"When are you due?" Im not pregnant you jerk

alottamama · February 2014

is what Id LOVE to say to those random strangers that have the nerve to ask me that when they are not sure if I am or not....pfft!

Note to others: Never, I repeat NEVER ask a woman when she is due unless you KNOW she is pregnant. End of story!

Ok, vent over, lol, but seriously....Im a fairly tall woman, almost 5'10, and unfortunately I carry most of my excess weight right where I dont want it...right around my lower ab section and hips....Ive always been "curvy" with a small waist and large hips...its just my shape and that cannot be changed...but whats up with my belly?! I cant tell you how long Ive had the pregnant appearance! Certainly long after my 3 children have come along (24, 16 and 12) ....am I just destined to have a preggo belly forever? Ive lost 5 lbs so far and Im so proud of myself

) however....it sure as hell didnt come off my stomach! LOL...not really sure where it came off of....

Curlychip · February 2014

Lol! Ive had this from 5 different people this year…. grr!
Its carrying most of the spare where the babies USED TO BE!

Well done for losing 5lb. Im with you here hoping the belly will go

Anonycatgirl · February 2014

Belly fat seems to be the last to go for many women. I have a theory that way back in our evolutionary history, it served a purpose. (Extra protection for the womb? A last reserve in case of famine?) Don't know if it's true, but it makes me feel better that maybe it's so hard to lose because I'm fighting evolution.

SugaryLynx · February 2014

I hate this, too. I've had two kids but years before I had my first I had a woman pat my stomach and ask if I was having one!

Fat loss is predisposed to come off where it will. There's nothing more you can do but keep a moderate calorie deficit and make sure you're getting enough protein (about 1g per pound of lean. Body mass) to help aid your loss being fat and not muscle. Resistance training in some form (I love heavy lifting) would also help retain muscle to give you a lean look. It took me 40 lbs almost to start seeing significant fat loss in my stomach (started at 170 lbs at 5'3.5 "). For a lot of people it seems stomach is the last area to see significant change.
This is a great read that really is much better written

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1161603-so-you-want-a-nice-stomach

shano25 · February 2014

I have that stubborn belly fat due to diastasis recti. I don't hear it anymore but for about a year after having my son I would get asked that. My response would always be a stone faced "6 months ago" (or whatever the time.) It would usually make the person feel uncomfortable and I'm pretty sure that those who did ask me and got that response have never asked that since.

bethannien · February 2014

I was at work a couple weeks ago and a lady wouldn't let me pick up a cast iron griddle. I insisted it was ok and then she gestures at my stomach and says "you shouldn't be lifting this."

I laughed and said "my 18 month old weighs at least that much." And just ignored the fact that she thought I looked prego

yo_andi · February 2014

I have a puffy winter coat with a belt that cinches around the middle. Beautiful coat, and so warm, but makes me look about 5 or 6 months pregnant due to the puffiness and cinching. I never paid attention to it, until one day last winter, when I was on the subway. It was jampacked, and we're squeezed in like sardines. From across the car I become aware that pretty much everyone is staring at me, then looking at this woman across the way who is pointing at me and waving her arms. So I remove my headphones and nod her way, only to have her offer me her seat. Totally confused I say "no thanks, I'm fine standing". "No," she says, "you're pregnant. Getting jostled around like this isn't good for you or the little munchkin." "No, thanks, I'm fine," I say again. To which yells, because... across the car and all, "no really, please take my seat! I insist! You are pretty far along aren't you?! Not long now!" So I say "No thanks, I'm not pregnant." To which she says, "No need to be shy, you're pregnant, it's obvious!" Finally, I said "Lady, I'm not pregnant, just fat" and smiled broadly. Shocked silence in the car, and then applause by two women near the door. The mortification and blushing alone was worth the public shaming of being called out on your "baby bump" in public. I highly recommend using that line.

nickowastaken · February 2014

This never happens to me.

JAllen32 · February 2014

Probably from your boobs. Fat likes to be ironic like that.

spectralmoon · February 2014

This never happens to me.

Show off.

hestia1986 · February 2014

Never happened to me...
but my ex's mother was kind enough to tell me: "You look like you were still expecting," the day after I had given birth.
Never can forget that wonderful feeling.

Amandawith3kids · February 2014

took my 2 year old for his well visit, and his pediatrician asked when i was due. i tell him i'm not pregnant, and he tells me i should wear better clothes. i should have told him to give me his credit card so i could go shopping.

SunofaBeach14 · February 2014

Next, you're going to tell me I'm not supposed to poke a woman's belly to see if she makes a giggle noise . . .

alottamama · February 2014

lolol good times

Ellazzzz · February 2014

too funny but all too true. Its the hardest place to lose. Especially after children. There ain't no memory muscle in that region. I deal with the same issue. Its even more noticeable on a short person such as myself. But with each others support, we will get there.

Linnaea27 · February 2014

took my 2 year old for his well visit, and his pediatrician asked when i was due. i tell him i'm not pregnant, and he tells me i should wear better clothes. i should have told him to give me his credit card so i could go shopping.

LOL yes, that would have been the perfect response.

Last summer, my fiance (not my fiance yet at that time) and I went on vacation and stayed at a nice but relatively inexpensive B&B. I hate large breakfasts, always have, and we had requested that there be lots of fruit for breakfast. . . because in summer that's what I prefer and I figure if you're paying a bunch of money to stay somewhere and have someone provide breakfast, you should be able to have what you like, within reasonable limits. So anyway, the lady said something that made it abundantly clear she thought I was pregnant. I guess the pickiness about breakfast food led her to think that in advance. . . but unless I am pretty thin, my figure is such that my tummy sticks out and I bet that's what really made her think I might be pregnant. That was the first and so far last time that someone has said such a thing to me but I was SO offended!!!

fireflyz2 · February 2014

I'm the same height and build as you, but I don't think it is so much about the ab area. I was asked once when i was only about 10 lb overweight and had a very flat stomach just because I had on a loose shirt. But I agree, people shouldn't ask that sort of thing unless they know in advance!

nanadayana · February 2014

I got the same question last December. She was pregnant and maybe thought that we can share something in common. At first I felt that she's being rude that I wanna answer her with something like, 'When is this due? (pointing to my belly), I don't know yet but maybe tomorrow some of them will end up in my toilet. Not a baby by the way!'

But after looking at her, I just laughed it away. She immediately said sorry after that.

VelveteenArabian · February 2014

First... I think you should visit your doctor. There's a few conditions out there that cause you to gain weight mostly in your abdomen.

Second...if you pretend to burst into really loud tears, it really does a number on your commentator.

scottkjar · February 2014

When I was a little kid, I asked my aunt when she was due.

She was not due. She basically said what you said: "I'm not pregnant, you jerk."

My relationship with my aunt was never good after that. I always thought she was the jerk for shouting at a little kid who asked a perfectly innocent question.

DEgal99 · February 2014

When it's OK to ask a woman if she's pregnant: http://imgur.com/C4Q2A

JAllen32 · February 2014

I had a super smart girl ask me when I was due while I was pushing my week old daughter in a stroller. Farking genius.

I said "Last week." And pointed at my daughter. That's when someone else jumped in and changed the subject. LOL!!

becajb · February 2014

Belly fat seems to be the last to go for many women. I have a theory that way back in our evolutionary history, it served a purpose. (Extra protection for the womb? A last reserve in case of famine?) Don't know if it's true, but it makes me feel better that maybe it's so hard to lose because I'm fighting evolution.

I love this theory.

I first had someone ask when I was due at age 15. I am now almost 30 and although I have tried I am not pregnant yet.

Its hard to field that question when I so desperately want to be pregnant and am not. I never know if I should punch them in the face or cry. Most of the time I manage an awkward smile and get out of there as fast as possible.

dbanks80 · February 2014

My really good friend at work has been trying for her second child. She never lost the weight with the first child and I noticed lately that her stomach seemed bigger than usual. I NEVER asked her if she was pregnant. I just waited until she announced it on her own! Nothing worse than someone asking you if your pregnant and you're not!!!

becajb · February 2014

I have a puffy winter coat with a belt that cinches around the middle. Beautiful coat, and so warm, but makes me look about 5 or 6 months pregnant due to the puffiness and cinching. I never paid attention to it, until one day last winter, when I was on the subway. It was jampacked, and we're squeezed in like sardines. From across the car I become aware that pretty much everyone is staring at me, then looking at this woman across the way who is pointing at me and waving her arms. So I remove my headphones and nod her way, only to have her offer me her seat. Totally confused I say "no thanks, I'm fine standing". "No," she says, "you're pregnant. Getting jostled around like this isn't good for you or the little munchkin." "No, thanks, I'm fine," I say again. To which yells, because... across the car and all, "no really, please take my seat! I insist! You are pretty far along aren't you?! Not long now!" So I say "No thanks, I'm not pregnant." To which she says, "No need to be shy, you're pregnant, it's obvious!" Finally, I said "Lady, I'm not pregnant, just fat" and smiled broadly. Shocked silence in the car, and then applause by two women near the door. The mortification and blushing alone was worth the public shaming of being called out on your "baby bump" in public. I highly recommend using that line.

thank you for this hilarious story lol. And well done you for calling it right then and there

Heliconia · February 2014

I have only lost 15 pounds out of the 40 I want to lose, but my stomach is not as hard feeling as it used to be. It has more of a jello wiggly feel. It feels softer. It doesn't really seem any smaller. Can anyone relate or have any thoughts?

1991court · February 2014

OMG I HEAR Ya!! Dead serious a Labor and Delivery nurse said to me in October "It looks like I will be seeing you soon, when are you due?" I mean come on!!!

CarolinkaCjj · February 2014

Seems like such a simple rule - never ask someone if they are pregnant, just let them tell you. I have noticed when a woman I know gained weight around her middle and sported a super thick head of hair but did not dream of asking, let alone a stranger.

dannatona · February 2014

I was hanging out with my friend (who IS clearly 5 months preggo) and maybe 20 mins of me asking her if strangers ask how far along she is someone asks. She told the olden gentleman that she wasn't pregnant, and his face just dropped. I don't know if I've ever seen someone look so embarrassed, I found it hilarious and I'm for sure going to be doing that if I'm ever blessed with a baby.