Just joined... Need to loose a lot.... approx. 35Kgs

Well, I can tell you that you've come to the right place! MFP is full of motivated people who really want to help each other succeed. Good luck!

Hi and welcome to this wonderful place.

I too have around that weight to lose.

I tell you how to achieve it: by taking one step at a time. I know it's quite depressing to think of 35 kgs in total, and the time it will take to lose them.

First step is to start logging your food, then slowly changing one thing, getting used to it, then change another thing, get used to it... and so on.
Like cutting down calories slowly, not all at once. Give your stomach and body time to adjust to the changes you're going to make. If you change dramatically all your habits, you might not stick with it.
Slowly try to eat less calories, until you're at that number MFP gives you. Don't forget to drink a lot of water!

Just as slow as cutting down calories, add some exercise. Not too much at the beginning, again give your body time to get used to those changes. If you hit the gym too bad at the beginning, you might give up because you're sore all over.
Start with a short walk or 5 or 10 minutes if you haven't done anything at all so far.... slowly adding minutes...

And fix some mini-goals. It's good to have small short term goals, which are easy to achieve, this gives you more motivation than seeing a very big number and knowing it takes an eternity to reach that goal.

Step by step you'll come closer to your goal...

Wish you good luck!

MM

take it one day at a time. if you have a day where you "mess up", that's okay - just keep going... you will get there...