How do you motivate yourself?

I have absolutely no motivation whatsoever to go to the gym. I do not know how to motivate myself at all. I have gained 10 pounds over the last 6 months and have hit my 200 lb mark. I have noticed that my back has begun hurting because of the additional weight, I have no energy, and my confidence has taken a nosedive. I know if I don't do anything I will just get worse, but I don't know why all that I have said above is not motivation enough for me to go. I previously started going around this time last year and lost about 8 pounds, but I stopped going after I stopped losing weight. How do you motivate yourself?
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  • taytaylynn3
    taytaylynn3 Posts: 601
    I look at myself naked in the mirror. That always helps.
  • _wilky_
    _wilky_ Posts: 2
    For me,

    I find that having a goal to lose weight is not always a good idea, it's hard to see any real progress all the time. Have you thought about setting a different goal? maybe a 5 - 10k Run? will give you something to aim, train and diet for and the weight will come off along the way....

    Enjoy the process and the results will come
  • runningjen74
    runningjen74 Posts: 312 Member
    At the start, I signed up to a 5km run and told people about it. I bought a jacket that was just a little too tight and told people about it. I essentially embarrassed myself in to doing it.

    Honestly now, sure, the odd time I need a kick up the bum, but it's just what I do. I run 3+ times a week, I lift weights 2+ times a week, I do pilates, I try to keep active outside of that. I try to plan social activities around being active - meeting a friend for a walk/hike/etc... I eat as healthily as I can. I still have a piece of cake and a glass of wine, but I'm back completely on track straight after. As it turns out, I've signed up for another run - a half marathon. I'm afraid to skip on my training sessions in case I can't finish the run - a definite possibility. It's in July. But really it's not motivation, it's just what I do.

    Due to family illness I was away before Christmas and wasn't able to keep my routine going. I got headaches, felt miserable, etc... Just don't want to feel like that again.

    Motivation gets you started but habit is what keeps you going.
  • healthygreek
    healthygreek Posts: 2,137 Member
    I look at exercise as something that is non-negotiable. The way I always must brush my teeth in the morning-I must workout 6 days a week and on the 7th day make sure I stay active doing fun things with my family. I've been working out for years but I remember it took about 1 month to fully establish my exercise habit. If I go away, I always make sure I walk everywhere or swim if its that kind of vaca. I feel tired and irritable when I don't get to move enough.
    I love to eat and I would be miserable eating 1200 calories a day so I know I need to move my body.
    I eat whole foods that I cook from scratch with fruits for snacks and dessert and chocolate everyday.
    I know if I feed my self well and balanced, I will naturally feel energetic and satisfied, with no need to binge.
  • cheles2014
    cheles2014 Posts: 3 Member
    If I'm ever struggling to workout, I remind myself that I ALWAYS feel better, not worse, after a workout!
  • winyin
    winyin Posts: 29 Member
    My motivation started after my Mother came to live with me. She was in the first signs of dementia (altimeters). She had gotten hurt and was not as active as she used to be. I watch her go from able to take care but should live by herself to in a nursing home not able to walk or talk. I don't want to end up like that so i go to the gym 3 times a week, zumba one night and jog 5 days a week. I just remember that if you don't take care of yourself now someone will be doing it for you down the road.
  • bassclef19
    bassclef19 Posts: 53 Member
    I look at exercise as something that is non-negotiable. The way I always must brush my teeth in the morning-I must workout 6 days a week and on the 7th day make sure I stay active doing fun things with my family. I've been working out for years but I remember it took about 1 month to fully establish my exercise habit. If I go away, I always make sure I walk everywhere or swim if its that kind of vaca. I feel tired and irritable when I don't get to move enough.
    I love to eat and I would be miserable eating 1200 calories a day so I know I need to move my body.
    I eat whole foods that I cook from scratch with fruits for snacks and dessert and chocolate everyday.
    I know if I feed my self well and balanced, I will naturally feel energetic and satisfied, with no need to binge.

    This is it right here.
  • amylg05
    amylg05 Posts: 89 Member
    Think about the awesome body you're going to have at the end of all your hard work! And I find that once I'm at the gym or start working out, I build more energy and don't mind it so much even if I was feeling de-motivated in the first place :>
  • Iknewyouweretrouble
    Iknewyouweretrouble Posts: 561 Member
    bump I am so (gym) unmotivated that my pep talk has laryngitis.
  • salvationsdying
    salvationsdying Posts: 205 Member
    I always wanted to lose weight, I never honestly tried until last month. I had a few health problems and they came from me balloning up to 271 since I had my daughter 2 yrs ago. I was 225 the day I was released. I knew I was getting bad. But steping on the scale at my drs and seeing 271 then my doctor telling me my health problems was coming from my weight killed me. I started the next day and I'm 20 down and feeling good. I see my baby girl and I know I want to live for her. And set a good example for her.
  • Natmarie73
    Natmarie73 Posts: 287 Member
    If you don't want to go to the gym then don't! Find an excersise you do like - go for a hike, ride a bike, go for a run, swim, play a sport, go kayaking, learn to dance, ice skate - whatever suits you. There is more to excersising than lifting weights or doing aerobics classes!

    My sister has never ever in her whole life been active. After finishing treatment for breast cancer she took up dragonboating with a breast cancer survival group and now trains a few days each week and has started competing both nationally and soon will be going to the US for a regatta in Florida. She and I are also going trekking to Everest Base Camp in Nepal - 17 days of trekking up and down mountains - and she has started training for that as well by walking and slow jogging etc. And this from a person who has been a life-long smoker and couch potato!

    You just gotta find your buzz!
  • I'm subscribed to fitness people on YouTube who I think are inspirational. They give me motivation :) and fitspiration pics help too.
  • Mario_Az
    Mario_Az Posts: 1,331 Member
    You keep pushing because you believe in yourself and in your vision, and you know that it is the right thing to do and success will come" Arnold Schwarzenegger
  • TattooedNici
    TattooedNici Posts: 2,141 Member
    Want to get into better shape, so I can out run the cops when I go on my crime spree.
  • I look at myself naked in the mirror. That always helps.


    Yep, same deal with me. Side on images make me put on my running shoes and get out there!
  • salvationsdying
    salvationsdying Posts: 205 Member
    That keeps me motivated to work out but I can't afford a gym membership. We just bought a house and I'm a stay at home mom so I do videos from youtube
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Here's the thing: It's not about motivation. It's about determination. It's making the right choices consistently, whether you feel like it or not.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I'm getting older. I look around at some of my peers and think: "Dang! I'm glad I didn't let myself go like that!" It's hard not to be motivated when you see the people around you falling apart.

    I really like and respect myself, so it's important for me to be the best version of Me possible. Anything less is a waste of potential. If the status quo is easier and more comfortable than the effort it takes to make improvements, it's going to be tough. For me, personally, being unfit would make my life harder and a lot less fun, so the effort is well worth it. It's also an investment in my future.

    When you're ready to do it, you'll do it. Some people are never ready. Until you've made health and fitness a priority in your life, I can't see any reason to be motivated. I mean, if it wasn't important to me, I wouldn't do it, either. Decide what's more important and then go do it. :drinker:
  • sowich25
    sowich25 Posts: 70 Member
    I like to look at the people I went to school with and see that they have let themselves go. It makes me push harder to loose the weight I need to. I also found things I like to do other than go to a boring gym. Use the outdoors as your gym its a hell of alot better
  • mercurywinks
    mercurywinks Posts: 104 Member
    I'll buy something I'd like to fit into...or I'll volunteer to do work with habitat for humanity or some other organization that will REALLY work you hard. It's GREAT exorcise, your doing a good thing, and the whole time I keep telling myself it'd be easier if I didn't weigh so much, so its good motivation.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I like to look at the people I went to school with and see that they have let themselves go. It makes me push harder to loose the weight I need to. I also found things I like to do other than go to a boring gym. Use the outdoors as your gym its a hell of alot better

    Good point. I basically only use the gym for weights. Almost all my cardio is done outdoors. Cardio machines at the gym drive me nuts with boredom!
  • JcMey3r
    JcMey3r Posts: 431 Member
    Go visit bodybuilding.com and just look at the people on there. If you need more motivation go to the FitBoard on the site. Makes you leave the pc instantly to go workout. Happened to me yesterday.
  • JesterMFP
    JesterMFP Posts: 3,596 Member
    I look at exercise as something that is non-negotiable. The way I always must brush my teeth in the morning-I must workout 6 days a week and on the 7th day make sure I stay active doing fun things with my family.
    ^This
    Here's the thing: It's not about motivation. It's about determination. It's making the right choices consistently, whether you feel like it or not.
    ^And this.

    I don't wait to feel motivated. If I did that, I would still be 50 lbs from goal and sedentary. I just made the decision that I wanted it ("it" being a healthy weight, and fit, and looking after both my mental & physical health) and then incorporated the things I needed to do to achieve "it" into my lifestyle. I work out 4-6 times a week, not because I get out of bed in the morning feeling all pumped up about going to exercise, but because that's what I do.

    People go to jobs they hate not because they feel motivated, but because it's important to them. It's important to them to pay the bills, it's important to have the status of being employed vs unemployed etc. People work multiple jobs and put in long hours of study to get degrees not because they feel motivated - sure sometimes they probably do, but a lot of times they don't. Not in the moment. But, they decided that having a degree was important, so the made the decision to put the effort in. Maybe not 100% of the time, but enough that it counts.

    Parents do stuff every day that they probably really can't be bothered doing, in the name of raising their children properly. They get up early to make breakfast, give up their free time to take their children places, take the effort to sit down and talk to them when things are going wrong etc... how many parents say they feel excited and motivated about parenting all the time? How many are completely on the ball and perfect as a parent 100% of the time? But they do what they need to do because it's important.

    Ultimately you have to decide a) what you want b) is it important enough to put the effort in? and c) exactly what effort you need to put in to get the job done. Then, it's a matter of doing it, and keep doing it until habits are ingrained. You don't have to be perfect all the time. You don't have to hit your calorie goal perfectly, or work out every single time you plan to, but you need to be on it most of the time.

    You have no energy, your confidence is diminishing, your back hurts... all of these are your motivating factors. Now you have to decide if having energy and confidence and a back that doesn't hurt are important enough to go and put the effort in whether or not you feel motivated at any given moment. If you sit and wait for those feelings to come back, it may never happen.

    And do remember - weight loss isn't easy, but don't make it harder than it needs to be. Set a reasonable calorie deficit, don't drop it as low as possible. Just aim to meet your goal and eat at least most of your exercise calories back. Nutrition is important, but these changes can happen gradually, over time. To start with, just eat foods you like and meet your calorie goal. Don't force yourself to do hours of exercise you hate. Choose the path of least resistance and find something you love - or at least can tolerate. If you don't love the gym, get outside to run or walk, or go for a swim, or do exercise videos at home. Exercise is amazing for health, fitness and general well being - but it's not the be-all and end-all of weight loss. Your intake will determine that.
  • my youngest brother is getting married in 5 months!!..now, i look like a smaller version of baby elephant (plus cute version).

    i wanna look fresh, feel healthier..and yes feeling happy!

    how do i motivate myself? because i can see my hubby bright eyes and smiles every time i finish my exercise session. Priceless!!
  • salvationsdying
    salvationsdying Posts: 205 Member
    Want to get into better shape, so I can out run the cops when I go on my crime spree.

    Best reason I've read haha. Thanks for the giggle :)
  • KeshiaMJ
    KeshiaMJ Posts: 2
    I make each day a challenge. Instead of thinking of my goals in the long term like 365 days of a better me, I think of my goals in the short term like 1 day of a better me. Each day I dedicate myself to eating 4 to 5 small meals and recording them on MFP and to working out. I hate the gym, not enough air circulation for me and I get so bored. So I purchased Turbofire, made an investment and so far I still enjoy it. I've started and failed diets and lifestyle changes more than I can count but just the vision of an even sexier, leaner, and fitter me keeps me going. :love:

    Things I do that help when it comes to food: force myself to eat some kind of breakfast ASAP when waking to jumpstart my metabolism. Reading all food labels and eating the serving size. Cooking almost all of my meals. Meal planning sometimes. Using lean meats and loads of veggies. And indulging in things like ice cream. I love Turkey Hill's All Natural Coffee ice cream even though it's almost NEVER on sale. :explode:

    ANDDDD if that doesn't help I look up inspirational quotes for fitness on pinterest, google, and look at success stories on instragram. There are examples out there of people who looked like you now, and are looking how you long to look. IT CAN BE DONE! Best of luck. :happy:
  • TattooedNici
    TattooedNici Posts: 2,141 Member
    Want to get into better shape, so I can out run the cops when I go on my crime spree.

    Best reason I've read haha. Thanks for the giggle :)

    Hey, it's good enough for me. :laugh:
  • elghee123
    elghee123 Posts: 489 Member

    People go to jobs they hate not because they feel motivated, but because it's important to them. It's important to them to pay the bills, it's important to have the status of being employed vs unemployed etc. People work multiple jobs and put in long hours of study to get degrees not because they feel motivated - sure sometimes they probably do, but a lot of times they don't. Not in the moment. But, they decided that having a degree was important, so the made the decision to put the effort in. Maybe not 100% of the time, but enough that it counts.

    True. Sad but true. You have a way with words @JesterMFP!
  • strawmama
    strawmama Posts: 623 Member
    Honestly, my biggest motivation is my "fat" pictures from 2012. When a friend of mine tagged me in some pictures on Facebook, I was MORTIFIED. I've left the tags, and saved the pictures to my phone and computer. When I feel like giving up, looking at where I used to be helps SO much.
  • sowich25
    sowich25 Posts: 70 Member
    I like the day by day approach. Set the little goals. Nice