People will lie to you about your weight
starvinkevin
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I hate how people will say you're not fat when you are. Then when you start losing weight and make good progress they tell you that you're too skinny while they're still skinnier than you. This has stopped me from reaching my ideal weight. Anyone else experienced the same crap? I just realized this today, that during my previous weight loss attempts I always stopped because of the lies people told me.
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Maybe you shouldn't use what other people say as an excuse to stop. That's your choice, has nothing to do with them.0
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I hate how people will say you're not fat when you are. Then when you start losing weight and make good progress they tell you that you're too skinny while they're still skinnier than you. This has stopped me from reaching my ideal weight. Anyone else experienced the same crap? I just realized this today, that during my previous weight loss attempts I always stopped because of the lies people told me.
No. While i've had people say "you aren't fat" or "you don't need to lose weight", I've never had anyone tell me I was "too skinny" when I did start losing weight. What is your height and at what weight to people start telling you this? It's possible that they are right and your body image is skewed.0 -
Stop listening to what other people think about your weight. YOU are the one who has to live with whatever physical limitations your weight imposes on you. I know, it's hard not to listen but if you are going to succeed you need to use yourself as a barometer. Be better than you were yesterday.
I cannot even tell you how many people have said "stop losing weight" when I am clearly still very overweight. Those people have their own agenda, and NONE of it has anything to do with you.0 -
I am 5'4" and was 150ish when people said I was too skinny. I started bulking because of that - I know I shouldn't rely on what people say but peer pressure is strong no matter how much we try to ignore it. I think those people who told me that were threatened that I was looking good.I hate how people will say you're not fat when you are. Then when you start losing weight and make good progress they tell you that you're too skinny while they're still skinnier than you. This has stopped me from reaching my ideal weight. Anyone else experienced the same crap? I just realized this today, that during my previous weight loss attempts I always stopped because of the lies people told me.
No. While i've had people say "you aren't fat" or "you don't need to lose weight", I've never had anyone tell me I was "too skinny" when I did start losing weight. What is your height and at what weight to people start telling you this? It's possible that they are right and your body image is skewed.0 -
Stop listening to what other people think about your weight. YOU are the one who has to live with whatever physical limitations your weight imposes on you. I know, it's hard not to listen but if you are going to succeed you need to use yourself as a barometer. Be better than you were yesterday.
I cannot even tell you how many people have said "stop losing weight" when I am clearly still very overweight. Those people have their own agenda, and NONE of it has anything to do with you.
Yeah I really need to do this and think I am better now after realizing how much what people think has negatively impacted my self-image. Screw everyone else!0 -
I hate how people will say you're not fat when you are. Then when you start losing weight and make good progress they tell you that you're too skinny while they're still skinnier than you. This has stopped me from reaching my ideal weight. Anyone else experienced the same crap? I just realized this today, that during my previous weight loss attempts I always stopped because of the lies people told me.
People mean well. It's like anything else. People don't know what motivates them to say stuff. They may be trying to be nice. They may feel threatened by someone who is more fit than them and in some weird Freudian way want to see you fail. Who knows. Strong people just do their thing without worrying about it.0 -
I hate being told I'm too thin, especially by large people, makes me feel they have an ulterior motive, I can't help it0
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I had plenty of people tell me I was too skinny. I know it was just because they were used to seeing me bigger. That has all stopped now, finally.0
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this same exact crap happens to me. when I was 180 I was picked on daily. when I was 155, still chubby, the same ones who picked on me told me I was too thin. I love it when they see me now at 133 pounds. Victory!0
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At 5'4, you aren't underweight at 150, so I'd say ignore them and keep working to get to where YOU are comfortable. How old are you? I have found that peer pressure becomes less of an issue for me as I'm older, but I cannot imagine a time when I would have ever actively worked to put on more weight when I already thought I was fat just because someone called me "too skinny".0
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I mentioned my fat at work and that I was working on losing weight. My coworker said "oh no! You're not fat." She wasnt being sarcastic and it was a terrible lie. LoL. I'm 5'4" and was 320 pounds. :laugh:0
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Do what works for you0
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I hate how people will say you're not fat when you are. Then when you start losing weight and make good progress they tell you that you're too skinny while they're still skinnier than you. This has stopped me from reaching my ideal weight. Anyone else experienced the same crap? I just realized this today, that during my previous weight loss attempts I always stopped because of the lies people told me.
Yes, but it has never stopped me from reaching my goal weight. And they weren't necessarily lies. Plus I don't really care whether or not other people think I'm fat or skinny. What matters most is what I think and how I feel.
You are the only one who has control over whether or not you reach your goal weight. Once you stop blaming other people and realize this, then you'll reach it.0 -
If the scale says you are overweight then you are... period! We use what other people say or do as an excuse, often and all or at least MOST of us have at some point.
Thank them, but step on that scale if it doesn't have you in the upper (top range) ideal weight for your height, then you are overweight. You said it, they tell you, you aren't fat when you know you are, why would you believe them when you are losing and not at goal?
YOU and only YOU have control over that body. BTW it's good that you have come to realize this is going on now use that knowledge.0 -
Yep! I have had people tell me I look hungry, or that my cheeks look sunken in. I was still 60+ pounds over weight and considered obese. People don't want to feel guilty about their choices, so they try to convince you that you are in the wrong. No one "deserves" a treat food and eating a cupcake or midnight nachos is not going to help me "live a little". If I am "denying myself" anything, it is a heart attack later on.0
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"Lions dont concern themselves with the opinions of Lambs"0
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This has stopped me from reaching my ideal weight.
Uh, no.
That's not what's stopping you from reaching your "ideal weight".
Own your choices.0 -
People started telling me I was getting too skinny when I was around 200lbs. I don't know why, I figured they were either delusional, on crack or they thought it was a compliment. Now whenever someone calls me skinny I wince because now I know people tend to throw that word around without much real meaning behind it. If I was skinny at 200lbs, I must be anorexic at 155lb.0
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I have had a lot of comments, like "lay off the crack pipe" and "you need to eat a cheeseburger". I thought those were rather rude and insuting comments coming from haters that were not willing to do the work I was to get where I was..
THEN
My Dr had a fit and told me that I needed to stop losing weight THEN
My sister in-law pulled me aside to tell me I had crossed over from being healthy to looking bad (she runs marathons, so she gets it) THEN
My massage therapist was concerned that I was sick because of my weightloss.
There is such a thing as being to thin and at an unhealthy BMI. I did not see it, all I saw was the teeny tiny bit of fat around my saddlebags.
When it gets to the point that a bunch of people, people that you trust and love you start coming down on you for being to thin, its time to listen.
(I am not necessarily talking to the OP, I am talking to the people that are in the same situation that will come into this thread to complain about being told they are to thin when indeed, they are actually to thin)0 -
I've recently had 2 people tell me I shouldn't lose anymore weight because then I'll be "too skinny". Which is total BS, I could easily lose another 20/25 pounds and still be at a healthy weight. Don't let people bring you down. Just keep doing what you are doing. It's your body not theirs.0
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Maybe you shouldn't use what other people say as an excuse to stop. That's your choice, has nothing to do with them.
I agree with this but some people's opinions do have an affect on you. My mother does what the poster said all of the time. I have never stopped my weight loss program because of it, but I can be self-conscious after people make comments.
I have thin calves and was always called 'bird' and 'mouse' because of it. When I start to lose weight that is the first thing that comes out of my mother's mouth "your legs are getting too skinny, Bird, I like you better with meat on your bones" Again, I have never stopped losing because of it but some people's words can have an affect on you. I am a bit self-conscious about my thin legs. The older I get I don't care. I am just happy they work! Doesn't make me sensitive or weak to be affected. I am sure a few people will pop in and say that. I am just human.
To the OP just ignore it. You know how you want to look. Some people just want you to fail. Or some people are just like my mother and prefer a few extra pounds on you. But its not what they like or want, its what you want.0 -
"Lions dont concern themselves with the opinions of Lambs"
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My friends/coworkers are all brutally honest. I have spent many an hour lunch talking with my male coworkers about their beauty regiment, and my female coworkers and I regularly discuss the various ways to hide the things we don't like about our bodies. No one ever said "you're not fat", they'd say things like "yeah but your chest!" Or "you've got such nice legs though". Honest compliments. In an attempt to show support for my weightloss a friend offered me a bottle of hydroxy cut he'd bought to cut weight until his "preworkout" pills showed up. Sweet but somehow more offensive.0
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I hate how people will say you're not fat when you are. Then when you start losing weight and make good progress they tell you that you're too skinny while they're still skinnier than you. This has stopped me from reaching my ideal weight. Anyone else experienced the same crap? I just realized this today, that during my previous weight loss attempts I always stopped because of the lies people told me.
Yes people will **** with your head !!!
Look how you want to look and just ignore these ignorant ppl!!! .. Wait until you do a bulk (if your a guy and lift that is) and then rude *kitten* people in the office go. "I see you stopped working out!!" these are the same duck-o's that were saying you looked skinny like 3 months before.... ppl just don't know how to mind their own business0 -
I really could not care less what people think of my weight loss. I certainly wouldn't drop my healthier lifestyle, because of what somebody else said.
Unless it's something nice, just ignore what people have to say about your weight loss. You're losing weight for you - not anybody else.0 -
People on here acting like what people say to them has never affected them ever.......
Anyway as i guy I know exactly what OP is getting at, you can go go from stocky/cuddly to just leaner, and people will call you skinny because you fill a Sweater or shirt less. But the same time you're no where near your goal and will be called skinny before your even in Shirt off beach body shape!0 -
People close to me genuinely don't notice I've gained weight , bf excluded. Even now my best mates supposed to be dieting with me and says I look the same, even though over a year and 4 months I have gained a stone and a half and literally dont fit in my old clothes @_@ Dont care about what others say about your weight , unless its a compliment.0
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Wow! Yes I have. It is a terrible feeling for people to tell you that you look "sick" or that you look like you have cancer. And now that I have gained some of my weight back and am trying to loose it again, some have even said, " I hope you don't loose as much as you did last time you looked like you were dying". I was 5'2 and weighed 117 lb, which was exactly the middle ground for height/weight.
So, yeah, you're not alone. However, no one but you has to live with your body and how you feel in it.0 -
I would never allow someone else's perceptions or statements stand in the way of my goals.
I suggest you not, either. Be confident in your self image and self assessment. Take what others say with a grain of salt and a side of reason.0 -
If I want an outside opinion I ask my husband. We have been married for almost 14 years and we are at the point where we can be REALLY honest about that kind of stuff without getting feelings hurt. It also helps we both are on a weight loss journey together. Don't worry about what others say, you know your own body better than anyone!0
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