why do people torture me?
Hummmingbird
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So my roomate for the past two days ate the following: Saturday: a whole large pizza with double cheese and pepperoni (my favorite)
tonight: five guys bacon cheeseburger with a1 and all the fixings and cajun fries (also my favorite!)
Why do people torture me sooo my body is LITERALLY aching to eat these things....omg im dying. sigh.
tonight: five guys bacon cheeseburger with a1 and all the fixings and cajun fries (also my favorite!)
Why do people torture me sooo my body is LITERALLY aching to eat these things....omg im dying. sigh.
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p.s. i almost want to go into the garbage and pull the bag out and eat the rest of his gd fries!!!!0
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Thanks for posting your comment. I think I am "normal" now because I feel the same as you. I want to jump across the restaurant to grab good (bad) things off of stranger's plates while eating my healthy dinner.0
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I can't believe HE can eat like that -yesterday AND today. Any way you can ask him not to bring fattening food into your home? He can still get it - just eat it at the restaurant OR somewhere else. Stay strong - it's CRAP - remember that! Have yourself a healthy yummy meal and a treat!0
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My boyfriend can eat all of that stuff in a sitting and not gain a freakin' pound.
I hate that so much.
So with you right now.0 -
you CAN have cheat meals. However, I don't recommend a cheat day. I did that and it turned into a three day cheat day (and have seen others on MFP that had one cheat DAY turn into dayS. VERY BAD. I won't have a cheat day again. You wanting them that bad is going to make a time when you DO decide to cheat turn out very bad. Just count those calories that you had in that piece of pizza or hamburger. Or only have a half of a sandwich and a few fries. If you continue to deny yourself those things you love, it's going to end up a disaster.
Your roommate just doesn't care about your weight loss journey, that's why he did it. That, and guys are clueless! You'd think and hope they had an idea, but they don't - they really don't. That I've learned from my 9 years with my husband.
Something that I do with certain foods that you may want to try is to think about all the fat in those foods. I cannot eat mayonnaise because of the thought of what's in it and how fattening it is. I'm the same with some other foods, but you'd laugh at the stuff I will eat. Sometimes the deliciousness of something outweighs the nastyness of the amount of fat in it. Or I just have to eat it becuase there's no other choice For example, BBQ's with hamburgers and hotdogs. I won't eat a hamburger for fear of it being undercooked, and hotdogs are so disgustingly fattening it's hard to eat them. And no I'm not an anorexic. I was a "healthy" 207 when I started my weight loss journey and my goal is 150, definitely not anorexic!0 -
Whoa whoa whoa ... She can hardly ask her roommate to stop bringing those foods home. It's the roommate's home as well, and no matter how much we disagree with their eating habits—even if it makes our lives harder—we can't ask them to change for us. I mean, what kind of a home is it that you can't eat your meals at? An awful one, that's what.I can't believe HE can eat like that -yesterday AND today. Any way you can ask him not to bring fattening food into your home? He can still get it - just eat it at the restaurant OR somewhere else. Stay strong - it's CRAP - remember that! Have yourself a healthy yummy meal and a treat!
Sarah, I know how you feel. I just moved from a house where I was mocked for trying to eat healthier and every single night he was eating a frozen pizza or something like that. Every now and again it would smell good to me, but I always thought to myself "he's the one who's gonna be a fatass still, not me."
It can be torturous, but the thought of losing that weight, of being thin and healthy is so much better than the thought of eating things that are bad for you. I would literally smell something like that then decide to cook myself some chicken, and since my chicken was home cooked (and by me, no less!) I knew it was a million times better than his pizza had been.
All of this is a matter of will power. All you must do is overcome the desire to continue being the same eater you were before.
Easier said than done? Perhaps. Buy some bananas to munch on whenever you smell something tempting.0 -
Right there with you. I can't count the times I have asked my fiance what he wants for dinner and his actual answer was grease and salt (which for us is this great little family restaruant down the street where I ised to get the best loaded cheese fries). We always get it and bring it home. I have found a decent salad there I can get. So I had to order and pick up his cheese burger and fires. Thought it would be no big deal cause it is literally 2 minutes from the house and he would eat upstairs while playing his online game. Boy was I wrong. The was a house fire that blocked my way home. I had to smell his food in the car for 30 minutes, then he ate it I front of me. I thought I was either going to steal it or kill him. Instead I cleaned by bathroom thenkicked him out of the living room and took out my frustration in my work out. I ended up feeling fantastic and he ended up feeling bloated and had heart burn.0
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I am so blessed to have a food lazy spouse. He wouldn't go out of his way looking for food if his life depended on it. So when I am hitting the scale super hard and broiling chicken breasts plain, backed sweet potato sans butter, steamed brocolli and a big bottle of water, he is eating the same thing!!
Making pizza, burgers, homemade fries............this has all helped me hit my goal (and it will again cuz I gained back 5 pounds:grumble: )0 -
Whoa whoa whoa ... She can hardly ask her roommate to stop bringing those foods home. It's the roommate's home as well, and no matter how much we disagree with their eating habits—even if it makes our lives harder—we can't ask them to change for us. I mean, what kind of a home is it that you can't eat your meals at? An awful one, that's what.I can't believe HE can eat like that -yesterday AND today. Any way you can ask him not to bring fattening food into your home? He can still get it - just eat it at the restaurant OR somewhere else. Stay strong - it's CRAP - remember that! Have yourself a healthy yummy meal and a treat!
Sarah, I know how you feel. I just moved from a house where I was mocked for trying to eat healthier and every single night he was eating a frozen pizza or something like that. Every now and again it would smell good to me, but I always thought to myself "he's the one who's gonna be a fatass still, not me."
It can be torturous, but the thought of losing that weight, of being thin and healthy is so much better than the thought of eating things that are bad for you. I would literally smell something like that then decide to cook myself some chicken, and since my chicken was home cooked (and by me, no less!) I knew it was a million times better than his pizza had been.
All of this is a matter of will power. All you must do is overcome the desire to continue being the same eater you were before.
Easier said than done? Perhaps. Buy some bananas to munch on whenever you smell something tempting.
I agree with you, i wouldnt ask him not to bring it home. we both work so hard being in the military the one comfort we have is home! soooo what i did was (and im kinda proud) was i asked if i could have 3 fries. he said of course. so i ate the 3 fries veerrryyyy slowly and it cured me! (well for the most part) it shut that part of my brain up and i thought to myself...you know that spinach i ate earlier tasted so much healthier and lighter! I hope i can change my eating habits and the psychological habits of eating soon!0 -
What is better?
1) The short-lived pleasure of eating junk food.
2) Being a healthier, trimmer individual for the rest of your life?
Stick with it. I felt like that when I first started, but now the cravings have begun to fade once I've seen the changes that losing even 11 lbs has made. My wife ordered a Five Guys burger yesterday for lunch. She asked if I wanted one and I had the willpower to decline. I ended up having a sandwich at home instead.
My doctor (great guy) once told me in his office to look at a bowl full of white rice and just imagine it like a big bowl of sugar, because that's essentially what it is like. I use that same imaging for most fast food. Look at that burger and fries and just imagine the lump of lard that it equals.
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NOW....my next trial...my boyfriend...we love good food and we love to COOK good tasty food (think butter)....for the most part i try and make healthy meals for us but i always feel talked into a ice cream etc etc after. he doesnt hold me accountable (which i know isnt his fault but ive asked him to help and he says he will but we always go back to the habits) he is coming in 10 days for 3 weeks over christmas...help10
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I agree with mamacremers that you can have a cheat meal every once in a while. If you don't give into the craving in a small way occasionally, you'll give in in a huge way out of the blue and totally wreck everything you've accomplished. Definitely log everything though.
I also agree with halobender that it's not fair to ask your roommate to not bring unhealthy foods home.
I would add this... It's not about your roommate and his eating habits. It's about you and your mindset. Is it thoughtless of him to eat like that in front of you? Sure. But, you're going to have to learn to work around it. Besides, people that eat like that and don't gain an ounce... it'll catch up to them eventually. Trust me. :laugh:0 -
You could always amuse yourself by quoting to him how many calories, how many grams of fat, how much of that is saturated fat, how many grams of sodium, etc, is in the meals as he is eating them
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Whoa whoa whoa ... She can hardly ask her roommate to stop bringing those foods home. It's the roommate's home as well, and no matter how much we disagree with their eating habits—even if it makes our lives harder—we can't ask them to change for us. I mean, what kind of a home is it that you can't eat your meals at? An awful one, that's what.I can't believe HE can eat like that -yesterday AND today. Any way you can ask him not to bring fattening food into your home? He can still get it - just eat it at the restaurant OR somewhere else. Stay strong - it's CRAP - remember that! Have yourself a healthy yummy meal and a treat!
Sarah, I know how you feel. I just moved from a house where I was mocked for trying to eat healthier and every single night he was eating a frozen pizza or something like that. Every now and again it would smell good to me, but I always thought to myself "he's the one who's gonna be a fatass still, not me."
It can be torturous, but the thought of losing that weight, of being thin and healthy is so much better than the thought of eating things that are bad for you. I would literally smell something like that then decide to cook myself some chicken, and since my chicken was home cooked (and by me, no less!) I knew it was a million times better than his pizza had been.
All of this is a matter of will power. All you must do is overcome the desire to continue being the same eater you were before.
Easier said than done? Perhaps. Buy some bananas to munch on whenever you smell something tempting.
I agree with you, i wouldnt ask him not to bring it home. we both work so hard being in the military the one comfort we have is home! soooo what i did was (and im kinda proud) was i asked if i could have 3 fries. he said of course. so i ate the 3 fries veerrryyyy slowly and it cured me! (well for the most part) it shut that part of my brain up and i thought to myself...you know that spinach i ate earlier tasted so much healthier and lighter! I hope i can change my eating habits and the psychological habits of eating soon!
Sorry! That's why I asked if it was possible. Where I come from friends do nice things for their friends - like this. No offense :-) Great solution BTW0 -
You could always amuse yourself by quoting to him how many calories, how many grams of fat, how much of that is saturated fat, how many grams of sodium, etc, is in the meals as he is eating them
I did this to my wife for the first few weeks after I started my weight loss journey.
She has since converted to the Light Side and has started eating a little better, and has agreed to get better ingredients in our fridge and pantry.0 -
Having to deprive yourself sucks. Instead of suffering, if you're really jonesing for something, cook yourself a healthy alternative, where YOU control the ingredients, cals, fats, etc. For instance, make yourself a burger from lean ground beef (3-4 oz.), grilled at home. Eat it with a low-cal whole wheat sandwich thin instead of a roll, and go easy on the non-veggie toppings like cheese. Same with fries. There are several recipes on the forum for baked potato fries that sound yummy, and they're low-fat.
Craving pizza? Make your own healthy version using a whole wheat tortilla, tomato sauce, turkey pepperoni, and reduced fat mozzarella. The recipe's on the forum as well. I make these at least once a week. I can get an entire 8-inch pizza "lite" for just a few hundred calories. Not the "real" thing, but it satisfies my taste buds and keeps the wolf at the door for another few days.
Look, it's all bout finding a balance between a healthy lifestyle and living like a monk. You can still have tasty food that's healthy, but you do have to put a little more effort into it. Believe me, it's worth it in the long run. Good luck!0 -
Well, she shouldn't try to ruin her roommate's meals for them at all, though, right?You could always amuse yourself by quoting to him how many calories, how many grams of fat, how much of that is saturated fat, how many grams of sodium, etc, is in the meals as he is eating them
It's like yelling at a smoker "YOU'RE GOING TO DIE, DIRTY LUNGS! GROSS! COUGH COUGH COUGH!" It's really none of our business what other people do to their bodies. (I HATE smoking, but I'm not going to ask my roommate to quit smoking, or hassle people on the streets. My roommate smokes inside, too; but we have hardwood floors so it's not too horrible.)
Honestly, I'm not trying to single either you or 4lafz out, I just think that by actually writing the things that I am, I can hopefully cause people to consider their actions (and the effects of them) more closely. If someone who doesn't even know you is telling you that something you may be considering doing is not right or just not in the name of fairness, hopefully it'll cause them to give it deeper consideration—even if they don't come to the conclusion that the opinions are right.
You shouldn't apologize for providing an idea. You're just giving her a possible option, and if she were to not feel the same as I do about it, she could present it to her roommate. I just happen to disagree with it.Sorry! That's why I asked if it was possible. Where I come from friends do nice things for their friends - like this. No offense :-) Great solution BTW
To me, putting someone else out so that I can hopefully shed a couple of pounds is the ultimate in rude, though. If her roommate were to offer to do that, it would be one thing, but if she were to ask that of me, for example, I'd say "Ummm, no?" Even if she were my best friend. Mostly it's because I hate being told I can't enjoy my food on my terms—I've got a lot of weird food problems.
Anyway, that's all, it's just us providing our two cents, trying to help someone out.0 -
This is why I have days off. One meal, or even one day doesn't affect long term goals and helps you keep your sanity. Unless you're planning on never eating foods like these again, give in once in a while.0
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My boyfriend is so dang skinny and eats constantly but is trying to not eat really bad things in front of me cause he knows how much I want it. I am doing the HCG diet right now which is super strict so I don't cook for him cause he doesn't want to eat what I am eating all the time.
What really pisses me off though is that people at work that know about the diet I'm on will say things like just have one it won't kill you or wow this is really good too bad you can't have it. Seriously who does stuff like that? I would never do that to someone. Would you do that to a diabetic and can't have sugar? Uggggg!!!!0 -
This is how I learned to deal with temptation:
1. I am on a weightloss journey, but that does not mean everyone else around me has to be also.
2. I can't expect the world around me to stop just because I am in an uncomfortable situation.
3. People eating unhealthy foods around me are not being hateful and they are not trying to torture me. I, as a grown women, control how my surroundings affect me and if I let someone eating a pizza (or whatever) get to me it is my personal problem that I created within myself.0 -
It can be hard, and this is something that I had to overcome with my boyfriend as well. Although the sweetheart that he is, he has been really mindful of me, but it has been on his own terms and something he wanted to do to help support me. And although my home life is more supportive of my change, I find that pretty much everywhere else (work, school) is not, so it's definitely something I've had to overcome and still occasionally struggle with. I do agree with the suggestion about making healthy alternatives. I can make healthier versions of the foods I love and it satisfies my craving.
I think an occasional cheat meal is fine too - I'm not sure I would ever go for an entire cheat day, but to each their own. You have to find what works best for you. 0 -
Ma wanted me to have a piece of fudge today. I refused and she understood.0
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hahaha thats what i do to my hubby... I say oMG do you know how much blah blah blah is in that lol... I am really talking to myself heehee...0
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Well, she shouldn't try to ruin her roommate's meals for them at all, though, right?You could always amuse yourself by quoting to him how many calories, how many grams of fat, how much of that is saturated fat, how many grams of sodium, etc, is in the meals as he is eating them
It's like yelling at a smoker "YOU'RE GOING TO DIE, DIRTY LUNGS! GROSS! COUGH COUGH COUGH!" It's really none of our business what other people do to their bodies. (I HATE smoking, but I'm not going to ask my roommate to quit smoking, or hassle people on the streets. My roommate smokes inside, too; but we have hardwood floors so it's not too horrible.)
Honestly, I'm not trying to single either you or 4lafz out, I just think that by actually writing the things that I am, I can hopefully cause people to consider their actions (and the effects of them) more closely. If someone who doesn't even know you is telling you that something you may be considering doing is not right or just not in the name of fairness, hopefully it'll cause them to give it deeper consideration—even if they don't come to the conclusion that the opinions are right.
You shouldn't apologize for providing an idea. You're just giving her a possible option, and if she were to not feel the same as I do about it, she could present it to her roommate. I just happen to disagree with it.Sorry! That's why I asked if it was possible. Where I come from friends do nice things for their friends - like this. No offense :-) Great solution BTW
To me, putting someone else out so that I can hopefully shed a couple of pounds is the ultimate in rude, though. If her roommate were to offer to do that, it would be one thing, but if she were to ask that of me, for example, I'd say "Ummm, no?" Even if she were my best friend. Mostly it's because I hate being told I can't enjoy my food on my terms—I've got a lot of weird food problems.
Anyway, that's all, it's just us providing our two cents, trying to help someone out.
Well said dude... everyone has an equal right to do what they like to their bodies, particularly in their own homes.
My old housemate (and still best friend) was incredibly unhealthy... drank beer every night, smoked, and ate ridiculous amounts of fast food (usually 2 - 3 times a day). It was sooo hard living there and trying to even maintain weight, let alone lose it. While I never said a thing, it was really difficult for me to be healthy in that kind of environment. Eventually, we went our seperate ways (due to work commitments rather than living issues.. I love this girl more than just about anyone) and it was the best thing for BOTH of us. She now exercises, doesn't drink and eats in moderation. And I now don't have crap shoved in my face every day. It turned out that she had some emotional issues she was dealing with, and living with me (where I had no self control) was probably making the self destruction worse (i.e we'd drink together or go on late night Macca's trips.. yeaaaah gross haha).
Anyway, my point is you can't really tell him what he can and can't eat. Perhaps have a chat with him and tell him you're finding it difficult, even if he could let you know when he's decided to bring home junk food, and you could eat beforehand so you're not hungry when the offending food enters the house.0 -
You could always amuse yourself by quoting to him how many calories, how many grams of fat, how much of that is saturated fat, how many grams of sodium, etc, is in the meals as he is eating them
I did this to my wife for the first few weeks after I started my weight loss journey.
She has since converted to the Light Side and has started eating a little better, and has agreed to get better ingredients in our fridge and pantry.
While this CAN work to an extent, I am sure a lot of people would find it irritating or rude, particularly if they're having a bad day and are allowing themselves it despite the calorie content. I know that if I was having an emotional meltdown, and decided to drown myself in a bucket of icecream I'd probably back hand the first person to mention it.0 -
You could always amuse yourself by quoting to him how many calories, how many grams of fat, how much of that is saturated fat, how many grams of sodium, etc, is in the meals as he is eating them
I did this to my wife for the first few weeks after I started my weight loss journey.
She has since converted to the Light Side and has started eating a little better, and has agreed to get better ingredients in our fridge and pantry.
While this CAN work to an extent, I am sure a lot of people would find it irritating or rude, particularly if they're having a bad day and are allowing themselves it despite the calorie content. I know that if I was having an emotional meltdown, and decided to drown myself in a bucket of icecream I'd probably back hand the first person to mention it.
I never said it in a rude or mean way, but more in an informational way. Looking at the nutritional info on a lot of the foods we used to eat has really opened our eyes. She's a lot better about it now and actually helps on our shopping trips to buy the best ingredients.
Hell, one of the reasons my weight got out of control was because I thought I was eating some "healthy" food in decent proportions, but I really, really wasn't. After checking the nutritional information and calories I was in for a rude awakening.
I did the same thing a few weeks ago at work. A co-worker asked why I was packing my lunches more often and not getting sandwiches from the deli across the street. When I told him that the old sandwiches I used to eat ranged from 800 - 1200 calories for a full sandwich, he said be understood. He went back to eating his ~900 calorie sandwich from that same deli.0 -
Haha I'm sure you approached it in a well timed and tactful manner... I just meant that some people are not always so tactful, and can be quite thoughtless and intrusive about other's choices.
Holy maloly, how on earth can you pack 1000 cals into one sandwich??? I very rarely buy mine out anyway, simply because I refuse to pay $7 for a sandwich!0 -
I don't know if this is "cheating" or not, but what I would do when trying to cut cals is carry one of those 24 oz water bottles with me everywhere, and take lettuce, celery, carrots, cucumbers, spinach, rice cakes, etc with me and be always eating. You can eat a ton of that stuff and the calorie count is still low. I made sure to be always eating or drinking particularly between meals and since I always had something in my tummy I never felt really really hungry enough to be tortured by that stuff. I know the taste isn't the same, there's "I can't believe it's not butter" which is pretty helpful with some bland food, some 35 cal wheat bread, 15 cal italian dressing, y'know there are ways to make these things taste a little better. The key is to always have food in your tummy and be always either drinking water or tea or something.
1,000 cals in a sandwich is possible and you see that most of calories are from fat. Mayo, cheese, anything fried, and the breads are usually highly rich in calories. Even though I'm thinking that a footlong sub would more easily yield those caloric values, or a fried chicken/fish sandwich.0 -
I know I eat poorly when I go to my Dad's. Last night was awful, had two burrios with ranch, twix bar (went to go by Moose Tracks except store didnt carry it; one good point I didnt get something esle. then topped the night off with chips and salsa.
Last night I didnt know exactly what was triggering my eating binge, today I think i just realized why.0 -
that situation does suck, i go weak at the knees for unhealthy food, which is why me and and husband do not have any in the house. I guess you can only be prepared with planning what you are going to eat for the day and make sure you are not starving when temptation is near... (and silently look up how many calories they are consuming because then you know it would NOT be worth it) (i do this for KFC, chocolates etc etc)0
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