On having a "boyish" shape;

Dedshot
Dedshot Posts: 145
edited February 14 in Chit-Chat
Some of us ladies just aren't lucky enough to have lovely curves! Myself included. I never developed hips and my body is quite boyish. My fat is distributed into my thighs and tummy rather than hips or chest.

Any other girls with small frames like this? How do you stay positive with all the images in our media currently of beautiful, curvy women? I have been finding it difficult to enjoy my body lately.

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  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
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  • Dedshot
    Dedshot Posts: 145
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    That's horrible, I'm really sorry to hear that. My shape is due to my genetics, simply. My mother and I look like twins nearly.
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    i learned not to worry about it because there are plenty of admirers of our shape out there. they're just not in the majority so it's harder to pick up on. and there are plenty of admirers of any healthy shape, too. i like my shape. i have small boobs, no hips and no waist, but i have had plenty of admirers just the same. it's just not that big of deal, in my experience. what may become a big deal is all the groupthink surrounding body image and body shape, all the "real women have curves" bs. don't fall victim to groupthink. rock what you got. i do.
  • Dedshot
    Dedshot Posts: 145
    i learned not to worry about it because there are plenty of admirers of our shape out there. they're just not in the majority so it's harder to pick up on. and there are plenty of admirers of any healthy shape, too. i like my shape. i have small boobs, no hips and no waist, but i have had plenty of admirers just the same. it's just not that big of deal, in my experience. what may become a big deal is all the groupthink surrounding body image and body shape, all the "real women have curves" bs. don't fall victim to groupthink. rock what you got. i do.

    I think I may save this to read later when I feel down. Thank you :)
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    The best thing about your bodytype and don't you EVER let anyone tell you otherwise.. No matter WHAT you wear, you will look classy in it.
    Gravity won't hit you as hard.
    You'll get to enjoy your skin being tighter around problem areas longer.

    Rejoice.

    I tell my sister this all the time.

    EDIT: And I'm sure there are some meany pants out here that will find pics to "prove me otherwise", just ignore all that jazz >.<
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member
    i learned not to worry about it because there are plenty of admirers of our shape out there. they're just not in the majority so it's harder to pick up on. and there are plenty of admirers of any healthy shape, too. i like my shape. i have small boobs, no hips and no waist, but i have had plenty of admirers just the same. it's just not that big of deal, in my experience. what may become a big deal is all the groupthink surrounding body image and body shape, all the "real women have curves" bs. don't fall victim to groupthink. rock what you got. i do.


    This is the most sensical thing I've read on here in a long time. Well said.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    The best thing about your bodytype and don't you EVER let anyone tell you otherwise.. No matter WHAT you wear, you will look classy in it.
    Gravity won't hit you as hard.
    You'll get to enjoy your skin being tighter around problem areas longer.

    Rejoice.

    I tell my sister this all the time.

    EDIT: And I'm sure there are some meany pants out here that will find pics to "prove me otherwise", just ignore all that jazz >.<

    ^ This. You also are guaranteed to find guys who will like your shape because we all certainly do not agree on "the best" woman's figure.
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    Here's another thing, no one is 100% happy with their body shape, We all wish something was a little better, bigger hips, smaller hips, flatter stomach, longer legs, thinner thighs, etc.

    Make the most of what you have, there's no good shape/bad shape.
  • n_unocero
    n_unocero Posts: 445 Member
    I think we just want what we can't have. I would love to get rid of my hips and thighs! lol. but I'm learning to embrace what God gave me. I know I'm never gonna have a "boyish" shape, so I'm just trying to work with what I have and become a better version of myself. :)
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    This is the most sensical thing I've read on here in a long time. Well said.


    TYVM :flowerforyou:

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  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    No matter WHAT you wear, you will look classy in it. Gravity won't hit you as hard.
    You'll get to enjoy your skin being tighter around problem areas longer.

    and TYVM :flowerforyou: i am going to save this one for my future reference. :happy:
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    luckily a fantastic butt can be built in the weight room and you dont have to "maybelline" it.

    weighted post parallel squats, deadlifts, hip bridges, sinle leg squats, etc. just check out the book strong curves by brett contreras
  • ModernNerd
    ModernNerd Posts: 336 Member
    I think it comes down to changing your approach to how you view your body. Instead of focusing on what you don't have, find what you do! It wasn't til college that *poof* I got hips and started running into counter tops (take it from me, hips ain't all what they're cracked up to be), but in high school I chose to focus on what I DID like about my body. I liked having dark hair or being so fair skinned or having green eyes or blahblahblah eventually you realize there are a lot of bangin' things about your body. Cheer up buttercup, I know it's hard but you've got one life to live and one body to live it in. Enjoy it :flowerforyou:
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    The best thing about your bodytype and don't you EVER let anyone tell you otherwise.. No matter WHAT you wear, you will look classy in it.
    Gravity won't hit you as hard.
    You'll get to enjoy your skin being tighter around problem areas longer.

    Rejoice.

    I tell my sister this all the time.

    EDIT: And I'm sure there are some meany pants out here that will find pics to "prove me otherwise", just ignore all that jazz >.<

    Sin... for the win!!!!

    I have this body type too. Like others said, I just want to be a better version of me.

    Cameron Diaz, Reese Witherspoon and Gwen Stephani all rock our figure type. And look at the guys they've landed!
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
    Are you a woman?

    Congratulations, you have a woman's body.
  • creativerick
    creativerick Posts: 270 Member
    I have wide hips, which is considered girly, but plenty of women like it.

    Best version of yourself means best of what God gave you.
  • EHisCDN
    EHisCDN Posts: 480 Member
    I have a "boy" body. Meh, what are you gunna do about it? Might as well save myself the grief and accept myself for what I am (I realize this is easier said than done for some people but that's how I choose to look at things).
  • KrazyDaizy
    KrazyDaizy Posts: 815 Member
    Some of us ladies just aren't lucky enough to have lovely curves! Myself included. I never developed hips and my body is quite boyish. My fat is distributed into my thighs and tummy rather than hips or chest.

    Any other girls with small frames like this? How do you stay positive with all the images in our media currently of beautiful, curvy women? I have been finding it difficult to enjoy my body lately.
    Enjoy what you were given and play up your great features. Even us curvy girls have many problem areas we have to cover or work on to make us feel better about ourselves. There are many days I wish I had a different figure.

    I'm sure you are beautiful just the way you are...remember, focus on all the good aspects of your body (we all have to try to say this to ourselves daily no matter what shape).
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