I am tired of being the girl with the pretty face.

I am also tired of being the girl with great smile... its a nice compliment but id rather be the hot girl! lol. Anyway i have about 120 lbs total to lose. i started at 275 lbs and I have lost 5 lbs so far. I just started Jillian Michael's 30 day shred and i'm on my 4th day of that. Good Luck with your Journey Danielle!

Hi Danielle, you have made a great first step. I also have a significant amount to lose. I try to hold my active friends accountable, so feel free to add me if you like.

I'm in this for the long haul (slowly and steady wins the race), and I hope you are too. :flowerforyou:

Hi Danielle feel free to add me also..I have a long journey ahead but we can do it!!

You CAN do it!!

Hi Danielle!

At least you've still got a pretty face! My face doesn't seem to be doing it anymore for me, so now I really need to get it together (but more for my health). That's why I'm determined this time to lose the weight. I have a very long way to go, but I am convinced I can do it. You can too! Best of luck!

I'm sure she meant being "the girl with the pretty fac." as in the snarky thing people like to say to the overweight so they can a) be mean without sounding mean or 2) express to you their regret that you are wasting that pretty face by being overweight. It's just more subtle than telling someone they "have a voice for radio."

I am going to paraphrase something from AA, "You can't heal with secrets in the closet." There is a reason why people like me and you go from fat to obese or worse. There is a reason why we get on the diet roller coaster and nothing seems to work. Maybe it is a food addiction, I know I love to get Food Drunk. Maybe it is a coping mechanism. Only you can really know this, which goes back to the adage Know Thyself. We have lost ourselves, used food as some sort of crutch and fat gain is the result.

“No one is free who has not obtained the empire of himself. No man is free who cannot command himself.”
― Pythagoras

All that said, I think you picked one AWESOME place to start on the right track. Do you know why you use food as a crutch. If you don't address it, you will get back on the roller coaster once again. I know I had to address it and I am still trying to deal with it. Being sick and tired of being sick and tired can produce motivation or apathy. I am happy to see you have chosen the former. While I can't be there in person to help you along, I would be more than happy to a voice of support and reason in the path you have started.

Could be worse..
I won't have a 'pretty face' even if I lose weight.

Hi Danielle,
Reading your post hit me,at a party with old friend of my husband a few months ago and one of there moms who I was talking with that night sad to me really no joke you have such a beautiful face I joked. And said you mean my body is not she responded.we all can lose some wt.i am so feeling you I am at my highest wt 300 at 43yrs young.we can do this together ????just add me????

Hi!! My name is Danielle and I am from NJ. I have been overweight my whole life. Gaining more and more each year. I am so sick of it. I lose some and gain more. I am starting to get more active and I put my fitbit back on to keep me accountable for. I am so close to 400 pounds and its FREAKING ME OUT!!!

I refuse to let myself get to the 400 mark because then it will go higher and higher. I joined a gym and I enjoy working out when I do go... its just getting there. I got a bunch of walking dvds to help me on days that I cant get to the gym. The weather here has been so crappy. I am thinking the dvds will help me and tracking everything.

I need some friends to help me stay accountable for. I want to get to 350 before May.

I notice your post focused on exercise, without mentioning food. It's very difficult to exercise away too many calories. It is much simpler to reduce the number of calories you take in each day. Exercise is good for you of course, for many reasons, but you will find it to be only a small part of the weight loss equation. I had a summer where I did 3 hours of intense power yoga 5 days a week, and then did 2 hours of serious uphill hiking 3 days a week...and I still put on weight because I ate too much.

I started close to 300 pounds, and now I'm under 200... You can do it. The first step is to consistently log your food and try to stay within your goal (but not too far under).

friend request sent your way girl...anyone else please feel free to add me

Your topic line hit home for me.... I was always the sister that was told "you have a pretty face, or nice skin or nice hair". All compliments from the neck up! My sisters were told they were beautiful or gorgeous. I was always the overweight one and I totally get it.

I am so excited for you to start this journey. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!! I am totally new to this website and I wish I had had this 3 years ago when I started my journey but glad to be here now.

Please friend me if you like.. I would love to follow and support your progress!

Couple things to remember on your journey
1. You will inevitably screw up, don't wait until the next day to restart, start right after the screw up.
2. You can exercise all you like but if you consume more than you burn those pretty muscles will still be covered up, so make sure you have the calorie deficit and an eating plan to go along with your exercising one.
3. Even if once in a while you have a day where you eat enough calories only to maintain you still did alright and are making progress, slow but steady is going to be your best bet.

Good Luck to you!!