Hello I'm Kelli

kelligonzales
kelligonzales Posts: 391
edited September 22 in Introduce Yourself
Hello my name is Kelli and I been heavy since i had my daughter three years ago. I had a c-section and getting used to motherhood and body changes was hard enough on top of the fact that I have all this belly fat now cause of the c-section. Non of my friends have kids and I just had another baby 6 months ago. So total i'm 40 lbs over weight and don't feel confident at all. I love being a mom so playing with my girls and just snacking on all the scraps my oldest doesn't eat isn't helping me. My husband doesn't say anything to me but we live in So Cal and there are hot chicks running around everywhere it makes it really hard. H's not one to be all emotional with me so when i'm feeling bad about it he say your fine and if your that unhappy go to the gym... so here i am looking for some support outside of my situation. Any would help at this point. All through high school i was in sports and even after i did kickboxing 3-4 times a week. now i stay home and am in a slump wondering if anyone else feels the same?

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  • kendradl
    kendradl Posts: 595 Member
    That is so my story minus the kids, I have sent you a friend request and we can work together on our journey's.
  • aggiemommy
    aggiemommy Posts: 10
    I totally understand about eating the kids scraps! I do that too. It's tough to see what they don't finish and to just eat it so it doesn't go to waste. Let's help each other out!
  • bhonniered
    bhonniered Posts: 228
    Hi Kelli - welcome! There are some great topics out regarding C-Section weight loss. Look through the message boards and befriend anyone who you connect with. That has helped me!

    I have had three kidos and of my three girls 2 were c-section. Sending you a friend request :happy:
  • addman72
    addman72 Posts: 220
    Use your kids as motivation. You want to be around when they grow up and have kids of their own.

    I have 4 kids and find it hard when they have the food that I want to eat , but im very slowly winning the battle against those urges.
  • ariesldsgal
    ariesldsgal Posts: 73 Member
    Hello Kelli, I'm Jennifer. I understand your difficulty with losing weight. I have five children, the youngest is three years old. I too have been staying at home for the last seven + years, but now I am having to return to employment outside the home. A few things I want to tell you, and you can take it or leave it as you choose. :-) Don't look to your husband (or anyone else) for validation. It is always wonderful to hear you're beautiful etc., but you have to decide for yourself that you're beautiful. Decide on an attainable goal if you want to lose weight and slowly work towards it. Every little milestone you should celebrate. I am not sure the exact amount of weight you want to lose, you mentioned 40. So I suggest every five pounds make a big deal out of it. Shoot, I make a big deal out of every pound. It is one less pound to lose later. More importantly than what the scale reflects though is how you're feeling emotionally and physically. If you're emotionally drained, you'll find it very difficult to lose weight. What do you enjoy? I use to do the gym a ton when I was younger . . . now, forget about it. I have found that I prefer to hike and go on long walks around my neighborhood, and that is something I can do with the toddler. It gets us both out of the house for some fresh air, vitamin D when the sun decides to make an appearance and helps the metabolism. The walks helps improve my mood for the day. If you're feeling physcially drained, be sure to get the necessary rest every night. So frequently us mothers lose sleep. NOT GOOD. :-) I have found I am more pleasant to be around, and I can resist food temptation easier when I sleep about 8.5 hours every night. When I get less, my food journal reflects it as does my stress level. Kelli, enjoy the time you have now with your babies and just focus on feeling better and eating better. You don't have to be perfect to see improvement. When you get yourself in a happy spot regarding your size, your husband will naturally notice. :-) Have a great Monday!
  • bainos
    bainos Posts: 99
    Join my support group and participate in the 50 lbs by June 1st challenge. You can do this and we are all here to help.
  • chevy_837
    chevy_837 Posts: 4
    Kelli. You can do it! You've got to know your husband loves you for who you are regardless of how much or little you weigh. You've got to know your girls look at you and think your the most beautiful woman in the whole world. And I hope you know as your friend I know you have the drive and determination to achieve your goals and regain your confidence. YOU ARE a strong beautiful woman.
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