Have you ever felt like a misfit?

I feel this way ALL the time. However, I also feel like I am the only one who can change the way I feel like people think of me. Just because we think they are thinking that (i think that people stare and say mean things because I used to be like that towards other people bigger than me but do not anymore) doesn't mean that they actually are. I used to feel like this when I went to the gym...like everyone was staring at the fat girl that doesn't know how to use the machines BUT I realized, and especially today, that they do not care if I am 100 lbs or 800 lbs because learning is the first step. Use those feelings to keep you fueled to make your life better and make better changes

Feeling like a misfit was the main thing that made me decide to lose weight. I remember walking into a crowded lunchroom at work and feeling like I "offended" people just being there. Almost everyone at my work is thin so I was pretty much the only fat person in the room.

But hey, it got me on the right track for losing weight. Just use your experience as motivation. Won't it feel good to be able to walk around and just strut your stuff?

Sort of tends to go hand in hand with having Asperger's Syndrome, so yes, lifelong misfit here.

Have I ever felt like a misfit? Yes. Every single day for as long as I can remember. Every. Single. Day.

I was always singled out for something or another growing up. I was the smart kid, I was the red-haired kid. I was the kid that never spoke up, but was always watching and paying attention. I was the kid who was always serious. I was the nerd. After puberty, I was the kid with the boobs. And I was still the nerd. And then I was the runaway. Now I'm allegedly an adult, and I'm the fat lady (though I'm fixing that one). Life experience has also left me the assertive one. The extrovert. The alpha female. The one who finds humor in everything. Still the nerd, though. Still the smart one. The organized one. The practical one. The unemotional one.
Worse, I didn't and don't like the things that other people like. I barely watch TV (though there are a handful of things I enjoy). I find ketchup to be one of the most disgusting things mankind has foisted upon the world. I neither have nor want kids. I don't like chocolate. I hate driving. I hate the color yellow (meh, we all have our quirks). I loathe romantic comedies.
I like things that other people don't. I read. All the time. I like math. I love museums. I like to take the bus. I don't mind shoveling snow. I like to work. It gets worse, so I'll stop here... :laugh:

But yes, this has made me painfully, cripplingly, excruciatingly self-conscious. About everything. I have minimal self-esteem, despite long since having to learn to be sure of myself. I do what I can to embrace the fact that I stand out, have always stood out, but that's a defense mechanism as much as anything, even if it's very much a part of my personality after all this time. But the weight loss is helping, mostly (minus those weird shapes one gets on the way down!), and that's a start. Doesn't help that I've been in a bad place in life for too, too long. One that I had no control over, but have nonetheless managed to get almost fixed.

So, long story short (and that *was* short, trust me, lol). Yes. I have felt like a misfit.

But I don't have a problem with being a misfit, and I've long since decided it's preferable to (and infinitely easier than!) the alternative, anyway.

Misfits unite! :drinker:

It doesn't end when your thinner either. People have no problems making comments like "you're so thin you need to eat more, " why won't you eat the donuts, brownies, and pie in the break roon you can afford to eat it. " Then if you have one it's "have more look at you we don't want you to waste away." It's like how about let me just eat what I want and just leave me alone.

You aren't alone! I feel the same way but hey that's why we are here we are trying to better ourselves

yeah. my whole entire life. But I reached a point in my adult life where I stopped trying to be like everyone else and found that most people like eccentrics, and those that don't aren't worth my time.

:drinker:

I tend to become the leader of the misfits.