I feel horrible!!!

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  • navyrigger46
    navyrigger46 Posts: 1,301 Member
    Sounds to me like you need a cheeseburger. I'd have a cheeseburger, then seriously reevaluate your approach here. First off, it's not a race, so up your calories a bit, second of all, and more importantly, don't cut out swaths of food you previously enjoyed, it's just not sustainable. Eat all the foods, just cut down the portions.

    Rigger
  • LexiMelo
    LexiMelo Posts: 203 Member
    dont drink 2% milk do fat free or skim milk.

    Yuk. Why?

    Agree - why would you want to drink skim milk? Yes it has less calories but they add sugar to it and it tastes gross!

    Love, an avid 2% milk drinker. :flowerforyou:
  • Momto4minions
    Momto4minions Posts: 173 Member
    You are in the middle of carb flu and caffeine withdraw. One of those is horrible alone. Both at the same time, you will feel like death. Add some carbs to your food. Add some multi grain crakers to lunch. Add a baked potato or sweet potato. Drink tea or coffee to help with the soda withdraw.

    It takes about two full weeks to get over this. Think of it though, you were addicted, like heroin( exaggeration) Your body is freaking out! Thinking of it this way may keep you off if it and from going back. Lol
  • This is just my fourth day trying to eat better and lose weight and I feel HORRIBLE!! I have stopped drinking soda, stopped fast food, and have started counting calories and trying to eat better. I thought that I would feel better after stopping the bad stuff but I don't! I am so tired of being fat and miserable and I don't want to give up but its hard to stay positive when you feel so bad.
    Describe "trying to eat better".... :tongue:

    Seriously though - what is your calorie goal and are you meeting it? What sorts of foods are you eating now? Are you drinking plenty of water?

    Typical day before: Breakfast #1 - honeybun (pure laziness)
    Breakfast #2- left over slice of pizza
    lunch- lean cuisine
    snack- varied nothing healthy though
    dinner- spaghetti w/ 1 slice of garlic bread
    snack before bed- something else unhealthy
    I didn't eat a lot just really bad choices.

    So far since I have tried eating better I will have: Breakfast #1- lite peaches w/ low fat cottage cheese
    Breakfast #2 2 pieces of turkey bacon, 1 slice of wheat toast , and 1 serving of t egg beaters
    snack- vanilla greek yogurt
    lunch- 2 grilled chicken strips, carrots, broccoli
    dinner- grilled chicken, veggies
    snack- special k cereal w/2 % milk
    and I drink water all day. Around 6-8 glasses a day. I am trying to eat around 1200 calories a day.

    Why 1200?

    And, it's day four. You need to give it more time.

    I am eating 1200 because that is what MFP and other sites say I need to eat to lose 2 pounds a week. I really want to lose the weight as fast as possible.

    Losing it as fast as possible hasn't been sustainable for you thus far, though.

    How much do you have to lose? How tall are you?

    I haven't really tried my hardest and gave it my all thus far. I have 80 pounds to hit my first goal and feel good about myself and about 95 to be where really want to be. I am 5'4
  • AliceDark
    AliceDark Posts: 3,886 Member
    Caffeine withdrawal is awful. I didn't look at your diary, but unless you specifically want to be off caffeine, drinking coffee to ease getting off the soda would help. (I've had people tell me to try green tea, but that was the first or second day I tried to go off coffee and so I was legally allowed to kill them.)
  • I understand completly and if you slip up just don't give up keep working out and eating right!!!! You are detoxing and also not able to turn to the "normal food" that makes you feel good. When you start seeing how you feel working out and after a week or two of seeing how you can make better choices I promise you will feel amazing!!! Keep going and if you would like add me as a friend I would love to support you!!! You can do it :)
  • As everyone said, you're going through withdrawals. If you're really feeling that bad, then get some simple carbs in you. Crackers, or some toast, etc. Also, try eating a little more. I understand the wanting to lose it fast as you can but remember 1 simple thing, you didn't put it on quickly, you're not going to take it off quickly.

    This is a process on many levels. Another reason it doesn't happen quickly is because you have a lot of learning to do. You need to learn to eat correctly. That means in the proper portions. You need to learn to move more. Maybe not for weight loss but for overall health. Although honestly, the moving more does help with weight loss too. You need to learn to not rely on the "diet foods" but know how to do this regardless of the food. And you have to learn how to forgive yourself (because honestly you're going to hit some bumps along the way on this journey).

    I subscribe to the 80/20 rule which is eat good (ie nutritious, not high in sugar unless it's natural sugar, lower sodium, lean protein, you get it) 80% of the time and 20% of the time it's not so good (chocolate, fast food, processed sugar, etc). This might be a better way of doing things for you. Especially given your former way of eating. This doesn't have to be all or nothing thinking.

    I also suggest start finding exercises that you enjoy doing. One thing for me (except finding it for free or reasonable is difficult) is belly dance. It's a great workout especially for your core and it's fun. I've also found that I enjoy the weights at the gym. I still let life get in the way too often and forget how much I enjoy it but I do enjoy it. There are a ton of online videos for many things so you can find those and try them at home. Cassie Ho and Blogiates are mentioned a lot.

    And with the amount of weight you're looking to lose, you can probably bump your water up to 10 glasses daily maybe even more. Yes, you can drink too much water but it really takes a lot to be too much. Drinking up to 1 gallon daily won't hurt you and you're only getting about 1/2 of that. Remember your body is actually mostly water so water helps it "run" correctly. A lot of people I know can drink unsweetened tea, sugar-free (often diet) soda, unsweetened coffee or flavored water and get the benefits of water. For me I need to drink plain water to have it give me the benefits of water. I do still have my Coke Zero daily too but that's really dropped off from what I used to consume.

    You can do this! It's just a little tough at the beginning!
  • slmckenzie
    slmckenzie Posts: 22 Member
    Just doing some math in my head right now:

    You're 5'4" tall. Going by your username, I assume you are a female. You stated that you want to lose a total weight of 95 lbs to be where you really want to be when it's all said and done. Going to this site and putting in your information:

    https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/guidelines/obesity/BMI/bmicalc.htm

    It tells me that your weight should be around 125 lbs, to put you smack in the middle of "Normal Weight", with a 21.5 BMI. Now, assuming 125 lbs is your goal weight, and you're wanting to lose a total of 95 lbs, then that would mean that you currently weigh around 220 lbs. Going here:

    http://www.bmi-calculator.net/bmr-calculator/

    I put in your height, weight, and assume an age of 25 (for a slightly higher BMR), and I get your BMR of 1795.3. Going to this page:

    http://www.bmi-calculator.net/bmr-calculator/harris-benedict-equation/

    I will assume that you are lightly active (most people can at least fall into that category). This means I take your BMR of 1795.3 and multiply it by 1.375, to get your daily calorie needs of 2,469 calories. There's our baseline.

    Assuming you want to lose 2lbs a week, and you currently weigh 220 lbs, you would want a total caloric deficit of 1,000 calories per day (3,500 calories per lb). That would put you at needing to consume around 1,469 calories per day. It may only seem like 269 calories is a small number, but that number can make a HUGE difference in your overall feeling of health and energy.

    I would totally bump up your calories a few hundred more. It may seem counterproductive, but it'll not only make you feel better in the long run, it'll also help your body to stay out of going into "starvation mode" and shutting down, effectively killing your metabolism and making you feel like crud.
  • WyeGuy
    WyeGuy Posts: 13 Member
    New to the site, so I'm no expert. But I've been researching how to change bad habits for a project at work. And one common thing I'm seeing a lot is not to try to change more than one habit at a time.

    Maybe you could give yourself the time to only get off soda, for example. After you've tackled that, move on to healthy snacks, or something. Give yourself whatever time it takes to break each habit. You'll have a much better chance of long term, meaningful progress. And you won't feel so yucky for taking on so much at once.

    My thought is, I didn't get this way overnight. Just one pound a week would be 52 in just a year. That'd be huge progress for someone like me,/ who needs to lose that much and more.

    Hang in there. I hope you feel better soon. And don't forget to give yourself credit for at least trying.
  • Arranna1212
    Arranna1212 Posts: 143 Member
    Just doing some math in my head right now:

    You're 5'4" tall. Going by your username, I assume you are a female. You stated that you want to lose a total weight of 95 lbs to be where you really want to be when it's all said and done. Going to this site and putting in your information:

    https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/guidelines/obesity/BMI/bmicalc.htm

    It tells me that your weight should be around 125 lbs, to put you smack in the middle of "Normal Weight", with a 21.5 BMI. Now, assuming 125 lbs is your goal weight, and you're wanting to lose a total of 95 lbs, then that would mean that you currently weigh around 220 lbs. Going here:

    http://www.bmi-calculator.net/bmr-calculator/

    I put in your height, weight, and assume an age of 25 (for a slightly higher BMR), and I get your BMR of 1795.3. Going to this page:

    http://www.bmi-calculator.net/bmr-calculator/harris-benedict-equation/

    I will assume that you are lightly active (most people can at least fall into that category). This means I take your BMR of 1795.3 and multiply it by 1.375, to get your daily calorie needs of 2,469 calories. There's our baseline.

    Assuming you want to lose 2lbs a week, and you currently weigh 220 lbs, you would want a total caloric deficit of 1,000 calories per day (3,500 calories per lb). That would put you at needing to consume around 1,469 calories per day. It may only seem like 269 calories is a small number, but that number can make a HUGE difference in your overall feeling of health and energy.

    I would totally bump up your calories a few hundred more. It may seem counterproductive, but it'll not only make you feel better in the long run, it'll also help your body to stay out of going into "starvation mode" and shutting down, effectively killing your metabolism and making you feel like crud.

    ^^ Listen to this guy.
  • Arranna1212
    Arranna1212 Posts: 143 Member
    I was in the same boat, I stopped smoking, drinking soda AND stopped eating junk all of the time, all at once... and I survived. I still eat a little bit of junk if I can afford it into my calories or if I know I'm going out with friends or something, I plan ahead. If you're use to eating 2k or more calories you just cannot drop to 1200 calories and expect your body to not revolt. I'd trying eating 2k, or 1.9k until you can easily eat that amount without going over, then drop it. I ate 1.9k for about a month and my friend suggested dropping it to 1.5k and IF'ing. It sucks in the morning, but you get over it. Read this link, it'll help and good luck! http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/fat-loss/9-ways-to-deal-with-hunger-on-a-diet.html
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    I eat all the "bad" food, see ticker below.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Withdraw OR you are being too restrictive.

    I am going with too restrictive.
  • I am starting today. I just wanted to say that jessicawrigh is completely correct. My suggestion to you would be to stop beating yourself up! Of course you feel terrible, your brain is trying to get you to push the button like a rat with cocaine. (Search weight loss and addiction on cracked.com) You need to replace your bad habits with good ones. Take a long soak, read a fovorite book. Pop some popcorn and watch a favorite program (or a marathon, with marching in place during the commercials.)

    Keeping your goal in mind is important, but, if you try to force yourself to quit everything at once you have to compensate with new choices. If you're suffering headaches from no soda, get a little cafeine in your life - from tea or coffee. Don't give up!
  • bajoyba
    bajoyba Posts: 1,153 Member
    You feel horrible because you've made some rather drastic and sudden changes to your diet, with the goal to lose weight as quickly as possible. That doesn't strike me as healthy or sustainable. If you want to lose weight and keep it off, you're more likely to see long-term success by eating at a reasonable calorie deficit and making small changes to your diet over time. By learning moderation, you can include more nutrient dense food into your diet and still consume the things you enjoy. And by losing at a slower pace, you will retain more muscle mass in the process.

    ^ This.

    I agree that depending on your prior caffeine consumption, you could be experiencing withdrawals. But making such huge, immediate changes to your diet can be taxing as well.

    In what way(s) are you feeling horrible?

    Keep in mind that if you've suddenly added a lot more fiber to your diet than your body was used to, you might experience some temporary cramping or other unpleasant digestive issues, but that should pass as your body becomes used to the extra fiber. :smile:
  • MyM0wM0w
    MyM0wM0w Posts: 2,008 Member
    I know when I gave up sugar (and have to give up again.....)

    First I was like:
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    Then I was like:
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    Then it turns to this:
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  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    I am starting today. I just wanted to say that jessicawrigh is completely correct. My suggestion to you would be to stop beating yourself up! Of course you feel terrible, your brain is trying to get you to push the button like a rat with cocaine. (Search weight loss and addiction on cracked.com)

    Oh yes, the famous Cracked.com Addiction Weight Loss Study that has been referenced by so many.

    Oh, wait...
  • tklyall
    tklyall Posts: 1 Member
    Here are a few tips that lived by for 6 months and I lost over 60lbs. They are simple and easy to get used to.

    1. If you're into breakfast sandwiches, go with egg whites. A typical homemade breakfast sandwich I like is an egg white sandwich with chicken bacon with low fat cheese whiz and whole wheat dempsters thins bread. Very tasty and filling and only 300 calories.

    2. Diet soda. I know it's arguably worse for you, but it's zero calories as opposed to over 100 calories for a can of Pepsi. It worked for me.

    3. Willpower. Snacks are good, but make sure you have room in your diary before endulging yourself. You can eat what you want. That includes cookies, pizza, burgers, etc. just eat this stuff in moderation. Something that helped me a ton was cheat day. One day a weak I would go to my favorite takeout place and enjoy myself.

    That's about it. These helped me stick to my plan and reach my goals. I lost over 60lbs and kept it off after 8 months and it's thanks to MyFitnessPal.
  • You feel horrible because you've made some rather drastic and sudden changes to your diet, with the goal to lose weight as quickly as possible. That doesn't strike me as healthy or sustainable. If you want to lose weight and keep it off, you're more likely to see long-term success by eating at a reasonable calorie deficit and making small changes to your diet over time. By learning moderation, you can include more nutrient dense food into your diet and still consume the things you enjoy. And by losing at a slower pace, you will retain more muscle mass in the process.

    ^ This.

    I agree that depending on your prior caffeine consumption, you could be experiencing withdrawals. But making such huge, immediate changes to your diet can be taxing as well.

    In what way(s) are you feeling horrible?

    Keep in mind that if you've suddenly added a lot more fiber to your diet than your body was used to, you might experience some temporary cramping or other unpleasant digestive issues, but that should pass as your body becomes used to the extra fiber. :smile:

    I am feeling tired, more stressed out than usual, I feel like I am starving (like sick hungry), just altogether bad. I am making myself drink one -two cups of coffee a day and this has helped with the headaches that I was having. I figured that my body was just like "what is going on, where is the good (bad) stuff" I know that you cant eat all of those bad foods and just give them up without feeling something from it. I just wish this starving feeling would go away!
  • rachrach7595
    rachrach7595 Posts: 151 Member
    Just quit one thing this morning. Then quit something else the next month.
    Quit nothing at all even.

    I eat out 80% of the time and I am still able to make good choices. So instead of McDonalds I get Sumo Sald and I do some research on calories and go from there. I had gozleme for lunch that was 1000 calories.. oh well, better walk for 45 minutes tonight instead of 30.

    I also drink diet soda. Its not killing me. My hair is not falling out. I dont have cancer from the horrid chemicals.
    I just try and balance it out a bit with my water intake.

    It doesn't have to be a drama.
    Get out of the house and stop thinking about all the stuff you gave up and embrace your new healthier lifestyle by going for a walk.
    Or the alternative, jam a box of cookies down your throat, live in regret and then get on the forums and have a pity party :D

    The choice is yours.
  • bajoyba
    bajoyba Posts: 1,153 Member
    You feel horrible because you've made some rather drastic and sudden changes to your diet, with the goal to lose weight as quickly as possible. That doesn't strike me as healthy or sustainable. If you want to lose weight and keep it off, you're more likely to see long-term success by eating at a reasonable calorie deficit and making small changes to your diet over time. By learning moderation, you can include more nutrient dense food into your diet and still consume the things you enjoy. And by losing at a slower pace, you will retain more muscle mass in the process.

    ^ This.

    I agree that depending on your prior caffeine consumption, you could be experiencing withdrawals. But making such huge, immediate changes to your diet can be taxing as well.

    In what way(s) are you feeling horrible?

    Keep in mind that if you've suddenly added a lot more fiber to your diet than your body was used to, you might experience some temporary cramping or other unpleasant digestive issues, but that should pass as your body becomes used to the extra fiber. :smile:

    I am feeling tired, more stressed out than usual, I feel like I am starving (like sick hungry), just altogether bad. I am making myself drink one -two cups of coffee a day and this has helped with the headaches that I was having. I figured that my body was just like "what is going on, where is the good (bad) stuff" I know that you cant eat all of those bad foods and just give them up without feeling something from it. I just wish this starving feeling would go away!

    What is your calorie goal? Maybe you're feeling so hungry because you've cut your calories too much. When I am really, truly hungry, I feel generally terrible and am not a pleasant person to be around.
  • pixardad
    pixardad Posts: 184 Member
    Try and find a quiet place to sit. Close your eyes. Breathe. Feel your breathing. Focus on your breathing. Now focus on the various parts of your body and acknowledge how they feel. If you start thinking about food, gently bring yourself back to your breathing.

    No, this is not meditation...at least I don't consider it that. I consider it getting the heck out of your head for a few minutes. It's OK to feel horrible. It's not OK to let it control or push you into something you don't want to do.

    Feel like crying? Cry. Let it out. Want to scream? Grab a pillow and scream. Let it out.

    Weight loss is not just about numbers and movement. It's also about your mind. Often, I feel crappy and just want to eat...and eat...and eat. It doesn't help when my wife has had a long day and *she* picks up junk fast food.

    Want to to control that? You have to use your mind. We've let our bodies dictate our actions and it has gotten us here. You feel horrible. Focus. Use your mind. You are smarter and more powerful than you know. *YOU* are in control...your body needs to learn that.
  • Areneholmes
    Areneholmes Posts: 46 Member
    I understand this feeling all too well. My first attempt at eating better and getting into shape failed I think because I tried very hard to instantly change everything about my diet. I dropped soda, fast food, milkshakes, candy, chocolate, fried foods... What I learned on this second round that seems to be working much better is that for me, cold-turkey doesn't cut it, and completely altering everything you do all at once I think makes this harder for people like me than it should be.

    What I did was I started slowly weaning myself off of the things I was used to having all the time that weren't at all healthy. I started replacing a soda here and there with water (flavored with Mio because I craved the sweet taste). Recently I've weaned myself off of Mio and I enjoy water alone or with lemon just fine. I didn't just stop drinking soda- It happened as a process over time. It's the same with other foods, too. I started replacing chocolate, ice cream, milkshakes, and other sweet things with fruits, which eventually morphed into me making my own fresh smoothies and adding protein scoops when I started working out more and needing the extra nutrients and such.

    This is a process. You don't have to do it all at once, and you shouldn't. If you are feeling hungry, sick, tired, then scale the changes/exercises back some. You can write out a few small goals a week and also reward yourself for meeting goals. Also calculate what nutrients you need for your goals- make sure you're getting enough protein, fiber.... and enough calories.
    Vitamins, Iron and such too. Your body needs all of these things whether you're losing weight or not, no matter what you're doing, and if you aren't taking in what your body needs then you will continue to feel bad, possibly sick, and unmotivated/discouraged.

    You'll feel better soon. Don't give up! Just don't overdo it all at once in the beginning. :) One step at a time.
  • jesssargent2
    jesssargent2 Posts: 28 Member
    This is just my fourth day trying to eat better and lose weight and I feel HORRIBLE!! I have stopped drinking soda, stopped fast food, and have started counting calories and trying to eat better. I thought that I would feel better after stopping the bad stuff but I don't! I am so tired of being fat and miserable and I don't want to give up but its hard to stay positive when you feel so bad.

    Make sure you are eating snacks and maybe take a vitamin. You shouldn't feel hungry all the time. Make sure you eat plenty of healthy items not just what fits in your calorie range. Good luck and I do understand, I am farely new here but I have lost 10 pounds and working on more. Also foods with high fiber or protien are really good.