Family and friends not supportive!!!!

And that is exactly why I don't let MFP post to FB. I have a group of FB friends (closed group) and I have my friends on here. Those are the supportive ones, or they wouldn't be in those groups.

My husband and kids are being great about it. Other than that - I don't care what anyone else says - at least not for the most part.

Find friends on here - and let us support you - don't worry about the rest. After all - are you doing this for them, or you?

I wish you the best of luck - and you can friend me if you want to.

I don't share on FB, either... Not because I think people would be unsupportive, but because:
1) Everyone seems to have an (uneducated) opinion on what you should be doing.
2) Unless I'm asking for help or endangering myself, it's no one's business what I eat or how much I exercise.
3) I am kind of excited for the holidays when family who haven't seen me are surprised by my progress!

I think if you want to continue to live your life in a healthy way, you have to do it for just yourself and no one else.

Don't get me wrong, I feel ecstatic when someone says positive words towards my weightloss, but eventually it all stops.

And there will always be someone who thinks the way you are going about it is wrong or that you are doing too much or too little or you're eating too many carbs or your eating too little carbs or that you shouldn't drink milk or that you're obsessed ect ect ect. (trust me I've heard it ALL).

So take what people say with a grain of salt and just do you. If you feel that you really need that encouragement, find friends on MFP that have the same values as you do and you guys can encourage yourself online.

I agree with all of the above!!

I have always been fairly private about my weight loss efforts. At first, like when I was going from 307 lb down to 260-270 lb (before I joined this website) it was because I was A) ashamed of my weight and didn't want to draw attention to it and afraid that my efforts wouldn't produce results anyway.

But once I joined MFP one year ago and started losing more rapidly, I eventually became more comfortable talking with supportive friends and family about what I am doing. But I quickly learned that you will have naysayers who are appalled at your daily calories being too low and/or jealous of your progress, and they will only bring you down! Do not give people an opportunity to do that. I have lost over 100 lb and thus far, kept it off, and I am still going. But there are people in my life (mostly acquaintances) who occasionally ask what I'm doing to lose weight and then say "OH that doesn't really work" or insist that calorie counting doesn't work for them, but they have lost 2 lb in 5 months because of their exercise regime. All I can say to that is dang, if I was 150 lb overweight and killing myself in the gym and lost less than 1 lb/month I'd be p**sed!

I don't post much on FB related to diet and weight loss. I do sometimes talk about a great hike or bike ride, and share some yummy healthy recipes occasionally, but I'm honestly not obnoxious with it like "This has 5 carb and all natural OMG", it's more likely that I'll be proud of a huge plate of summer rolls with their gorgeous veggies and basil inside and post a photo of that.

However, reaching the 1 year point this month and being at almost 70 lb lost on the site, I decided to share some before & after photos on FB. About 95% of the feedback was positive & encouraging. BUT I noticed 2 obese girlfriends of mine (who both "like" and comment on TONS of my other posts) did not "like" it or comment...I thought that was something worth noting. I think they're threatened by my progress to be honest.

Then, worse - this guy I went to high school with - a casual friend - decided to come in with tons of suggestions about all of the workouts I need to do and every time I'd make a polite comment like "Thanks for the ideas, I'm pretty happy with X, Y, and Z" or "Yeah I do have a lot of energy already" he got more and more snotty about it, posting tons of suggestions and criticism (of my exercise choices, not my body directly), which made me feel like crud honestly!!

I don't regret sharing that post but it just reminded me of why sometimes it is better to just keep it a bit more to yourself.

YOU are who you're doing it for anyway!

Old saying........"you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family"

Well done on the weightloss, you are doing great. Grab some friends on MFP and as well as getting support, you can be supportive to others. Its a win, win situation!!

I'm the house cook so my hubby eats better even when not trying:) I refuse to cook multiple meals so I've learned to make dishes they love healthier for all of us and it works for us ( hubby is skinny to start with.. That's rough and a junk food lover)
Try these: 1 cake mix ( Betty Crocker is lower cals) then add only 1 cup low cal Greek yogurt ( flavor of your choice) then 1 cup of water....that's it no oil, egg.
Follow the baking instructions for temp and time.
These are amazing no way he will know they are lower cal and you can have them too!
Good luck!

Hey guys for amazing weight loss results find me on Facebook @ Getting Healthy With Chelsea. And I will answer any questions.
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I deal with this exact same thing at my work. They are all sugar addicts and overweight. They make fun that I don't eat the junk that is on the table, all the time.
They feel guilty about there addiction and don't realize it. I was going to tell them that if I ate the garbage it would not make them feel any better about themselves. Misery loves company. They all have excuses. I'm old, gotta die of something, gotta enjoy myself. Well I know there miserable...and I eat a lot....all good food. And, I do have some junk once and awhile, but on my terms on my plan. Myfit has been key on that. Look at what they look like. There denial is so strong....So
**** them.....its your life, your in charge of your choices. You grew up, if they can't , it's there problem. Don't ague and don't flaunt your gains. Posting in a group of people who are not on the same page, only back fires. Your rewards will be endless.....smile and take out you frustration on a new workout. And that girl that goes to DQ ....about she's a really trend setter....poor girl. I ALMOST fell sorry...but that is her life...

They feel bad about themselves, because they quit and you didn't. Gather some more friends here on MFP, people who will support and celebrate your successes, and forget about getting it from family and friends.

Agreed.