most embarrassing/humiliating fat moment
buckeyebabe
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Ok...so we all have one, especially if you are trying to lose the amount of weight I am. I thought it would be fun to post our experiences. I know it's not fun to talk about but maybe laughing at my story will make you all feel better!! Here it goes...
When I was dating my husband in college (about 18 years ago) my bestfriend and I got this bright idea!! My husband worked the night shift and so he always left his house for work around 10 PM. My friend and I decided to "moon" him as he was driving out of the neighborhood. Even better...we thought we'd write HIYA on our rearends! So with an eyeliner pencil H I was written on my cheeks while my girlfriend put Y A on her cheeks. We positioned ourselves so that his headlights would be sure to hit us as he left. Even brighter of an idea was having our other girlfriend take a picture of us in action as his lights struck our rearends.
A few weeks later my family was having a family reunion and my mother had taken all these pictures to the reunion without me realizing that she had also developed my roll and brought it with us. My Great Grandmother found the picture and yelled out "Who's big butt is this that has HI written on it?" No one knew what she was talking about and so everyone got quiet but didn't answer so she repeated it "Who has the big butt with the word Hi written on it?" Again nothing so she walked the picture around and asked everyone if that was their big butt. Now, should I have denied it ...yes, but I knew one of my bratty cousins would just go to the envelope and figure out who it was by the family name on the envelope so I fessed up. When she got to me I said "Grandma it's mine could you just let it go" she laughed out loud and said "let it go, I wouldn't have big enough hands to grab on to it"! All my family laughed and came rushing up to view the picture. From that moment on I was nicknamed "The Big Mooner".
When I was dating my husband in college (about 18 years ago) my bestfriend and I got this bright idea!! My husband worked the night shift and so he always left his house for work around 10 PM. My friend and I decided to "moon" him as he was driving out of the neighborhood. Even better...we thought we'd write HIYA on our rearends! So with an eyeliner pencil H I was written on my cheeks while my girlfriend put Y A on her cheeks. We positioned ourselves so that his headlights would be sure to hit us as he left. Even brighter of an idea was having our other girlfriend take a picture of us in action as his lights struck our rearends.
A few weeks later my family was having a family reunion and my mother had taken all these pictures to the reunion without me realizing that she had also developed my roll and brought it with us. My Great Grandmother found the picture and yelled out "Who's big butt is this that has HI written on it?" No one knew what she was talking about and so everyone got quiet but didn't answer so she repeated it "Who has the big butt with the word Hi written on it?" Again nothing so she walked the picture around and asked everyone if that was their big butt. Now, should I have denied it ...yes, but I knew one of my bratty cousins would just go to the envelope and figure out who it was by the family name on the envelope so I fessed up. When she got to me I said "Grandma it's mine could you just let it go" she laughed out loud and said "let it go, I wouldn't have big enough hands to grab on to it"! All my family laughed and came rushing up to view the picture. From that moment on I was nicknamed "The Big Mooner".
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Ok...so we all have one, especially if you are trying to lose the amount of weight I am. I thought it would be fun to post our experiences. I know it's not fun to talk about but maybe laughing at my story will make you all feel better!! Here it goes...
When I was dating my husband in college (about 18 years ago) my bestfriend and I got this bright idea!! My husband worked the night shift and so he always left his house for work around 10 PM. My friend and I decided to "moon" him as he was driving out of the neighborhood. Even better...we thought we'd write HIYA on our rearends! So with an eyeliner pencil H I was written on my cheeks while my girlfriend put Y A on her cheeks. We positioned ourselves so that his headlights would be sure to hit us as he left. Even brighter of an idea was having our other girlfriend take a picture of us in action as his lights struck our rearends.
A few weeks later my family was having a family reunion and my mother had taken all these pictures to the reunion without me realizing that she had also developed my roll and brought it with us. My Great Grandmother found the picture and yelled out "Who's big butt is this that has HI written on it?" No one knew what she was talking about and so everyone got quiet but didn't answer so she repeated it "Who has the big butt with the word Hi written on it?" Again nothing so she walked the picture around and asked everyone if that was their big butt. Now, should I have denied it ...yes, but I knew one of my bratty cousins would just go to the envelope and figure out who it was by the family name on the envelope so I fessed up. When she got to me I said "Grandma it's mine could you just let it go" she laughed out loud and said "let it go, I wouldn't have big enough hands to grab on to it"! All my family laughed and came rushing up to view the picture. From that moment on I was nicknamed "The Big Mooner".0 -
ok...someone else has to take a turn and tell there story!0
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I won't get into specifics, suffice to say it involved my ample buttocks and a kilt that was WAY WAY WAY too small. :blushing:0
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I won't get into specifics, suffice to say it involved my ample buttocks and a kilt that was WAY WAY WAY too small. :blushing:
Oh goodness!0 -
a kit that was way to small....oh my!0
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So I have quite a few, but family reunions got me thinking....
I was at a big family BBQ at some point during my early teens. There was swimming so my self confidence was already a little down from its usual place. I was sitting around talking with my family, enjoying myself and not bothering anyone. All of a sudden, the little metal folding chair that I had been sitting on gave way and sent me sprawling all over the floor. I took off real fast (well, as fast as a fat girl can!) and got out of there. I was around long enough to hear the roars of laughter, though. Needless to say, I broke into tears instantly, which only added to the embarassment.
I will never again sit on an old looking chair...0 -
Ok, about two weeks ago I was getting my three year old ready for bed and it just so happens she was walking behind me. She stops for a minute and I turn around and ask " what's wrong?" She says "Mommy your booty's big!"
Out of the mouths of babes....
No, that's not the end of the story. The next morning when I woke her up we were headed to the bathroom once again to get cleaned up and she's walking behind me. She says then "Mommy your booty's BIGGER!" So that's the day I found MFP and the rest is history! HA!0 -
Mine was probably last August, right before starting my journey towards a healthier Tam.......and we were flying and I was SO uncomfortable in the seat AND the seatbelt barely fit me. It was pulled so tight! I probably should have gotten an extender, but I refused! I was like HECK NO!!! So, I flew uncomfortable for several hours instead...That was horrible!!
Now, over 100 lbs down, we flew about a month ago and I was SOOOOOOOOOOO comfy and had tons of room to spare on the seatbelt. Its the small things that really make you realize how unhealthy you are or were.
Good luck all!! Love to you!!!!
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I was getting my daughter ready in the morning, fixing her hair, brushing her teeth, etc. She looks down at my stomach and says "Mommy's having a baby!" And she was so excited!!
Then of course, my husband and older son heard it, and they had a good laugh at my expense. What's even worse??? I was no where near as big as I have been in the past!!!:grumble: Oh well, there's a little bit of truth in everything and I do still have a lovely little pooch from having two C-sections! BUT-I've lost a few pounds and some inches since then and I've asked her if it looks like mommy is still going to have a baby and she says not anymore...
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Mine was last winter when my best friend and her other bridesmaid and I went to the dress shop to order our dresses for her wedding. My best friend is really tiny, so I think her dress was around a size 6 (regular it's like a 0 or 2 but formal dresses sizes run huge). Her friend is pretty small too, around a 6 or 8 in regular clothes but she was a 12 in the dress (which SHE was probably embarrassed by but come on, 12 is my normal size). So they get to me and the lady says she recommends a 24! OK I was bracing myself for an obscene number since I know how formal dresses are, but 24!!!!! I was so humiliated, like what do they have to go get a tent to get the material from? Then to add insult to injury she informs me that for that size, it will be an extra $50. My friend said she would pay that for me so me and the other girl would be paying the same amount, which was very nice of her, but by that point I felt like the hits just kept on coming.
Though it was pretty satisfying to see that when my dress came in it was quite big on me to begin with, plus since I have been losing weight it is even bigger and will have to be taken in a lot. And the other bridesmaid who needed the size 12.....well, is it horribly wrong of me to enjoy a teeny bit that I heard her dress is a little tight and they had trouble zipping it?:bigsmile:1 -
Mine was probably last August, right before starting my journey towards a healthier Tam.......and we were flying and I was SO uncomfortable in the seat AND the seatbelt barely fit me. It was pulled so tight! I probably should have gotten an extender, but I refused! I was like HECK NO!!! So, I flew uncomfortable for several hours instead...That was horrible!!
Now, over 100 lbs down, we flew about a month ago and I was SOOOOOOOOOOO comfy and had tons of room to spare on the seatbelt. Its the small things that really make you realize how unhealthy you are or were.
Good luck all!! Love to you!!!!
-Tam
That is actually what made me realize I DO need to lose this weight. I flew the first week of June, and started (well, restarted) MFP the end of June. It was horrible, I had the belt ALL the way to the end and I barely got it to fit.0 -
Gosh... what are we goin to do? I guess keep loggin calories huh? lol
Well I was gettin ready for NYE 07 into 08 and I was wearin a halter top and some jeans. So I had to wear a strapless bra. I went to Lane Bryant (my fav store ever) and the lady had the nerve to tell me that I had to get a 46F! I was in shock that my boobs and such had gotten so big. I mean I was just in the bra too. All nite everyone called me TTs (obvious reasons) cause that's all you could see when you looked at me. I was just breasts walking around. I mean don't get me wrong, I like my girls, but that's to much of girls to be liking! So I knew that I had to change my life around. I didn't start right in Jan, but I did finally make the decision to get down to what I was in HS a pretty perky 38DD... Ohhh those were the days! :laugh:0 -
Gosh... what are we goin to do? I guess keep loggin calories huh? lol
Well I was gettin ready for NYE 07 into 08 and I was wearin a halter top and some jeans. So I had to wear a strapless bra. I went to Lane Bryant (my fav store ever) and the lady had the nerve to tell me that I had to get a 46F! I was in shock that my boobs and such had gotten so big. I mean I was just in the bra too. All nite everyone called me TTs (obvious reasons) cause that's all you could see when you looked at me. I was just breasts walking around. I mean don't get me wrong, I like my girls, but that's to much of girls to be liking! So I knew that I had to change my life around. I didn't start right in Jan, but I did finally make the decision to get down to what I was in HS a pretty perky 38DD... Ohhh those were the days! :laugh:
Don't feel bad. I used to work at LB and got trained in bra fitting. Part of the training was to have my boss measure me to show me how to do it. I normally wear about a 38D or something like that... they had me in like a 65C. I don't remember exactly but it was a totally rediculous number. No two measurings come out alike, unless they sales person really knew what they were doing I wouldn't trust it at all!0 -
Last summer I was in Marshalls with the family and I was waiting in line to pay and a woman was next to me picking up luggage. Then she looked at me and said "Do you think these are heavy? (pause) oh, wait, you're pregnant, never mind, don't worry about it!"
My sons looked at me (and my older new better then to say anything at the moment, I just shook my head :noway: as if to say, shhhh, I know, but don't say anything..) and we walked out and he said "Mom! that lady said you were pregnant?!" :explode: :explode:
Yeah Jack, thanks, I'm aware of it. My husband was oblivious to the whole thing and said "Did you say anything to her?" I said "NO!" I just shrugged it off. I felt like crap! And vowed never to wear that shirt again!!! (empire waist)
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Last summer I was in Marshalls with the family and I was waiting in line to pay and a woman was next to me picking up luggage. Then she looked at me and said "Do you think these are heavy? (pause) oh, wait, you're pregnant, never mind, don't worry about it!"
My sons looked at me (and my older new better then to say anything at the moment, I just shook my head :noway: as if to say, shhhh, I know, but don't say anything..) and we walked out and he said "Mom! that lady said you were pregnant?!" :explode: :explode:
Yeah Jack, thanks, I'm aware of it. My husband was oblivious to the whole thing and said "Did you say anything to her?" I said "NO!" I just shrugged it off. I felt like crap! And vowed never to wear that shirt again!!! (empire waist)
damn those empire waist shirts, damn them!!:grumble: :grumble: :sad: :sad:
Well you don't look pregnant now! Your pic of you in that brown dress is to die for! You look GREAT! That dress is beautiful! Some people just don't know. You should never "assume" if someones pregs or not. None of their damn buisness!0 -
Mine was quite a few years back. I was at LB, or a similiar store and this little girl was shopping with her mother. The little girl kept staring, at me making me feel a little uncomfortable, so I smiled at her. At that moment she turned to her mom and asked her "Mommy, why is that lady so fat?"
I could of died right there.0 -
I remember once I went to a local amusement park, waited in line for almost an hour for the newest coolest roller coaster. When I finally got up to get on the attendent looked at me and kinda shook his head, I was like 'What?' and he said,
'This ride is generally pretty uncomfortable for those of a larger girth.'
I was like 'whatever.'
I got on and just barely, I mean *BARELY* was able to get the harness to lock into the first notch. He came over and kinda snickered, checked the harness and said,
'Well, you *did* get in it didn't you?'
I answered back, 'Yep, just like your momma's pants.'
He kinda gave me a go to hell look and moved on.
Thing is though, I *was* uncomfortable, plus I felt like that notch was going to give way any second. A few years later I got on the same ride and it rocked. *sigh*0 -
i've had alot of moments, but i can't really remember any specific details ... most notably like the one J mentioned above, and i still fret about that
but three main things stick out in my mind
1) i've always been the same size as my mum and so we could share clothes (though sometimes there'd be a problem because she's a lot shorter than me) and she recently lost alot of weight (i reckon due to healthy problems that she wont admit to but she swears she's fine and its just due to working alot and eating healthier) and she had all these clothes that she couldnt fit into any more because they were too big for her, so she gave them to me
2) back in april, just after starting mfp (like two weeks) i went shopping with my two sisters, and they're both skinner than me, and though i had fun i was really rembarrsed with the sizes of the clothes i had to grab - i was grabbing size 16,18 and 20s where as they were grabbing size 10 and 12s - my sister even complained about one place because it had a thing in size 14 that didnt quite fit her
plus we went to alot of shops that i couldnt even fit into any of the clothes because they didnt go up high enough for me
but the be all and end all of, the major thing that made me realise i had to change was...
3) my mother telling me a conversation that she had with my brother (who i absolutely idolise and would do anything for) where Ryan said i looked fat and that i seemed to have put on weight and he was worried about my health (mainly due to my PCOS, which is what he calls cancer... can;t remember why though), but he didnt want to talk to me about because he didnt want to upset me and make me think he was embarrassed to be seen with me in public
and my mum told me about this when i was home at the start of the year and i just broke down crying so bad, hell i even have tears in my eyes writing this
and the worst part is - he hasn't even noticed i've lost weight, or at least he hasn't said anything to me, where as my sister and my friends have and my sister, the first thing she says to me each time she sees me "wow lauren you look good"
i hate males :grumble: they're so complicated0 -
i've had alot of moments, but i can't really remember any specific details ... most notably like the one J mentioned above, and i still fret about that
but three main things stick out in my mind
1) i've always been the same size as my mum and so we could share clothes (though sometimes there'd be a problem because she's a lot shorter than me) and she recently lost alot of weight (i reckon due to healthy problems that she wont admit to but she swears she's fine and its just due to working alot and eating healthier) and she had all these clothes that she couldnt fit into any more because they were too big for her, so she gave them to me
2) back in april, just after starting mfp (like two weeks) i went shopping with my two sisters, and they're both skinner than me, and though i had fun i was really rembarrsed with the sizes of the clothes i had to grab - i was grabbing size 16,18 and 20s where as they were grabbing size 10 and 12s - my sister even complained about one place because it had a thing in size 14 that didnt quite fit her
plus we went to alot of shops that i couldnt even fit into any of the clothes because they didnt go up high enough for me
but the be all and end all of, the major thing that made me realise i had to change was...
3) my mother telling me a conversation that she had with my brother (who i absolutely idolise and would do anything for) where Ryan said i looked fat and that i seemed to have put on weight and he was worried about my health (mainly due to my PCOS, which is what he calls cancer... can;t remember why though), but he didnt want to talk to me about because he didnt want to upset me and make me think he was embarrassed to be seen with me in public
and my mum told me about this when i was home at the start of the year and i just broke down crying so bad, hell i even have tears in my eyes writing this
and the worst part is - he hasn't even noticed i've lost weight, or at least he hasn't said anything to me, where as my sister and my friends have and my sister, the first thing she says to me each time she sees me "wow lauren you look good"
i hate males :grumble: they're so complicated
Actually Markie, it's because we're so freakin simple.0 -
Actually Markie, it's because we're so freakin simple.
:laugh: i know but either way its highly annoying
for us more complicated creatures0 -
Actually Markie, it's because we're so freakin simple.
:laugh: i know but either way its highly annoying
for us more complicated creatures
Haha, I don't disagree in the least. :bigsmile:0 -
I really enjoyed reading all these stories. It's amazing how some stories can really stick with you and change your mind about who you are and what you want to be. I think even the humiliating moments are great moments if they make us change for the better. We just have to move on from the negative feeling we get in our gut when we remember these stories and think about the positive change it's created in us. Good luck to all of you with your weight loss journey. I wish you the best!0
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A few weeks ago I flew down to see my boyfriend who was staying with his family. I told his Mum I'd lost half a stone and she says "Yeah another stone and you'll be slim." I could have cried!0
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Okay well the only thing that sticks out in my mind is after I had my 6th child....who is in the photo to the left....that's my oldest daughter with him.....
I joined a gym ( a women ONLY gym) because it seemed extra hard to get the weight off this time around....I guess I was 30 lbs overweight.....the first embarassing moment (it actually pissed me off more than embarrassed me)...was when the manager who was signing me up (a former fatty who was still way bigger than I was) was staring/gazing at me....then she apologized and said, "oh I was just thinking what a beautiful face you have and imagining what you would look like thin."..... like it took every brain cell she had to 'imagine' that.
A few weeks later at the gym an older woman came up to me and asked when my baby was due. (I don't care HOW pregnant a woman may look, I NEVER say anything unless she brings the subject up--don't we ALL know that basic rule???) I told her I JUST had my baby (okay so maybe 'just' really meant 6 months ago) and am trying to lose my weight. How do people get the nerve?0 -
After having my second baby, and going through the usual post partum depression I decided to put on a pretty sundress and go out visiting with my family, we stopped at my brother in laws and his son asked if I was pregnant again.
After having my third child I ran into an old friend, while shopping for diapers and she looks me over and says " Oh you haven't had the baby yet?"
Finally, this last Saturday night, I'm at my cousin's wedding, and the bride's sister comes over to me, rubs my belly and says " Oh my, you look awesome?" Again insinuating (I'm assuming) that I'm pregnant. Yeah, that's why I drank a 26er of vodka!!!
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If I had to pinpoint that "one moment" (and trust me there are several to choose from)--it would date back to a few years ago when I felt I was in pretty good shape. During this time, I had traveled with a college football team to a road game. During the game I had a chance to meet one of the player's fathers. The experience was pretty cool other than during the conversation I made the mistake of referring to the guy's kid as Chris instead of Curtis.
A few days later I was on a message board that provided coverage on the team and I stumble across a post about the player who I alluded to above. In this post someone states that during the same game I was at he met the player's dad. I'm thinking wow--I met the dad during the same game. After the first few sentences where I dawn that I must have been pretty close to this poster--he states that he saw some "really chunky" fan call the guy's kid Chris instead of Curtis. At this moment it dawned on me that he was talking about me. It was really disturbing to realize that I was perceived as "chunky". From that moment on I literally felt like my self-esteem dropped and I believed I was chunky. I stopped trying as hard and literally gained forty lbs.0 -
My personal embarrassment issue was also related to airline seats. We were flying home from a cruise vacation and, while I had no issue on the flight out, on the flight back I could not seem to get the belt to reach. While I struggled my family and friends were giving me a hard time and I was pissed/ashamed. I eventually got it to "click" but I was very uncomfortable. A later business flight confirmed this was not a fluke as I required an extender to be comfortable. I have since refused to fly and it's starting to impact my career; looking forward to a day when this is no longer an issue.
While I didn't start a diet that day, that was the low point for me; the issue that broke through all the lies I was telling myself to make it "alright". Another 10 pounds and this will be a non-issue.0 -
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It wasn't too bad, but I took the kids to the play area/mall when my youngest was just born
I met another mom who commented (since both of our kids were small...we had 2 close in age and they were such high energy..etc)
on how WE could be THIS FAT when we were such busy SAHM...you would think the kids would keep us skinny...etc etc
There were a ton of other mom's and she kept going on and on about both of us being FAT...
I wanted to shot her as I was in denial and didn't consider myself 'fat'..thank-you
Of course I felt awful after I left.....
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My most humiliating fat moment was about 6 months ago. I hadn't seen my fraternal grandparents in almost a year and my parents were just beginning to separate. Now, I've never been really "close" to them (unfortunately) but we do have a loving relationship. Anyway, the minute they walk in the door my grandpa says, "Well, you look more like your mom! Um... not that way...in your face." Whatever, I know he was referrring to my weight!! :mad: Last time I saw them I was about 15 lbs lighter. And the year before that, another 15 lbs lighter, which makes my weight gain more noticeable. My mom was always small, until she had my younger brother through a c-section, which tore her abdominal muscles in the process(apparantly it's been proven). She's about 5'3" and about 180lb( I think). It was an obvious jab at not just me, but also my mom! :explode: :explode: :explode: They'd never gotten along, so I don't think I "read into" this at all. Yep, that made me feel like crap.
I guess sometimes it takes someone else to make you realize something so obvious.......thanks grandpa....:grumble:0
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