loosing weight, what they don't tell you..

My boobs are always the last thing to go Weight drops off my shoulders which results in them being even more of a liability. Guess you can't please all of us girls all of the time :laugh:

I find I get more confident as I become less acutely aware of my size.

We are all different - let's just enjoy the benefits of feeling fitter and having more energy!

ETA I did mean to say congratulations on your weight loss - looking great! :flowerforyou:

Yep....sad days about the lack of boobs..

People forget to tell you how cold you will be, all the time.

Agreed on the less confident too,but figure it's just a case of getting used to new figure, had the old one a while

--Buy your clothes second-hand! I never used to go to thrift stores, because I could never find anything in size 4XL. I'd have to go to the Fat Guy Store and pay $50 for pair of pants. Now that I'm a normal size, those thrift stores ROCK! I've never had nice clothes in my life, now I've got a closet full of stuff like Polo, LL Bean, Eddie Bauer, Nike, Champion, etc. I've had to empty the closet 2-3 times going from a 4XL to an L (and I haven't given up on M yet!). That stuff is a lot easier to give away when you got it for 90% off!

--Wish I could lose MY boobs. I'm getting pretty jacked around the arms/shoulders/chest, but when you lose this much weight, you can't "work off" loose skin.

--I just saw your pics. You are ROCKING! If confidence is an issue for you, it's completely unrelated to losing weight.

--I'm with you on the obsession thing. I literally can't go 30 seconds without thinking about it. It's the first thing I think of when I open my eyes in the morning. I guess I'm just making up for lost time, as my first 46 years on this planet, I never spent two seconds thinking about it, which is how I ran it up to size 4XL. I finally figured out that the scale fluctuations are far less frustrating when you only allow yourself to step on it one day per week (my weigh-in day is Friday). It also took me a long time to learn how to bite my tongue and stop talking about it nonstop. I'm allowed to THINK about it all I want, but I now don't TALK about it unless somebody else brings up the topic.

--The only negative thing I'll add to your list: you're 19, so this won't apply to you, but I'm 47, and I've never set any money aside for my retirement! Go look at my pic, do you think I ever imagined I'd grow old? Now I'm nice and healthy and will probably live into my 70's and 80's...I'm screwed!

There is a post like this but it takes a "tongue in cheek" look at it.

In other words it's funny not sad.

That your feet might shrink! I know I was carrying water and fat around my ankles, but I went down 1.5 sizes and also went from wide width to normal size. I had to eventually get rid of all of my cute shoes, flip-flops and boots because they no longer fit!

Edited to add...

That shaving might be different after losing. I hacked my leg while shaving many times after I started developing muscles and when tendons started to become visible.

I even had to get used to shaving under my arms because I was not used to that concave. This was something else I never heard or thought of until it happened!

Loose skin. Oh, but yay, you've lost weight and you're more confident, so you take up a hobby where you need to wear tank tops and shorts, and sometimes you have to uncover your belly! ...and then jump around doing warm ups... or go upside down... And it's like you're wearing a flesh-coloured sack. All that loose skin becomes super apparent and for that moment you feel uglier than you ever did when you were fat. (But you don't quit, because the group is amazingly supportive and you love your new hobby)

This. I feel like I am swapping a fat body for a saggy one. At 23! Sad times! Im just hoping it will shrink back in given some time to catch up, I really dont want to have the body of an old lady at this age... I started bellydancing classes again last week and I was the only one covering my belly up lol.

I agree with the OP about the boobs. The weight loss combined with me breastfeeding seems to have sucked the life out of mine

Also people dont tell you that it can take a while for your brain to catch up with how you look now. So many people are always telling me I have lost more weight and I am looking good. I know I have lost weight because the scale says I have but to me I dont look much different (albeit saggier).

I started changing my eating habits 5-6 years ago .......

My hubby & I had a memorial service for my boobs the very first year :laugh:

I've worn a path to the local Goodwill dropping off my clothing donations ....... and my husband's stuff as well !

My marriage was sort of rocky before because of ME ...... I was a MISERABLE overweight person ...... but things are MUCH better now

Right now my only "negative" is that I don't get a free pass on anything ....... I'm actually EXPECTED to pull my fair share of the workload !

--Buy your clothes second-hand! I never used to go to thrift stores, because I could never find anything in size 4XL. I'd have to go to the Fat Guy Store and pay $50 for pair of pants. Now that I'm a normal size, those thrift stores ROCK! I've never had nice clothes in my life, now I've got a closet full of stuff like Polo, LL Bean, Eddie Bauer, Nike, Champion, etc. I've had to empty the closet 2-3 times going from a 4XL to an L (and I haven't given up on M yet!). That stuff is a lot easier to give away when you got it for 90% off!

--Wish I could lose MY boobs. I'm getting pretty jacked around the arms/shoulders/chest, but when you lose this much weight, you can't "work off" loose skin.

--I just saw your pics. You are ROCKING! If confidence is an issue for you, it's completely unrelated to losing weight.

--I'm with you on the obsession thing. I literally can't go 30 seconds without thinking about it. It's the first thing I think of when I open my eyes in the morning. I guess I'm just making up for lost time, as my first 46 years on this planet, I never spent two seconds thinking about it, which is how I ran it up to size 4XL. I finally figured out that the scale fluctuations are far less frustrating when you only allow yourself to step on it one day per week (my weigh-in day is Friday). It also took me a long time to learn how to bite my tongue and stop talking about it nonstop. I'm allowed to THINK about it all I want, but I now don't TALK about it unless somebody else brings up the topic.

--The only negative thing I'll add to your list: you're 19, so this won't apply to you, but I'm 47, and I've never set any money aside for my retirement! Go look at my pic, do you think I ever imagined I'd grow old? Now I'm nice and healthy and will probably live into my 70's and 80's...I'm screwed!

So with you on the talking thing! I still have 90 pounds to go, but I obsess over it 24/7. I think that can be good, as it reflects my extreme focus which is better than never thinking about it, as before. Just have to temper it and not make my husband's ears bleed from hearing it all the time!

OP: you are a beautiful young woman. You've worked hard on your physical body. Love yourself and be kind in your thoughts toward yourself. Confidence really does come from accomplishment. Give yourself credit for what you've accomplished!

One of the things that they don't tell you is how DIFFERENTLY you have to learn how to eat. Your body has such different needs, get full on so much less...just LESS food is needed even before you get full let alone stay within calorie bounds.

I was so NOT mentally prepared for that the first time I lost 60 pounds...maintenance is an entirely different mindset and battle all it's own!

They also don't tell you that people will start judging you for being a healthy weight!! The comments, the stares...it's all new and overwhelming. Plus it literally feels like you are in a new body and it's a steep learning curve!

As a guy, I can say that I'm very much hoping my boobs are the first to go.