Relationship issues hurting my workout schedule

I do not know exactly what relationship issues you are dealing with, but I'll tell you what I did.

A few weeks ago, specifically February 14th ((Yes, Valentine's Day)), my first and probably last boyfriend broke up with me because of my issues. He thought it'd be better for him to stay out of the picture. Little *kitten*.

I cried, didn't want to go to swim practice anymore, because he's on the team as well.
I didn't want to do anything. I just wanted to stay home and cry.

Even though I never want to go to practice anymore, I do. I go because I'm not going to let my exboyfriend stop me from doing the sport that I love.

If you want to go work out, just do it. Don't let your feelings get in the way here. It's your life, you're in charge of it.

I see him every single day, and I have to remind myself that it's over, and there's nothing I can do about it. I have to remind myself, not to let it control me.

Every day I wake up feeling unloved, unimportant, and idiotic. Then the two people I keep closest remind me that the voices in my head speak nothing but lies. Sometimes I believe them sometimes I don't.

Don't let it control your life. YOU are still in control.

Even if you don't want to work out, do it anyway. Exercise has been shown to increase dopamine and seratonin in the brain decreasing or eliminating both chronic and episodic depression.

I don't know what kind of relationship issues you have, either, since you don't explain, but if you stop exercising you could end up falling into a cycle detrimental to your health and well-being. I did this for almost 20 years until I just couldn't take it anymore.

If someone else hurt you, by allowing yourself to fall into decline, you give that person attention over you and power over you which they don't need or deserve.

Don't let the other person win. You're worth so much more.

I wish you well. :flowerforyou:

You should probably talk to a professional about this. This is a pretty big, life changing thing.

Realistically I think you need to be a bit easier on yourself at the moment. Exercise and loosing weight isn't your first priority at the moment and that is ok. This is a massive, life changing thing you are dealing with. Your bf sounds like he is trying to make it easier on your, I suppose you need to figure out what you want from your life and if you want to fight for it. Regardless of whether or not he is disabled for life, it isn't something he can expect you to just walk away from. Switching off emotions are just not that easy!

If I were you I would try to maybe go for long walks, time to think, but still exercising, moving, doing something! It is about taking it slowly, but not to binge eat, comfort eat etc as that will only make you feel worse. Maybe write when you feel down etc or do some home exercises. Right now it is about managing your emotions positively and not berating yourself for life turning upside down for a little while. It will get better though, I have been in a similar situation.