Help needed!!!!

Hello, not that you have taken the first steps, you now need a support network of friends that will give you support and motivation along the way and to keep you on the straight and narrow, I am getting on with MFP as feel free to add me, what I am doing is setting a overall target and then setting mini goals along the way to get going as this helps with the psychological side of things

I found that this time around adding people from the MFP community has really kept me motivated. I will add you as a friend and hopefully if you add enough of us you will stick with it. Sure is easy to fall off the wagon, but nice when you have people who will help you back on

What has helped me stick to doing exercise everyday was to pick activities I really enjoy.
I started with walking, swimming and jogging and now I'm enjoying spin class and weight training.
Feel free to add me if you are still looking for support.

I understand what you are going through because I have been through it too! Its one of those things where just because you eat a biscuit doesnt mean you lost! This is a game and if you think of it that way you will win! Have you ever played Mario or any other video game? You have to start at the beginning you may lose a life and then game over but all that happens is you get three more lives and you start back at the beginning of the level. The point is you just keep on going! Stop thinking about yourself on a DIET and eating DIET food! Eat the things you like but in small moderation. Start by cutting one small thing out or not even cutting it out but not eating or drinking it as often. Like soda. I now only drink water, no soda or ice tea or even coffee. I dont exercise a lot but I have seen a change just by doing that small thing. Dont get me wrong I do occasionally drink those things but on special occasions like birthdays or parties, or when im just really craving (coffee!). I also snack ALL DAY LONG. Little things like carrots and freeze dried fruit or i'll eat a greek yogart or oat meal. I dont know these are just things I do and I find it works! Eat all day long dont deprive yourself of the things you like just make healthier decisions. When you go to McD dont get fries and a burger get a grilled chicken sandwich and a small soda. I really hope this helps you.

MFP friends are good for motivation but also to help you get ideas about how to eat at a calorie deficit so that you don't feel you're hungry or deprived (you may feel peckish early on as you adapt) - look at friends' diaries for menu ideas - seeing what works for other people is so helpful - you will see that people losing do eat normal food

One of the keys for me is to eat proper food and cut most of the cr-p out - planning in a treat is a great idea eg I plan in a small amount of chocolate and a glass of wine (or 2) most days. Planning my food for the day in advance helps me too. I log before I eat so that I can see the damage before I have actually eaten it.
Also look at all the different things people do for exercise (not essential but excellent for lifting the spirit - and earning more calories!). You will see that exercising can be really enjoyable - need not take huge amounts of time and need not depend on expensive membership fees etc. Walking and/or jogging are free.

You are certainly not disgusting - you do sound a bit depressed. If being more active and eating more healthily does not help you feel better you may need to address that with some help.

Good luck - you can do this.

I will help you! I do not Diet. I however have found some healthy foods very tasty.And I monitor my intake of food.
One other thing I use is my FITBIT to monitor my calories burned, And I try for 1000 calories a day deficit. Using this site and my Fitbit site I have managed to loose 40 pounds. It will not happen overnight but if you can deficit 1000 calories a day it can translate to 2 pounds a week. My 40 pounds weight loss took me 160 days because I would fall off of the wagon now and then. Another thing I did was joined a walking club. I walk every day trying to do 10000 steps or more a day. So keep Blogging and I wish all the success

If you are not happy with yourself, the only one who can change that is you... Folks on MFP can give you ideas, advice and encouragement, but you need to find the motivation yourself. Think of one thing that you really want to change about your life that you can achieve by getting healthier. I am a Type 2 diabetic, for me my initial motivation was to stop needing insulin injections. Every time I wanted to give up, I would think about that goal. I no longer need injections, so I've reached that goal. Now I've come up with some other goals.

You did not gain weight overnight, so it will not magically disappear. Think of this as a marathon, not a sprint. However rather than focusing on how far you have to go, focus on today. I set myself two goals each morning (1) eat within my calorie goal (2) exercise at least 30 minutes. I only have to worry about being 'good' today. However I know if I string enough 'good' days together then the weight will come off.

Weight loss is ultimately about calories in versus calories out. You must eat at a deficit to lose weight. The problem many people have is that they are either under estimating their calories in or over estimating their calories out. I'm a firm believer in
gathering accurate data so that you can make fact based decisions. For the calories in side of the equations make sure you weigh and log everything you eat and drink. For the calories out, you might want to consider a FitBit or similar activity tracker.
With your job, you might find you are burning a more calories than you think because you are on your feet all day.

Once you get an accurate picture of your calories in and calories out, you can then determine what changes you should make. To lose 1lb per week you need to burn 500 more calories than you eat each day. To lose 2lb per week you need to burn 1000 more calories than you eat each day.

And finally, remember that weight loss is not linear. There will be weeks when you are confident that you ate at a deficit to lose 2lbs, but yet the scale shows no loss. Other weeks you will eat at a 2lb deficit, but the scale will move more than 2lb. Weight fluctuations quite a bit due to hormones and water. What you really want to look for is a steady downward trend.

Don't just focus on a number on the scale. You are more than a number. Take photos and measurements so you can see changes in other ways. Celebrate the non-scale victories - loser clothes, a smaller size, doing something you could not do before, etc. This should be about becoming healthier which is much more than a number on the scale.

lot's of good points here

I will point out a couple of things that may help you realize your goals,
You need to assess your caloric needs. Initially you should be able to lose at a good rate (say 2 pounds a week)
to do it (or confirm the numbers MFP has given you) try

http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/

You can calculate
- your TDEE (how many calories you need to stay the same weight right now - this changes so revisit it say monthly)
-Your BMR - Base Metabolic Rate - what you need to just sleep 24 hours

to lose 1 pound per week - reduce tdee by 500 calories
to lose 2 pounds per week - reduce by 1000 calorie

Though I now exercise daily I still use the Sedentary settings on calculators. I then eat back at least 50% of the calories I burn through exercise. I do it this way because i have a sedentary job so on an off day i'm focused on the correct number to still lose

Have a look at others diaries for inspiration, and if you want constructive criticism set your diary to open so people could give feedback

Now for the hard part - to really do this right you need to log everything that passes your lips, and to do that you need to weigh it not use a measuring cup or guess based on packaging (packaging uses an average and the items actually vary quite a bit)
If you are off in the calculation by 100 calories a day that's 36500 calories a year - 11 pounds
the same is true for measuring caloric burn, you can estimate based on calculators but a Fitbit or Heart Rate monitor will be more accurate (and they can still be off - which is why you don't eat back all the exercise calories)

You've made the first step congratulations, if you want you can add me and I will encourage you

Look, it's not that I want to be callous, but this is just like being in a 12 step program. You can share about this issue until you are blue in the face but if there is no true desire or action behind the sharing, you will be discussing this "problem" forever and never reach a solution.

AND, the only solution, the only answer lies in watching what you eat and exercising. There is no magic bullet that will give you extra will-power. There are no magic words that will get you to be motivated. One has to eat a healthy breakfast, early, and one has to do exercise. It's uncomfortable and it's hard at first but one has to keep on doing it until one gets that energy surge that inevitably comes. It takes weeks, not days. It will take at least 6 weeks before you start to actually nootice that you are doing the exercises better and they are not as hard as they were when you started.

Here are examples of starting small and getting bigger. I began to walk to work which is just under 2 miles (3.5 kilometers-I assume youare in a non-US country becasue you said "biscuits"), and walking briskly, not strolling. I walk back home as well. I walk everywhere I can. I have the distances timed so I know how long it takes me to get from point A to point B.

I don't keep junk food in the house. If you live with your parents, ask them to help. Tea Time is a bad time. It's an excuse to drink sugary cups of tea and simple carbohydrates.

Culture is also no excuse. I hear people say like "I'm Italian, we eat pasta" or "I'm Irish, we drink" or "I'm Spanish, we like rice." For that matter, I could say "I'm American, we like excess." This one really irks me; "I have a sweet tooth." Please, it's still no excuse.

You have to get out of your comfort zone. The comfort zone could also be feeling down and uninspired. It's really easy to give up. It's really comfortable to say "I'm never going to lose weight so why bother." You are better than that. You are a human being with the capacity to run, jump, think, reason, and with all those human traits. YOu can do it, you just have to DO IT. JUST DO IT, like Nike!

I have faith that everyone can do it. I have faith in you too. YOu look young so do it while you're young. YOu can do it when you are older as well, but it will take more work.

I used to be a platinum card holder member of the "falling off the wagon" club until I realised this thought in itself is the wrong way to look at things. When starting on a new diet plan, it's so tempting to think "right from this day onwards I will eat X calories per day and exercise Y times per week and therefore lose Z lbs per month" and, while this can be very motivational to begin with, what most of us fail to take into account is that changes in diet and exercise can often take time to fit into our busy lives. Therefore when we inevitably give into our cravings or avoid the gym because we're too tired, we often see it as failure. What you need to do is give yourself a break. If you find yourself "falling off the wagon", don't beat yourself up about it and don't give up! Take the time to figure out what happened and what tweaks you need to make, so gradually you build up a diet and exercise plan that works for you.

As an example - I started a new job in a new country 6 months ago and for the first 4 months I lost no weight, but made a lot of progress in terms of figuring out how to make a diet and exercise plan fit my life. In that time I learned what macros worked for me (I wasn't eating enough protein), how to get my food (there is no chance of me making my lunch to take to work with me so I've found where I can buy the right food during the work day) and what exercise worked for me (I had no motivation to run, so unsurprisingly failed every morning to get up and go for a jog as planned, but I have now become addicted to weight training and actually look forward to going to the gym after work to de-stress). I also figured out with the help of MFP what was sabotaging my attempts, and a large part of that was lack of sleep, leading to tiredness at work, leading to two grande caramel lattes a day at over 300 calories each,,, Once I made sure I got to bed at a decent hour - hey presto. I'm now really seeing weight loss results and I'm still learning and tweaking.

Also being active is a great excuse to make new friends. I have a regular Saturday morning hike with a group of girls I met through a girl who moved here the same time as I did. It's really a 2-hour girly gossip but takes place as you all walk up a hill. I burn over 1000 calories each time I do it and these girls have now become good friends.

So in summary - don't be down on yourself if you don't get it right. Learn, adjust, and keep going until you have your perfect exercise and diet regime. Seek help if you need to from fitness professionals. And go out and try something active, because there are some great friends out there waiting to meet you. Good luck!!