weightloss and feeling lonely?

smilesalot1996
smilesalot1996 Posts: 22
in Motivation and Support
So ive been on the journey for about 2 months I have lost weight and I have made it a personal habit of mine to workout every single day of the week. Lately though the entire process has been getting me down.I feel like ive become some what of a loner in the process. I know im doing this for me and only me but being alone in this is so annoying. I will get mad at the scale because I feel like2 pounds per week is not enough I wanna lose weight faster. I wanna be beautiful and thinner finally be the attractive one instead of the fat friend with the great personality. I wanna wake up and feel like im completely happy with myself but it can never be that way. It hasn't happened yet. I feel so alone in these thoughts and the anger and frustration. How do I stay motivated and does anyone else out there feel the same way.

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  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    i have been in the exact same spot. it is hard as apart from my mfp i am doing this alone. looking back all i needed to do is trust the process will work and be patient. most important never stop trying regardless of what the damned scales say. good luck. x
  • RunMyOregonBunsOff
    RunMyOregonBunsOff Posts: 862 Member
    Embrace the success you have already made because you're that much closer than you were. It can be a little lonely but that's what your friends on mfo are here. You can also join somekind of local fitness group so you have people there with the same goals. Try not to stress because that's counter productive. You can do it! Good luck!
  • onandoff
    onandoff Posts: 122 Member
    2 pounds per week is GREAT. Just imagine what you'll be like 365 days later.
    Avoid falling into the pitfalls of wanting results fast. Small steps on the long term are much better. Do not stress too much and find ways to enjoy the process of change.
  • Super_Amy
    Super_Amy Posts: 97 Member
    Two pounds a week is super. Fantastic.

    I work out every day at the gym except Sunday and I get what you are saying. I take two classes a week (kick boxing and strength training) and I really enjoy the interaction with the other class members. Maybe you can try that? Its fun.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    So ive been on the journey for about 2 months I have lost weight and I have made it a personal habit of mine to workout every single day of the week. Lately though the entire process has been getting me down.I feel like ive become some what of a loner in the process. I know im doing this for me and only me but being alone in this is so annoying. I will get mad at the scale because I feel like2 pounds per week is not enough I wanna lose weight faster. I wanna be beautiful and thinner finally be the attractive one instead of the fat friend with the great personality. I wanna wake up and feel like im completely happy with myself but it can never be that way. It hasn't happened yet. I feel so alone in these thoughts and the anger and frustration. How do I stay motivated and does anyone else out there feel the same way.

    I think you need to work on your self esteem, or you will lose weight but realise you still dont feel beautiful and attractive...
  • Broderick50
    Broderick50 Posts: 842 Member
    I know the feeling also. When I'm in the gym I'm all business it's work time, but the minute I walk out it's like someone let the air out of my balloon. It sucks but this is my life right now just know there are others out here like you.
  • GlitterrMagpie
    GlitterrMagpie Posts: 302 Member
    You're already beautiful :flowerforyou: The first few months are the toughest, just stick with it and once those pounds start adding up and you can see a real difference in how you look and feel it will all be worth it. 2 pounds a week is fantastic, you're doing great! Well done.
  • fitastik14
    fitastik14 Posts: 12
    So ive been on the journey for about 2 months I have lost weight and I have made it a personal habit of mine to workout every single day of the week. Lately though the entire process has been getting me down.I feel like ive become some what of a loner in the process. I know im doing this for me and only me but being alone in this is so annoying. I will get mad at the scale because I feel like2 pounds per week is not enough I wanna lose weight faster. I wanna be beautiful and thinner finally be the attractive one instead of the fat friend with the great personality. I wanna wake up and feel like im completely happy with myself but it can never be that way. It hasn't happened yet. I feel so alone in these thoughts and the anger and frustration. How do I stay motivated and does anyone else out there feel the same way.

    Kudos to daily activity, BUT...rest is just as important! I would add in 1-2 rest days a week. And let me tell you something...the harsh TRUTH...beauty comes from within. If you don't love yourself on the inside, no size and/or shape on the outside will make you happy. I have a cousin going through this...lost about 70+ lbs and is borderline anorexic b/c she's not happy with herself...."Everything in her life is wrong..."

    You are working towards a fit 'lifestyle,' not just a weight loss journey. What do you think will happen if you go back to your old ways after you reach goal weight?! Just focus on 'feeling' happy....'feeling' good and the rest will fall into place. :)

    As for the loner part, try to find like-minded friends. MFP ppl are here, always; I know, I've been here for 9-10 months. Post an ad on craigslist or something to find a gym buddy IRL. Be proactive.

    Good luck!

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