How should I approach this girl I am interesting?

RyanMacNet
RyanMacNet Posts: 7 Member
edited February 12 in Chit-Chat
There is this girl in my math class whom I find interesting and would like to get to know her more. But I just cannot come to approach her. The more I think about it, the more its killing me. Here is my "perfect" scenery that I guess I am waiting for to happened (which really it wont). She has a lot of exists, I don't want to approach her only for her to feel pressure to talk to me because there isn't any other way to go. I realize one thing about approach people is they need to feel comfortable. She seems to keep to herself. I am tired of glancing at her and then turning away when she realizes it but I feel the more I have done this, the more I have sorta of ruined my changes. In one occasion, it really was the perfect situation, she was coming my direction in the hall and I was coming her, what I should have done was talked to her but instead I took a left to complete avoid her... I realized this was a very stupid mistake on my par. I am not a class clown in math class, but so far, I have noticed her laughing at the little math related jokes that I said out loud (change in velocity, instructor used keys that weighted 30 pounds, threw it up and talked about how it would go up and come back down, I said, "oh man, who carries heavy keys like that? is this guy a janitor or what?", I noticed her laughing at that joke and other ones I have said)

My plan is to approach her sometime and ask her how is her other class going and how far are in the book (we originally were in two classes together but I had to drop the other)


What do you guys think of this?

"Hey my name is so and so, and I am wondering how far are you guys into the book? (some drafting class that uses a book to guide them) she knows I was in that class, because she saw me and we started at each other but I had to drop it the next day to take it in another time.

What do you ladies think about this approach?

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  • RunMyOregonBunsOff
    RunMyOregonBunsOff Posts: 862 Member
    She probably already knows you like her and if she is laughing at your jokes and not trying to avoid you, she very well might like you too. It sounds like you're over thinking it. Why don't you try "Hey my name is...would you like to grab a coffee (tea, hot chocolate...) with me sometime? The worst she can do is say no. Go get 'em tiger!
  • Kiyalynn
    Kiyalynn Posts: 128 Member
    This randomly reminded me of a College math class I took. The teacher posted our grades on the wall, and it really didn't take us long to figure out who's grades were who's. Right after that class, a guy asked me if I would help him study, because he only had a A- and I was the only one doing better than him with a A. Heh, I supposed that worked, we did talk for a while... then again nothing really came of it.

    I don't think there is anything wrong with your approach, assuming you are really interested in asking that question.

    I would also encourage you tho, if you are actually looking for a relationship and not just a friendship or a quick study session, to make that clear at the front. It may have better (or longer term) results.
    Maybe just
    "Hi my name is so and so and I am wondering if you would like to ... (go out) (get something to eat/drink)(see x movie with me) "
    No guarantee that will work, but hey, you never know if you don't try.
  • RyanMacNet
    RyanMacNet Posts: 7 Member
    I am over thinking this big time, to be honest. this feels like a crush which I thought I was over with back in HS. I usually don't have a problem talking to women. I asked my ex the first time I saw her and we dated for 2 years, but it just feels to different now. I don't usually hesitate at all and go for the kill. But just not with this girl.


    Yes, asking her to go get coffee sounds likes a good idea and its a good way of figuring out if she is a least a bit interested in me. She can either say, no, oh how about some other time? or yes. Which would narrow my options quick. We have been in that class for 4 weeks now anyway.
  • Leonidas_meets_Spartacus
    Leonidas_meets_Spartacus Posts: 6,198 Member
    There is no perfect timing, ask her soon before some one else does.
  • RyanMacNet
    RyanMacNet Posts: 7 Member

    I don't think there is anything wrong with your approach, assuming you are really interested in asking that question.

    Yes, it genuiely is something I am interesting - I dont have the book yet.. after 4 weeks.. you guys think it would be weird if I has her for her book? "Hey you mind if I borrow your book? I ll give it back when you need it , if she says yes, I can make an excuse to her her number, "oh yeah whats your number? that way I can text you and we can met up so I can give it back to you"

    I would also encourage you tho, if you are actually looking for a relationship and not just a friendship or a quick study session, to make that clear at the front. It may have better (or longer term) results.
    Maybe just
    "Hi my name is so and so and I am wondering if you would like to ... (go out) (get something to eat/drink)(see x movie with me) "
    No guarantee that will work, but hey, you never know if you don't try.

    Yes, I completely agree with this. Girls - if the guy is not your type and hes clear at the front - what is your thought of him being clear and straight to the point?
  • RyanMacNet
    RyanMacNet Posts: 7 Member
    There is no perfect timing, ask her soon before some one else does.

    You are absolutely right, I have wasted 4 week over thinking and not taking action. I hope I am not too late
  • RyanMacNet
    RyanMacNet Posts: 7 Member
    Well, today things did not go as I had anticipated... I think the girl knew what I was going to do, she left pretty quick only to walk super mega slow on her way to her class which is the same way my class is. I felt silly trying to catch up to her
  • RyanMacNet
    RyanMacNet Posts: 7 Member
    Well we met by unexpectly so I decided to talked to her and asked her out for coffee. She declined saying she was low on money , I offered to buy it, said no, still. She earlier said she was done with school and was going home. Is it safe to assume she's not interested or is dating ?
  • DJMIKEY1
    DJMIKEY1 Posts: 523 Member
    Move on.
  • Leonidas_meets_Spartacus
    Leonidas_meets_Spartacus Posts: 6,198 Member
    Move on.

    This. You are young and will get more chances and choices.
  • uconnwinsnc
    uconnwinsnc Posts: 1,054 Member
    Yeah move on from that one.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I agree with the others who said move on.

    On the off chance this girl shows interest later (which CAN happen, believe me...I've been on both sides of that situation) the ball will be in your court to reciprocate or not.

    Despite the outcome...the bonus is, you took a chance...go you!

    Honestly, even if she is not interested in seeing you outside of class, I'd imagine that she thinks more of you now for straight out asking her to coffee. It shows confidence.
  • RyanMacNet
    RyanMacNet Posts: 7 Member
    Yeah, I feel bad about it, I feel better about taking a shot the first time we talked and can get over that now. It honestly didn't feel like me asking her out (which it obviously sounded like) because I casually asked her as if I would to one of my friends. Just, "hey how ya doing? I am so so , Nice to meet ya , done with classes for today? yeah same here just gonna go get coffee, hey you wanna go get coffee? ah alright cool"


    Should I just forget this ever happened when I see her next time at class or what? A friend told me to not talk to her unless she talks to me first but I shouldn't approach her anymore, that some girls don't like persistent guys
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