kids messy rooms.....
KimiSteinbach
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How old are yours and how often do you have them clean their rooms. Do you buy into the notion that teen brains are short circuiting so forget about it?
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My 4 year old cleans up her room every night before bed.0
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I work full time and I gave up at a certain point. I just couldn't yell anymore. She went to college and came home in less than an hour the room was a disaster again.
I could constantly yell, I could lock her up, but I got tired. Hubby wants a neat house, but doesn't get the clean concept. So between the teen and the husband I just try to stay on top of it.0 -
My 4 year old cleans up her room every night before bed.
clean your own room or your crap gets thrown in the trash
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My 4 year old cleans up her room every night before bed.
clean your own room or your crap gets thrown in the trash
How do you know my conversations with her?
Are you stalking me?0 -
My 4 year old cleans up her room every night before bed.
clean your own room or your crap gets thrown in the trash
How do you know my conversations with her?
Are you stalking me?
Hmmmm, this sounds like a good idea but probably can't institute it in an older teen/twenty something.0 -
I have a 15 y/o who changes clothes 15-20 times every single time she gets dressed. During the week, I'm somewhat lax on the picking up because she's really pretty responsible in most areas. She sets her own alarm, gets up at 5 and catches the bus at 6. She has her own routine and it works for her, my husband doesn't agree but she has good grades and stays out of trouble, it's hard to get on her too much IMO. She does her own laundry, she gets her homework done, she works out 4-6 days a week. My husband doesn't like that she takes a nap every day. She gets home, eats something, works out, takes a nap then she gets up and does her homework, packs her book bag for the next day and takes a shower. *shrug* She has ALWAYS been a night owl.
She does have to make sure her room and her bathroom are clean before she goes anywhere, has anyone over or does anything on the weekend. And by clean I don't mean picked up, I mean she has to CLEAN her own areas.0 -
I have a 15 y/o who changes clothes 15-20 times every single time she gets dressed. During the week, I'm somewhat lax on the picking up because she's really pretty responsible in most areas. She sets her own alarm, gets up at 5 and catches the bus at 6. She has her own routine and it works for her, my husband doesn't agree but she has good grades and stays out of trouble, it's hard to get on her too much IMO. She does her own laundry, she gets her homework done, she works out 4-6 days a week. My husband doesn't like that she takes a nap every day. She gets home, eats something, works out, takes a nap then she gets up and does her homework, packs her book bag for the next day and takes a shower. *shrug* She has ALWAYS been a night owl.
She does have to make sure her room and her bathroom are clean before she goes anywhere, has anyone over or does anything on the weekend. And by clean I don't mean picked up, I mean she has to CLEAN her own areas.
Sound slike you have a responsible young lady there
Great job mom! 0 -
My kids are 14,13,12,9, and twin 2 year olds. The older kids rooms are always a disaster and I gripe at them everyday to clean it, then 10 minutes after they are done cleaning it's right back to the way it was! As for the 2 year olds I clean it every night before I put them to bed0
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I'm a 20 something, and although I live on my own now, my mum sort of let it go when I was at home.
My room was my space, and as long as there was no food left out to attract bugs/whatever, and no dishes left there to be forgotten about, I could keep it how I wanted it. Eventually I started cleaning it on my own.
Outside of my room though, I was expected to help with my share of the cleaning.0 -
My 4 year old cleans up her room every night before bed.
clean your own room or your crap gets thrown in the trash
How do you know my conversations with her?
Are you stalking me?
Hmmmm, this sounds like a good idea but probably can't institute it in an older teen/twenty something.
Yes you can. My parents did this with us when we were teenagers. They wouldn't throw it away but would put it in a trashbag and then put that trashbag in the cars trunk and drive it to work with them. It included things like computer cords so we couldn't go online, video games/system/cords, tv plug, my sister's basketball (she loved sports and we would play sometimes after school) etc. It worked.0 -
Forgot to say my kids are 2.5 and 16 months. My oldest will sometimes help, sometimes do it on her own, or sometimes refuse. My youngest follows me and either tries to help or takes everything back out that I'm putting away. Don't even ask about the husband....he thinks cleaning fairies come around and do it....grrr....0
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Kid has her room with a bed, desk, clothes, and a laptop. It stays pretty clean and I make the bed every day. She has 4 dolls in that room so it's not a big deal. She also has a play room. It has an indoor trampoline, an air hockey table, 3 gaming systems and a toy chest. It gets cleaned before she leaves it everyday because anything I step on gets thrown in the trash or donated. It's been that way since she can remember
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My kids are 5 and 8 and I'm starting to learn (I'm a slow learner) in order for them to learn to clean up I have to make THEM clean up. If I clean it and gripe at them they learn nothing. So my house is slowly becoming cleaner and easier to manage as they learn I'm not the maid. With baby #3 on the way I'm sooooo thankful for this!0
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My little guy is going on 8 - he an clean his room as good as I can. It took a lot of time in the beginning- time to show him how its done...how to sort things, where it all goes etc but now he is good to go. He could probably do the laundry by himself too if I let him. We had to put in a little extra work laying the foundation to support our expectations of him, but it pays off in the end. These are all things he will need to do for himself in his life so as parents its our job to make sure he can and will do these things- clean his area, brush his teeth, etc etc. We will continue these good habits and boundaries as he grows so there isnt any surprises when hes 16 and smelly on how to take care of himself and his stinky clothes and his room.
On a side note, when I was a kid my parents never taught me how to clean my room, so it was a struggle and it was a lot harder to learn that skill later on but even a 16 yr old can learn new tricks. Just a take a little time with him/her and explain the importance of this skill in their life and get their buy-in. Sounds easier than it is but it can be done.0 -
I have a 15 y/o who changes clothes 15-20 times every single time she gets dressed. During the week, I'm somewhat lax on the picking up because she's really pretty responsible in most areas. She sets her own alarm, gets up at 5 and catches the bus at 6. She has her own routine and it works for her, my husband doesn't agree but she has good grades and stays out of trouble, it's hard to get on her too much IMO. She does her own laundry, she gets her homework done, she works out 4-6 days a week. My husband doesn't like that she takes a nap every day. She gets home, eats something, works out, takes a nap then she gets up and does her homework, packs her book bag for the next day and takes a shower. *shrug* She has ALWAYS been a night owl.
She does have to make sure her room and her bathroom are clean before she goes anywhere, has anyone over or does anything on the weekend. And by clean I don't mean picked up, I mean she has to CLEAN her own areas.
I think sounds like a great way to live by - does your teen get good grades, turn in homework, is commited to any activties outside of school and keeps up with it? If so, maybe a few discarded outfits or dresser strewn with make-up and hair products, - or in a boys case....music? video games? magazines? - is not that big a deal. How many adults do we know who don't clean up their own rooms everyday? As long as no food or dirty dishes are laying around waiting to grow a science experiment of course.
And well my pet peeve would be dirty clothes mixed with clean clothes. If that is case, they can be shown how to do their own laundry.0 -
My 5 year old picks up his toys every night before bed, and puts his clothes in the hamper. Every Saturday we work together to do the dusting and sweeping, and changing bedsheets.
My 13 year old is a bit more difficult. She's a packrat, never throws anything away, and likes to change her outfit 5 times before she leaves for school. I make her spend 2 hours every Saturday cleaning her room, and if it's not acceptable she doesn't get to go to her travel softball team practice (she hasn't missed one yet, it's a good motivator). I cut her some slack during the week because she's a straight A student, currently plays 2 sports (basketball and softball), and has a few other daily chores around the house.0 -
And for the record, my kids are only 5.5 and 2.5. If they make a huge mess in the living room or in their rooms, I do make them pick up, supervising and sometimes helping. Especially in the older one's room, because she doesn't really play in there all that much unless she has a friend over or her little brother wants to. When that happens her friends and brother drag out EVERYTHING and make such a mess. If her friend has to leave before I have a chance to make them ALL clean up, I will help out because I know she didn't make all that mess herself. But she knows to put her dirty clothes in the hamper, shoes in her shoe bin, and how to put her away her own clothes (even though I do that as part of the laundry process most of the time).
I tried a chore chart for her once, but it didn't work very well because she doesn't need to do a lot of the stuff that was on their every day. The ones she does do everyday are more of "responsibilties", like brushing teeth, dirty clothes in hamper, bring her dirty dish from meals to the sink, do her homework, don't leave shoes and socks laying in the living room, etc.0 -
Some time ago I fitted a remote switch that knocks the power off the sockets in his room and made sure the laptop battery was removed from new...
For some reason when his power got knocked off mid game with no warning, he got just as annoyed as we used to when his room was untidy.
Curtains opened, bed made, room tidy - none of the past mess an issue now .0 -
My son is almost five, and two of his three chores are to pick up all the toys and legos before he goes to his dad's house every night. It's actually working just fine for us, and I'm hoping it'll carry on as a habit as he gets older.0
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My kids are 2, 4, 6, and 8. Each older kid shares a room with one of the younger, so I will help the little ones clean up their mess. But I expect my older boys to clean their own messes in their rooms. My husband and I used to throw toys away that continually got left out. We no longer do that. Now we just let natural consequences take over. For example, 8-year-old leaves his snap circuits out, 2-year-old scatters them everywhere. Yeah, yeah, I'm a mean mom. They also sort the dirty laundry and occasionally fold and put it away. ????
Oh, and I don't buy into the notion that teen brains forget any more than I buy into the notion that my oldest forgets to do what I told him 3 minutes ago.0 -
Some time ago I fitted a remote switch that knocks the power off the sockets in his room and made sure the laptop battery was removed from new...
For some reason when his power got knocked off mid game with no warning, he got just as annoyed as we used to when his room was untidy.
Curtains opened, bed made, room tidy - none of the past mess an issue now .
I like your style.0 -
What is the weirdest/craziest thing you have found while cleaning your kids room?0
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My 11 yr old keeps his room relatively clean - there's lego's in organized piles scattered around the room but we can see and use the floor
My 9 yr old on the other hand - yeah her room is totally trashed, we clean it and within an hour its right back to where it was...my hubby dug out a path to her bed yesterday0 -
My 4 year old cleans up her room every night before bed.
clean your own room or your crap gets thrown in the trash
How do you know my conversations with her?
Are you stalking me?
Lol .. this method works. They dont want their playstation or xbox thrown in the trash or given away.. Just saying
edit: Or their keys taken away, and forced to take the bus to work (if they are older)0 -
My four stepkids are ages 7 through 15. We have a basic rule: clean up as you go. If someone has toys in the living room, they are not allowed to get anything else out until what they already had out is put away. If they have toys or clothes all over the bedroom, it needs to be cleaned up before they go to bed. We don't let it pile up or become a disaster area. We try our best to teach them to take care of their things, which includes putting them away. With that many kids, it is important to keep a grip on it!0
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I shouldn't stress too much about it, my mother's approach with us is that she refused to clean our rooms for us, and would only really make us through threats of not being allowed out etc. if they get out of hand. It worked for me, maybe not so much my brothers but then they are younger and a lot more immature.
Tidiness should not be seen as a huge deal especially with kids bedrooms, as long as the place doesn't end up filthy. It's a private area of the home, it's not like every guest you have over will casually stroll through bedrooms. If it really bothers you, try get your kids into a habit of picking up their stuff every night maybe?
I'm 20 now and live in my own house, I'm still a fairly messy person but the main way I have been influenced from my mother's approach is that the areas in which other people will see are the most important. I have quite proudly an immaculate living area and kitchen, especially considering how busy I am.0 -
I'm a 20 something, and although I live on my own now, my mum sort of let it go when I was at home.
My room was my space, and as long as there was no food left out to attract bugs/whatever, and no dishes left there to be forgotten about, I could keep it how I wanted it. Eventually I started cleaning it on my own.
Outside of my room though, I was expected to help with my share of the cleaning.
This is interesting to me. I may start a new thread asking people of this age how they feel and if they eventually; once they moved out kept up a clean place......or not.
Very thought provoking...0 -
I shouldn't stress too much about it, my mother's approach with us is that she refused to clean our rooms for us, and would only really make us through threats of not being allowed out etc. if they get out of hand. It worked for me, maybe not so much my brothers but then they are younger and a lot more immature.
Tidiness should not be seen as a huge deal especially with kids bedrooms, as long as the place doesn't end up filthy. It's a private area of the home, it's not like every guest you have over will casually stroll through bedrooms. If it really bothers you, try get your kids into a habit of picking up their stuff every night maybe?
I'm 20 now and live in my own house, I'm still a fairly messy person but the main way I have been influenced from my mother's approach is that the areas in which other people will see are the most important. I have quite proudly an immaculate living area and kitchen, especially considering how busy I am.
Here too; good to hear!0 -
I kept my room messy because it pissed my mother off.
She knew this.
I knew this.0 -
Some time ago I fitted a remote switch that knocks the power off the sockets in his room and made sure the laptop battery was removed from new...
For some reason when his power got knocked off mid game with no warning, he got just as annoyed as we used to when his room was untidy.
Curtains opened, bed made, room tidy - none of the past mess an issue now .
LOL!0
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