lost weight - gained back - trying to lose again

So, let me start off with a little background. Last year I lost probably about 30 lb by working out about 6 days a week (mixture of cardio, running, and strength). In the summer I stuck more to cardio, but still stayed mostly the same. Towards the end of summer, I stopped working out so much and probably gained back like 10 lb. Then, my brother died suddenly at the end of August and ever since then I gained a good amount of what I lost right back. I am guessing it's because of the stress and depression I was dealing with, because I took up working out again (though not as hard as I used to go), didn't drink more than MAYBE once a week, etc. Now in this new year I have been really trying to shed this weight again. I try to workout at least 5 days a week, though lately I've been able to make it six (actually today is my 11th day working out in a row...extreme, maybe, but I am so serious about being on track I can't help it!) Usually I do strength training (I don't log that but I do it), running, Insanity, Blogilates, biking. I try to eat pretty clean, I have basically cut out anything like pasta, rice, bread except for the occasional whole grain bread slice, most dairy is cut out. I basically try to compose my meals of vegetables and fruits and whole grains, so essentially on paper I'm doing everything right....yet in like 6 weeks it seems I only dropped like 3 lbs! Last time around I was dropping weight much faster. It's discouraging and frustrating and I feel like I may never get to my goals, or even back to where I was before. If anyone has any advice or support, please share.

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  • Iwishyouwell
    Iwishyouwell Posts: 1,888 Member
    I just wanted to encourage you to keep going.

    I was a fat kid and teen. Lost about 70lbs when I was in my late teens. I fluctuated for a good 4 or so years, before I completely failed. I gained back the 70 and gained an additional 70 on top of that. I hate, hate, hate being fat with the heat of a million suns, and I was so incredibly ashamed and disappointed that I became a cliche. I avoided seriously committing to weight loss again for almost a decade, out of shame and deep disgust with myself.

    But here I am, around my college weight, and heading toward my lowest adult weight ever before spring is out. You can recover and you can do it all again.

    As far as the not losing weight fast enough, you're overeating. I lost my first 40 or so pounds this go round on a diet based heavily on meat, fat, and veggies. That was always my go to way of losing and maintaining without calorie counting of much fus. Yet I hit a plateau in the losing and stayed there for about a year and a half. I wasn't gaining while eating that way to my heart's content, but I wasn't losing either. If you're eating too many calories the source doesn't matter, you're still going to either gain, maintain, or lose slower than you'd like.
  • trogalicious
    trogalicious Posts: 4,584 Member
    Here:

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    You lost a lot of weight fast because it was too much too fast. Take your time. Make it sustainable. Problem solved.
  • Hey, thank you for the encouragement and advice! I can see your point about overeating - it only means I have to be even more strict because I already probably only eat like 1300 calories a day, most days, and to be completely honest, most of those food sources are from non-processed sources, as in whole, fresh vegetables and fruits, without additives like cheese, milk, too much oil, etc. I'm vegetarian, and actually pretty close to being vegan save for the occasional plain greek yogurt (I only eat cheese/milk/etc on very rare occasions) so a diet high in meat doesn't work for me, but I'm curious what did you change during your plateau to help you lose again?
  • I just wanted to encourage you to keep going.

    I was a fat kid and teen. Lost about 70lbs when I was in my late teens. I fluctuated for a good 4 or so years, before I completely failed. I gained back the 70 and gained an additional 70 on top of that. I hate, hate, hate being fat with the heat of a million suns, and I was so incredibly ashamed and disappointed that I became a cliche. I avoided seriously committing to weight loss again for almost a decade, out of shame and deep disgust with myself.

    But here I am, around my college weight, and heading toward my lowest adult weight ever before spring is out. You can recover and you can do it all again.

    As far as the not losing weight fast enough, you're overeating. I lost my first 40 or so pounds this go round on a diet based heavily on meat, fat, and veggies. That was always my go to way of losing and maintaining without calorie counting of much fus. Yet I hit a plateau in the losing and stayed there for about a year and a half. I wasn't gaining while eating that way to my heart's content, but I wasn't losing either. If you're eating too many calories the source doesn't matter, you're still going to either gain, maintain, or lose slower than you'd like.

    Hey, thank you for the encouragement and advice! I can see your point about overeating - it only means I have to be even more strict because I already probably only eat like 1300 calories a day, most days, and to be completely honest, most of those food sources are from non-processed sources, as in whole, fresh vegetables and fruits, without additives like cheese, milk, too much oil, etc. I'm vegetarian, and actually pretty close to being vegan save for the occasional plain greek yogurt (I only eat cheese/milk/etc on very rare occasions) so a diet high in meat doesn't work for me, but I'm curious what did you change during your plateau to help you lose again?

    sorry for posting twice I just wanted to know my reply was specifically aimed here!
  • Here:

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    You lost a lot of weight fast because it was too much too fast. Take your time. Make it sustainable. Problem solved.

    thank you for your help! it's so frustrating though because in your list of things to do, I am actually pretty adherent to most of those rules! I weigh and measure food all the time, I don't eat ANY "diet food" (I don't trust a lot of processed foods, whether diet or not, I generally try to base my diet on vegetables/fruits/legumes). Blegh. I know I have to be patient, it's just hard because I think you're right, I lost way fast last time and it obviously wasn't sustainable. I think I was way more extreme then with my exercising, to be honest.
  • Iwishyouwell
    Iwishyouwell Posts: 1,888 Member
    I just wanted to encourage you to keep going.

    I was a fat kid and teen. Lost about 70lbs when I was in my late teens. I fluctuated for a good 4 or so years, before I completely failed. I gained back the 70 and gained an additional 70 on top of that. I hate, hate, hate being fat with the heat of a million suns, and I was so incredibly ashamed and disappointed that I became a cliche. I avoided seriously committing to weight loss again for almost a decade, out of shame and deep disgust with myself.

    But here I am, around my college weight, and heading toward my lowest adult weight ever before spring is out. You can recover and you can do it all again.

    As far as the not losing weight fast enough, you're overeating. I lost my first 40 or so pounds this go round on a diet based heavily on meat, fat, and veggies. That was always my go to way of losing and maintaining without calorie counting of much fus. Yet I hit a plateau in the losing and stayed there for about a year and a half. I wasn't gaining while eating that way to my heart's content, but I wasn't losing either. If you're eating too many calories the source doesn't matter, you're still going to either gain, maintain, or lose slower than you'd like.

    Hey, thank you for the encouragement and advice! I can see your point about overeating - it only means I have to be even more strict because I already probably only eat like 1300 calories a day, most days, and to be completely honest, most of those food sources are from non-processed sources, as in whole, fresh vegetables and fruits, without additives like cheese, milk, too much oil, etc. I'm vegetarian, and actually pretty close to being vegan save for the occasional plain greek yogurt (I only eat cheese/milk/etc on very rare occasions) so a diet high in meat doesn't work for me, but I'm curious what did you change during your plateau to help you lose again?

    sorry for posting twice I just wanted to know my reply was specifically aimed here!

    I'd recommend you start calorie counting. Eat as you normally do. You will almost certainly discover that you are consuming far more calories than you imagine by guestimating.

    I got back on track by introducing intermittent fasting into my life. I've lost about a 100 lbs in the last 9 months doing that.
  • crazymama2both
    crazymama2both Posts: 195 Member
    welcome back. i did the same thing and i came back yesterday. safety in numbers, right? :)
  • trogalicious
    trogalicious Posts: 4,584 Member
    Here:

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    You lost a lot of weight fast because it was too much too fast. Take your time. Make it sustainable. Problem solved.

    thank you for your help! it's so frustrating though because in your list of things to do, I am actually pretty adherent to most of those rules! I weigh and measure food all the time, I don't eat ANY "diet food" (I don't trust a lot of processed foods, whether diet or not, I generally try to base my diet on vegetables/fruits/legumes). Blegh. I know I have to be patient, it's just hard because I think you're right, I lost way fast last time and it obviously wasn't sustainable. I think I was way more extreme then with my exercising, to be honest.

    then at that point, you should narrow down what your true tdee is. it takes patience, though.
    Block off 6 weeks. log EXACTLY what you eat for those six weeks, weigh at the beginning, weight at the end. If you've lost, you're eating under your TDEE. If you haven't lost, congrats.. you found your TDEE, if you've gained... then you're above TDEE.

    From there, look at how much you lost or gained and you have a rough estimate of how to shift your intake to balance it out.

    Online calculators are great, but they're just estimates. They give you decent ideas for starting points. From there, it's on you to fine tune it.
  • Fridaklo77
    Fridaklo77 Posts: 124
    very inspiring... after just weighing myself..... gained almost 20 lbs in a year. Not happy about it ---but I hvae to start somewhere...
  • I am in the same boat as you but don't worry we can do this!