hate this situation. I hate that she is making me doubt myself.

    First off: see my "you guys are hot" post. That is a non-sequitur. Second: I can totally see the psych in you coming out. Third: Some teachers are always hated becaus of their methods but they help students learn, others are hated and don't help them learn and some are loved and completely ineffective. I prefer the tough but fair teachers who don't take crap but it's getting harder and harder for those types of teachers to find positions when schools and universities move towards different philosophies and goals than they originally endorsed. One of my favorite professors in undergrad left my school because they thought he was spending too much time teaching and not enough time doing research.
  • randyv99
    randyv99 Posts: 257 Member
    Yeah so what I just said about philosophies and $$$ definitely applies. I can certainly empathize with your frustration, but unless I'm just being naive again (which I have been in the past), I don't think it would be so detrimental for your sister for you to quit. Less detrimental anyway than having your boss pressure you to change your style to meet a bottom line.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member

    I know you are mad, and that is why you are calling them the dropouts. But don't! I would just stand strong and remind your idiot boss that their perception of you is not a reflection of your job, but their attitudes, especially because they are in a career college. And discuss it with the students too, ask them what they want from a teacher, and what it looks like also, they probably don't even have a problem with you and are just misdirecting their attitudes. But don't call them dropouts, that is toxic!

    You're right. It's hard not to feel mad at them, when their lack of attendance is the reason I'm in hot water. The ones I have the most trouble with, and have to be extra firm with, are the ones who are making up stories.

    I am definitely the firm but fair teacher that students respect. In every classroom I've ever led, my students have started off disliking the strictness, but ended up loving me.

    I have never dealt with "adults" though. (I use the term loosely. They are of age, but extremely immature.) My 7th graders were more responsible.
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    it is always interesting to see how different people respond differently to different groups. the dynamic can completely change. i love working with adults, i don't even know how to speak with youth, i try, but i feel that I don't engage them as best as they could be engaged. I work really well with adults though, just remember they are people, and because it is a career college, really unmotivated, discouraged, demoralized, people.

    I know you are mad, and that is why you are calling them the dropouts. But don't! I would just stand strong and remind your idiot boss that their perception of you is not a reflection of your job, but their attitudes, especially because they are in a career college. And discuss it with the students too, ask them what they want from a teacher, and what it looks like also, they probably don't even have a problem with you and are just misdirecting their attitudes. But don't call them dropouts, that is toxic!

    You're right. It's hard not to feel mad at them, when their lack of attendance is the reason I'm in hot water. The ones I have the most trouble with, and have to be extra firm with, are the ones who are making up stories.

    I am definitely the firm but fair teacher that students respect. In every classroom I've ever led, my students have started off disliking the strictness, but ended up loving me.

    I have never dealt with "adults" though. (I use the term loosely. They are of age, but extremely immature.) My 7th graders were more responsible.
This discussion has been closed.

Categories