Question for Ladies

RhineDHP
RhineDHP Posts: 1,025 Member
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If you're in a happily committed relationship, and you have a girl's night out, and some random guy comes up and offers to buy you a drink, do you accept? Do you chat up the guy?
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  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    I don't want a roofie.
    I don't take drinks from strangers.
    All bottles must be sealed.

    And nope.
  • CassandraBurgos83
    CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
    Ditto
  • jlchandl17
    jlchandl17 Posts: 27
    Yep. I say thanks and that's it. No I don't flirt with the guy.
  • DainaLC
    DainaLC Posts: 18,937 Member
    Except the drink, say thank you and if he seems like a nice guy introduce him to one of your single girlfriends.
  • Sarah4fitness
    Sarah4fitness Posts: 437 Member
    I accept free drinks if handed to me by the bartender, and I say thanks. I don't flirt or lead anyone on, and I do not see a drink as an implied contract of continued interaction.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    I don't want a roofie.
    I don't take drinks from strangers.
    All bottles must be sealed.

    And nope.

    This. Except I'm not in a relationship. I'll accept a drink if I order it myself, and the waitress brings it over.
  • Cudleigh
    Cudleigh Posts: 188 Member
    If I've been drinking, I flirt with everyone. And I mean everyone. I'd accept the drink if I got it from the bartender/I order he pays kind of thing. I don't really see it as anything other than a free drink. /shrug.
  • soonerkt87
    soonerkt87 Posts: 39 Member
    i will go up to the bar with him to make sure nothing is put in it. I will never turn down free drinks (as long as I can see it!) I will talk to him but normally i make it short if possible
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I do not...even when single.

    But, that's partly because I am of the age, type, etc, that when that happens to me it is one of two scenarios:

    1. Creepy guy who is at least twice my age and was either my teacher, eye doctor, or something similar when I was younger. No.

    2. Guy I dated or hung out with in my teens or 20's or ex of a friend.

    That is the problem with living in a smallish town.
  • LankyYankee
    LankyYankee Posts: 260 Member
    Single or taken, I buy my own drinks :smile:
  • Alicue21
    Alicue21 Posts: 14 Member
    I don't accept the drink, that gives the wrong impression. If he/they buy drinks for the whole group of ladies, hell yeah I do, and that has happened - just because I'm not single doesn't mean I want to hurt my ladies' game. Chatting is completely different for me. More than welcome to talk, nothing wrong with that unless they change to a subject that requires the "I've got a boyfriend" statement. I live in a town of friendly people so that may be unique to my hometown but I see nothing wrong with having a conversation and it's easy to keep the conversation friendly and respectful of the the fact I have a man and I am his dedicated lady.
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    I don't want a roofie.
    I don't take drinks from strangers.
    All bottles must be sealed.

    And nope.

    This. Except I'm not in a relationship. I'll accept a drink if I order it myself, and the waitress brings it over.

    There goes my fantasy drunk night with you two... :drinker:
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  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    I don't want a roofie.
    I don't take drinks from strangers.
    All bottles must be sealed.

    And nope.

    This. Except I'm not in a relationship. I'll accept a drink if I order it myself, and the waitress brings it over.

    There goes my fantasy drunk night with you two... :drinker:
    Bring it on, Chief! :flowerforyou:
  • nineteentwenty
    nineteentwenty Posts: 469 Member
    Nope! Not tempted in the slightest, my guy is all I need.
  • Sunshine2plus2
    Sunshine2plus2 Posts: 1,492 Member
    Drink yes
    Flirt No
    Chat yes
  • erialcelyob
    erialcelyob Posts: 341 Member
    Nope, but then I rarely let my boyfriend buy me a drink, a lot of guys do it with intentions to keep chatting etc so best stop before they get ahead of themselves.
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    er, probably nope. i know *i* can keep a healthy "a drink is just a drink" attitude, but i know not everyone can. if anyone's feelers are going to get hurt, let them be hurt by me saying "no, thank you" politely to the drink in the first place, rather than because i accepted a drink but said "no, thank you" to something else that came up after.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    I don't want a roofie.
    I don't take drinks from strangers.
    All bottles must be sealed.

    And nope.

    This. Except I'm not in a relationship. I'll accept a drink if I order it myself, and the waitress brings it over.

    There goes my fantasy drunk night with you two... :drinker:

    Drunk and roofied would not be required with you, babe :flowerforyou:
  • Elleposh119
    Elleposh119 Posts: 46 Member
    No way! If you do that then it gives the guy offering you the drink the belief that you're into him..
  • sportyredhead01
    sportyredhead01 Posts: 482 Member
    I don't want a roofie.
    I don't take drinks from strangers.
    All bottles must be sealed.

    And nope.

    Preach it.

    I don't want to become a Lifetime Movie.
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    If I was with a group of friends and he bought one for everyone, I'd have no problem with it. One just for ME, and no.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    No
  • kelly_e_montana
    kelly_e_montana Posts: 1,999 Member
    Yes, but I am a bartender and have been for 18 years. That's how I met my partner of 12 years. I live in a town of about 30,000 so most of the guys who come up to me are customers. I take their drinks and say thank you and keep it friendly but professional. I have to keep a flirty yet distant relationship with my clientele. My partner is aware of the fact that I'm "on stage" when I go out and is okay with it because I don't take it to an inappropriate level.

    Plus, in my experience both observing and being out, you can totally take a free drink and feel no obligation to say anything other than, "Thank you."

    Let the bartender hand you the drink, for heaven's sake. Of course you don't take it from the guy.

    I do want to say that friendly drink buying is super common where I live. People often by rounds for the bar or just any random people sitting nearby. It is considered a social faux pas not to take the drink (or if you don't want a drink, you will get a token for the next time you come in). The bartender will give you a token and take the person's money whether or not you want the drink. It's just the social custom in Montana.
  • Lestrange__
    Lestrange__ Posts: 19 Member
    I'm engaged and I always say no. I'd do the same if I was single. I don't want the guy thinking I owe him anything and I've heard too many stories of people getting roofied that way.
  • ladykaisa
    ladykaisa Posts: 236 Member
    I accept free drinks if handed to me by the bartender, and I say thanks. I don't flirt or lead anyone on, and I do not see a drink as an implied contract of continued interaction.

    This. If you want to spend money on someone other than yourself, I won't stop you. It's not my problem you're assumed all women at the bar are single.
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    You bet I accept, why not? I'm not cheating on my man because I'm flirting with someone else, and he's not there. We are both secure in our relationship, a guy buying me a drink isn't going to sink us. I'll probably make buddies and hang out all night if he's a decent person. I won't lead him on and say I'm single when I'm not.
  • PhearlessPhreaks
    PhearlessPhreaks Posts: 890 Member
    I accept free drinks if handed to me by the bartender, and I say thanks. I don't flirt or lead anyone on, and I do not see a drink as an implied contract of continued interaction.

    This would be my way of handling aforementioned hypothetical. However, the only times I've been out to a bar without my husband was in my little ski-town where I know everyone. So, more likely than not, I already knew the person buying me a drink, and probably bought them one too!
  • Yasmine91
    Yasmine91 Posts: 599 Member
    Hell no...
  • littlebutlean
    littlebutlean Posts: 2,159 Member
    I suspect this would depend on how good looking the guy was no? You have a fit muscular 10 point come up and offer you a drink vs an overweight 3 pointer, the answer will be different. :bigsmile:

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