tired of hearing stop losing weight before your skinny

I know what you mean. Some people were very negative about my weight-loss - calling me "stick" and hinting that I had an eating disorder when in fact I was the healthiest I'd ever been (and wasn't even in the normal weight range for my height at that stage).

I'm not sure why people say these things or how to deal with it. Perhaps knowing you are not alone may help. Having clear goals and knowing in myself all the reasons healthy weight-loss was important to me helped me to give the proverbial finger to any nay-sayers! If people are commenting you must be doing something right so don't let their comments make you second guess your goals or how much weight you want to lose.

I GET THIS.. and the bad thing is? i get it from my friends who are like 95 pounds! One in particular.. She even tells me "I would kill to find the weight you lost!" REALLY? What the heck? You are super tiny & you are telling me that *I* look sick?? Telling me you WANT the fat I fought so hard to lose! BTICH!

*sigh* Why cant people just be HAPPY for us & the hard work we put in? *smh* I just dont get it??

I think because people are used to seeing someone very overweight, when they are only a bit overweight, they look very thin. But to a stranger, or your doctor, they don't think so. There may also be an element of jealousy. Are the people telling you to stop perhaps a little overweight? They may be threatened that you will be/are slimmer than them. Not in a nasty way, it is probably unconcious

To be honest I got this when I lost my weight and when I look back I was looking quite 'thin' despite being the same weight I am now. Once I added some muscle I looked less 'thin' despite being the same weight, I didn't see it at the time but I do now. I think when it's just weight loss and steady state cardio the face can look 'thin' despite us not being happy with the rest, I also think it doesn't help if you haven't updated your wardrobe, I got less comments once I had new better fitting clothes, when they look like they are hanging off us then people tend to comment more....... just my experience and 2c

I think because people are used to seeing someone very overweight, when they are only a bit overweight, they look very thin. But to a stranger, or your doctor, they don't think so.

This is a very good point

I've gotten it a few times now too, but I'm in maintenance now and it's just my body continuing to change shape (which I've read can happen for up to a year after you stop actively trying to lose weight). I'm also walking and doing a bit of running now, and my legs are looking leaner-not weight loss related, but noticeably different so people have commented on how thin my legs are now. My mil actually gasped a few weeks back, when I wore shorts. I was taken back by her response, but then she explained that she hadn't seen me wear shorts EVER, in the 14+ years that we've known each other. After thinking about this I realized she was right! I haven't worn shorts as an adult, because I've always been self conscious about my legs (even when I was thin back in the day, I was very pear shaped. Then after the kids started coming I developed really bad varicose veins in my legs, which I was really self-conscious about). I've realized that my whole attitude is changing about my body-I'm ok wearing shorts and a two piece swim suit now, instead of feeling like I need to cover everything up. This is really throwing people off I think, hence the knee jerk comments. I don't take them personally because I know I look good, I feel great, and I'm still at a healthy bmi :drinker:

I feel your pain brother, every week my mom tells me I'm wasting away. :huh: I don't get it, I look great compared to last year, but wasting away? :laugh:

Just let it roll off brother, It's just an awkward way of giving you some support.

Rigger