reached goal but not happy

Hello

I have changed my goal a few times now so I think that's normal.

Though if it's body shape that's bothering you diet alone won't change that, I have had 2 children and the abdominal muscle split won't go and there is the saggy skin too. Me personally I am thinking tone what I can then it's either surgery or like how you look

Be interesting to see what others say x

I think us women will always be unhappy with how we look to ourselves the only real way to get rid of skin is surgery so if you can afford it go for it or if you have a very good Dr explain to him it makes you depressed see what he says
Well done on your achievement

i reached my goal weight... yey me!!!

started at 14 stone 6lbs (i think, weighed at a post natal appointment at 92 kilos sure i put more on after but didn't dare the scales!)

earlier this week i made my target of 9st 6lbs (lost another lb since then). but i am just not happy when i look in the mirror. i had 3 c/sections and with the weight loss i have been left with a really unsightly bag of excess skin.

i work out every other day, usually focusing on running and cardio, but then 15-20 mins of resistance training thrown in, i also do daily squats, push ups and abs at home.

is it normal to change goal when you reach your original goal? (this is my first weight goal, but, as i am generally a quitter i set myself a dress size goal which i reached and broke, i wanted to be a 14 but am now a 10)

Okay, i looked it up twice, and 9 stone is somewhere around 126 pounds. I am not sure of your height but this for most women, unless your really tall is normal. I congrats you so much for your journey to the wieght loss. I understand what it's like to have "excess" skin or "excess fat" that seems like it wont work.

Let me state, in my pictures and weight, I am 15 stones. However, there was a time when I was 10 stones Wow that would be nice... anyways, I had lost 77 pounds from 222 pounds and gained it back (health issues)... not my point, point is...my experiance is... when I had lost that much weight I still saw all these problem areas like stomach pooch, arm flab, skin and big thighs, and hips that never left....

but even though I have gained a lot of weight back (makeing problem areas worse lol)

before I had no strength training or toning excersizes, the weight just kinda fell off. (again health issue)

Now with strength training and cardio, i have lost a lot more inches in areas I thought would never fall off. LOL. I gained muscel but the INCHES DISSAPEARED. LOL

From your post, it does look like your on the right track with the push ups, abs, squats, and resistance, which is all great for toneing.

Changing your excersize goal and calorie intake, is good. It gives your body muscel confusion and helps burn excess fat.

However, changeing your weight goal, of less then 126 pounds or 9 stones as you said, may not be good at all.

Just increase your toneing regiment. Or change it up with weights..or something. It will help.

The only other option is surgery to remove excess skin, but that should not be necessary for you.

Just be very happy you've lost the weight. Some poeople (like me) struggle so much with weight loss. You've done great, you can see it all over your body. Take pictures of yourself, compare. This also helps. Reason is, the "mirror" makes us paranoid sometimes, pictures do not lie. LOL

Minimize your cardio and start lifting more weights.

As others have said, you now need to change your body composition to get the look you want. Here's a picture (I hope) of one woman's weight loss/body comp journey. On the left, a pic of her at her goal weight. On the right, after she ditched cardio and started lifting heavy weights. She weighs more on the left but looks smaller. This is why people are often told not to focus on the scale--it may not really be your end goal.

Thanks for sharing that pic and the advice! I am close to goal too but my body is still soft and untoned after two children. I will start some resistance training to hopefully turn it around

one question. Why is your happiness tied to your weight or your body image? You are so much more than that .

start lifting :happy:

Stop focusing on weight, start eating more (a lot more,based on your dairy), focus on exercise, and give yourself time. And when I say time, I mean at least a year after giving birth and several months after losing the weight. Then reevaluate how you feel about your body. Keep in mind that sometimes the damage done to muscle and skin after c-sections cannot be completely undone without surgery, so do not set unrealistic goals for yourself. Starving will not change anything if you have the "pouch" type thing on your lower belly, above where the scar is.

I have been doing this over and over again. I think it honestly depends on your goal. Would you consider yourself healthy? Last summer, I was so obsessed to lose two more pounds that I started working out an additional two hours a day after working outside all day. In the end, I weighed two pounds heavier at the end of the summer. I was so angry that I totally gave up and here I am starting over. This time, I'm trying not to be so obsessive about the number on the scale because honestly, last summer I was in the best shape of my life and while I was just over the healthy range on the BMI scale, I was a size two. It's easy to feel unhappy about your body; in fact I feel like women are programmed to do so from an early age. What it comes down to, do you feel that you need to make changes for your health? If not, I say continue what you are doing. Don't become obsessed with the scale and try to love yourself.