WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2014

Boy did I have a pleasant surprise tonight. Several nights ago I thought I had lost the black wrist band I wear to sleep for my Fitbit one. The velcro isn't as tight as it used to be so I put sock around it and it stays fine. So I put the FitBit in the sock and it seemed to work fine. Well tonight I was fixing my bedtime snack and something caught my attention since it was hanging off my sweater just below my arm pit. Yes, you guessed. There was my black wrist band. How long had it been there??? I had been to red Lobster with it hanging down my arm. why did no one say anything. And it was really stuck to my sweater. I was surprised that my sweater wasn't damaged by gently pulling it off. So Now I have it back. I didn't have to do some general cleaning in my bedroom after all!

Tummy feeling great tonight!!! Have to get back in the exercise groove but my back is still hurting. I can lift up my leg now but just sitting really hurts my back. Not enough to take a pain pill although I am taking routine Aleve. I DO NOT want to take any Lortab for it.

Still looking for a rental house on the beach somewhere either in the Florida panhandle or in Myrtle beach somewhere. Just wish we would get hubbie hospital bills so we could know what we have to work with. Also wish the gasoline would go down. We would either have to rent a larger van or take two cars down.

Joyce, Indiana

morning all,
last night was not good..
the DH is on the war path again...
he found my print out for the massage on top of my printer and blew his stack,
no one is touching you, and then said thats it he is turning my phone off, and then went into some very colorful language and was screaming and yelling at me.
he left this morning without even saying goodbye to the dogs which he does every morning,and the reason he didnt is because they were in my room..
I wrote him a note.told him I have never told him he cant do something that I have been the best wife I can be, that he is a bully and ,berates me ,and yells at me,and that I dont deserve to be treated that way, that we are equal's
he will never find someone else who will cook for him,make his lunches,shovel,snowblow,laundry etc..
If he thinks the grass is greener on the other side it will be his call..
I dont need this stress...:grumble:
sorry for ranting away..no excersise today. not even hungry

Grandmallie .... hugs and prayers being sent your way....

Agree with Sylvia. :brokenheart:

Cynthia :flowerforyou:

thank you for the support Sylvia...
I feel so bad..I have to work from 10-6 today and that will keep me busy,but I am just getting worn down
right now I have my puppy in my lap to make me feel better, bless the dogs, they get treated like royalty as they should be..
I will look into some sort of counseling..
my SIL called last night and she is coming over thursday and we are going to look at assisted living homes for my FIL,
he is just getting worse, yes she is lazy and doesnt take great care of him,but he is ornery and will not listen to her, he has been trying to leave the house and wait for the bus that takes him to daycare at inappropriate times,he is sleeping in his clothes and urinated all over ..
I feel bad for him, and for them, but with all that is going on ,there is no way we could bring him here...
I am sorry to be such a downer so I will check in after work maybe.. depending on the mood in the house

Good morning beautiful ladies:flowerforyou:

Popping in late this morning:blushing: !

Alison I`m worried for you ! Please check back in after work, so we know you`re okay:flowerforyou: ! I do agree with Sylvia!!! You`ve just had more on your plate the last few months:sad: , please take the time to take care of you!!! The massage is well deserved and well needed!!!

Cynthia Your guy sounds like a wonderful man !!!!

I`ve read all the posts and I`m wishing everyone well:flowerforyou: !!!

Have a great day ladies! Drink your water:drinker: :drinker: :drinker: and log your food!!

Hugs,
DeeDee in NC where we had snow yesterday afternoon

Good Morning all... from snowy Virginia... This winter has been an interesting one for us hasn't it? Makes me want to eat LOTS of comfort food and read a book in front of the fireplace. Exercise?? haha!
We used to live outside of Chicago -- it was do hard for me to commit to exercise there -- soooo cold, for soooo long! Good luck to all of you "northerners!" dealing with this crazy winter.

Allison -- I agree with the rest. Please try and find someone to talk to. I'm glad you feel comfortable venting here, but I really worry when I read your posts and I want you to be safe. Hugs.

I spent yesterday at the vet with the little dog. We were afraid she had a flareup of her pancreatitis, but instead has a UTI. Glad for the lesser diagnosis, but the timing is crummy with record cold and snow! We're bundling up and off for a walk, albeit short one!

Have a great day all!
hugs to you.
xoxo
tammy

Alison - I can hardly trust myself to say what I think, but of course I send you my love and support for whatever you decide to do. :
Personally there would be a lawyer, a locksmith and police protection asap. At the very least contact Domestic Abuse TODAY, if only for a chat, to hear what they say and to unburden yourself. Let him look after his own father.
My very best wishes xxxxxxxxx and loads of ((((((((hugs)))))))).

Heather

Not really my business and you don't know me, but they are right. This is serious. You are not the "problem", he is. Please, get some help. My prayers!!!

D (from freezing pipes, Buffalo, NY)

MA in UK: Excellent goals. I log every bite and swallow, and that is the secret of my success, along with moving more.:flowerforyou:

Heather in Hampshire: Good luck with your knees. I hope you’re able to get an appointment. I started this whole weight loss adventure because I gave myself bursitis in my left knee while riding a horse. Knee pain is awful. I was/am really motivated to lose weight because I want more riding lessons and want to ride pain free. It is the fire in my determination. Yoga doesn’t cause me to burn fewer calories. It makes me more flexible and boosts my metabolism. I don’t see why it would cause you to burn fewer calories. I wonder what sort of yoga you do. I think I’ll look for the Happiness Project at the library. It sounds like you get a lot of good ideas there.:flowerforyou:

Barbie: Our knitting choices are similar. Dishrags and blankets are useful. I do love your red sweater but don’t have the confidence to try to knit one. My cousin bought a place in AZ and winters there with his wife. She and my DH both have MS and sunshine is helpful. From their email messages I gather they’re in a senior resort with lots of activities and parties. If horseback riding was on the list I’d be envious, but bocce ball and golf don’t tempt me. DH and I are definitely “retire in place” sorts of people. We initially envisioned retiring in the San Juan Islands, but abandoned the idea when we found our river side townhouse here in OR. We need easy access to specialized medical help that is available here because of DH’s health issues.:flowerforyou:

Alison: I’m both proud of you for standing up to your DH and also more than a little scared for you. Is he likely to harm you physically? Sylvia has given you some good advice. You need to develop a contingency plan. Stay safe or get safe.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

LizPlus from Halifax: Happy Anniversary!:bigsmile: :flowerforyou:

Tammy: What is UTI?:huh:



Yoga today, and then visits to the eye doctor. We’ll see what is what for DH’s vision, and also I plan to get new glasses while they’re still partially covered by health insurance. I don’t think I’ll have any financial help with that once I go on Medicare in July.

Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison


March goals:

1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Move more: cardio at least 3 days a week and strength training as soon as I am able.
3. Find a way to have fun at least once every day.
4. Water: According to an article I saw on facebook, drinking water at certain times maximizes its effectiveness for the body. I’ll work toward following these guidelines:
* 2 glasses of water after waking up - helps activate internal organs
* 1 glass of water 30 minutes before a meal - helps digestion
* 1 glass of water before taking a bath - helps lower blood pressure
* 1 glass of water before going to bed - avoids stroke or heart attack

Good morning,

Deedee:drinker:

Lizplus Happy Anniversary!:flowerforyou:

Alison I agree your DH overreacted. I know my DH was not comfortable when I had a man do massages for me. He told me in much kinder terms. I quit having the man give me massages because when he gave me my last massage he complained the whole time he could have been giving a massage to a client who called him last minute and was a big tipper. I did not stop going to him because of DH. I now have a wonderful woman who I trust give me massages. Alison from other things you have shared he does sound reactive to me. Has he always been like this? Certain medical conditions can aggravate this. Good luck in standing up for yourself. His treatment was out of line.

Joyce glad you are feeling better. Sounds like a great way to celebrate.

Patsy sorry about your uncle. Dementia is not an easy condition to handle. About your niece :brokenheart: glad you are there for her.

Cythia DH what a support!

Heather have you had physical therapy with your knee. I agree sounds like it is time to do something.

Katla sweet potatoes yum!

Pennie I had the stomach bug twice this winter so I know how it can wear you out. Glad you are on the mend.

Barbie I agree about the restaurants.

Goal:
Take care of myself today, so I have a healthier tomorrow.
2014 word:contentment

Alison,

Take a look at this link...http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

And yes, verbal abuse IS violence.

They spell it out clearly and simply, and give some information about what you can do... http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm

Even if he is not physically abusive YET, it may only be a matter of time. Does he have access to guns? Has he ever threatened you physically?

I don't know how old your husband is, or what his mental health history is, but sometimes abusive behavior can be a of sign depression or the onset of dementia. But it doesn't matter. You have got to protect yourself. You come first right now!

From what you have said before, he later apologizes for what he said or did, but that doesn't make up for the fact that he does it again and again. Apologies are just another form of manipulation and control!

Do you have family and friends to confide in? Do you go to a church? Could you confide in a boss or coworker?

Please let us know what's going on and how you are feeling. We really do care about you!

Sylvia

Can a new great Grma brag a little? Carson Maxwell was born yesterday,healthy & a big bouncing baby at 8lbs- 11 0z,21" long.
His Momma is a little bit of a thing,so his size was a surprise.

Both are in good health.She was feeding him within 10 mins of birth.You can see his pic on my home site.

Katla,I would call your insur rep & get insur info on any RV you consider. Also find out the diesel mileage.....taken with a grain of salt, the cost of nice campgrounds,a car to tow,& how it would be towed On a trailer or? All will need insur.

Does he realize that each eve stop means the RV usually needs to be backed into a site,then hooked up to water,elec & sewer?
In rain/wind/cold,that can be quite a chore. Come morn,all the lines need to be unhooked,wiped down & stowed away. Getting fuel can be an adventure of it's own. Just saying.

Thanks about info on eating more to lose.Gonna keep reading about that.

Quote "Hi lovely ladies. My goals work better for me when I can express them in actions over which I have control. At my age, that means deciding what to eat and drink in a day and what exercise to do. I find I have little control over how many lbs my body will shed at my age
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Allison,Worried about you.All you do/take care of,no way anyone should put you down.Please confide in someone,keep safe in whatever way works for you.

It's a lovely day of warm sunshine in Ohio.Going to wait another day or 2 before venturing out. The cold hangs on. Pat in Ohio

Happy fat tues.
Allison,worried about you also.I know from experience with a verbal abusive ex husband.
Sending hugs and prayers.Please,take care of yourself.
HUGs to you all
jane

Alison - Please listen to Sylvia and the rest of us. One key behavior pattern in domestic violence is the apologies after the fact, blaming the violent behavior on something else (work stress, the beer made me do it, etc), never taking total responsibility.

Developing a contingency plan is a great idea. It should include where you can go to be safe, getting critical papers together (preferably in a safety deposit box or somewhere not in the house), having a stash of money, credit cards, whatever you can put together.

Please let us know you are safe and OK

Hugs, Jill in western MA

Alison, add me to the list of those who are concerned for you. Please find someone you can talk to and help sort things out.

Barbie, thanks for the link to the plank video. The same nice-looking young man also had a video on doing crunches on a stability ball that was helpful. One of my goals is to work on strength and flexibility.

That's all I have time for right now. Have a good day everyone!
Kay - WI