Dread going to Christmas party tonight

Dlibo1013
Dlibo1013 Posts: 883 Member
edited September 22 in Motivation and Support
I will see a lot of people i have not seen for a while and i get tired of answering the question of how much weight have I lost. I am also embarresed to admit it. Fortunitly I am tall 6.4 so I hid it pretty well. Usually I just reply, well I am getting there.

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  • pursuinghappiness
    pursuinghappiness Posts: 39
    Perhaps you can avoid the questions by starting the conversation and making that conversation all about the person you are talking to. Does that make sense?

    Sorry you are dreading it.
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    Oh try not to dread it, I had mine last night, got quite drunk, smeared raspberries on myself and got people to feel my bum. I am sure you will behave in a much better way and have no need to worry at all. I on the other hand have to work with these people again.....
  • jessimacar
    jessimacar Posts: 291
    You're embarassed by how much weight you've lost?! Be proud of yourself!! I know it can probably get tiring of having to talk about it constantly, but you deserve to feel confident and proud! 70lbs is not an easy feat. There are so many people who need to lose 70lbs (or more/less) and don't have the stamina and the will power that you must have to have lost all that weight.

    I expected you to say you were worried about having cake or another temptation.. Lol.

    You've done amazing, I hope you can learn to be proud of yourself! :)
  • Steph_135
    Steph_135 Posts: 3,280 Member
    Oh try not to dread it, I had mine last night, got quite drunk, smeared raspberries on myself and got people to feel my bum. I am sure you will behave in a much better way and have no need to worry at all. I on the other hand have to work with these people again.....
    I like this perspective... :drinker:
  • Dlibo1013
    Dlibo1013 Posts: 883 Member
    for me weight is a very sensative issue. It has had me down and sad for a long time,
    i just wish people would say nothing. Guess i need to learn to deal with it.
  • red01angel
    red01angel Posts: 806 Member
    I will see a lot of people i have not seen for a while and i get tired of answering the question of how much weight have I lost. I am also embarresed to admit it. Fortunitly I am tall 6.4 so I hid it pretty well. Usually I just reply, well I am getting there.

    I'm the same way..so is my mom. I personally think it's rude for people to ask...so I just thank them for the compliment, and say that I'm not sure of the exact numbers, but I've lost quite a bit.
  • Dlibo1013
    Dlibo1013 Posts: 883 Member
    now theirs a plan lol
    Oh try not to dread it, I had mine last night, got quite drunk, smeared raspberries on myself and got people to feel my bum. I am sure you will behave in a much better way and have no need to worry at all. I on the other hand have to work with these people again.....
  • Steph_135
    Steph_135 Posts: 3,280 Member
    Sometimes my close-ish family comments on my weight loss which makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes it's enough to set me off track. It can make me feel guilty that they are not losing weight too, so I can see that there could be reasons why you wouldn't want to talk about it.
  • Steph_135
    Steph_135 Posts: 3,280 Member
    I'm the same way..so is my mom. I personally think it's rude for people to ask...so I just thank them for the compliment, and say that I'm not sure of the exact numbers, but I've lost quite a bit.
    I do that with people I barely know, like people in my apartment. It's none of their business, but it's nice that they noticed. Although it gets annoying when they say it, and I know nothing has changed since the last time they said I've lost weight.

    I think the compliments can come from people who are really obsessed with weight loss and health sometimes... Then I might feel judged by them later if I'm not making the same progress.

    Life is so complicating. :huh:
  • mafery
    mafery Posts: 167 Member
    Oh try not to dread it, I had mine last night, got quite drunk, smeared raspberries on myself and got people to feel my bum. I am sure you will behave in a much better way and have no need to worry at all. I on the other hand have to work with these people again.....

    I love it! I had mine and luckily I only see most of them once a year,,but it was open bar...OPEN BAR...need I say more! Oh the shame!
  • KarenECunningham
    KarenECunningham Posts: 419 Member
    I know what you mean. When people ask how much I have lost I am embarrassed because I have so much further to go. On the other hand, I am offended when no one notices my weight loss. I think I am fickle. :laugh:
  • purplespeckle
    purplespeckle Posts: 652
    They are probably just jealous that they don't have the willpower that you have. ;)
  • jeesa
    jeesa Posts: 34 Member
    I know it's hard but try to remember those people are impressed by your progress. They are giving a compliment however badly worded. :flowerforyou:
  • goingwithgrace
    goingwithgrace Posts: 109 Member
    People typically ask to show that they're proud of you and/or to find out how you did it because everyone seems to battle the bulge. Just talk about MFP instead of your weight!! I'm sure MFP's marketing team will appreciate it. :bigsmile:
  • 2bFitNTrim
    2bFitNTrim Posts: 1,209 Member
    I don't like talking about myself & tend to be a bit shy. Answer as non-chalantly as possible and change the subject onto them. Like, if I were asked how much weight I had lost, I might say "Oh, I don't know.... a few. How's life treating you? Any big news in your life these days?"..Usually works. Some will be persistent. :huh: Good luck and try to have fun. :flowerforyou:

    Oh, I should have read all the comments. Someone suggested this, I see. :blushing:
  • Dlibo1013
    Dlibo1013 Posts: 883 Member
    Nice to see I am not alone in my feelings. Thank you all so much.
  • CarlydogsMom
    CarlydogsMom Posts: 645 Member
    Gosh, I've lost 19 pounds out of a goal of 60, so about 1/3 of the way there, and I wish SOMEONE would notice and say something! I'm proud of it, and I know that it probably is barely noticeable at this point, but I think there's a difference, yet no one else seems to think so.
  • HealthyChanges2010
    HealthyChanges2010 Posts: 5,831 Member
    I will see a lot of people i have not seen for a while and i get tired of answering the question of how much weight have I lost. I am also embarresed to admit it. Fortunitly I am tall 6.4 so I hid it pretty well. Usually I just reply, well I am getting there.

    I'm the same way..so is my mom. I personally think it's rude for people to ask...so I just thank them for the compliment, and say that I'm not sure of the exact numbers, but I've lost quite a bit.
    I'll chime in on this too. I hate when ppl ask how much I've lost total, I've even reset my ticker...it's embarrassing to realize how much I gained in a short few years. I'm now at goal but I still am working through the shame. So yes, dropping weight is only part of the journey and perhaps the easier part, I think the more difficult work comes in dealing with the emotional part of our minds matching up to where our body is now. Also realizing what you weighed at one point doesn't define you. Easy to type, not so easy to keep in my mind on continual basis. I'm a work in progress like we all are...:wink::flowerforyou:
  • Dlibo1013
    Dlibo1013 Posts: 883 Member
    well Becca you are one remarkable kid, keep it up buddy
  • Steph_135
    Steph_135 Posts: 3,280 Member
    Gosh, I've lost 19 pounds out of a goal of 60, so about 1/3 of the way there, and I wish SOMEONE would notice and say something! I'm proud of it, and I know that it probably is barely noticeable at this point, but I think there's a difference, yet no one else seems to think so.
    I never notice when people lose weight. Even with friends I haven't seen since last year. They just look the same to me. I guess I'm too busy looking at their faces. I probably wouldn't know what they were wearing either. Maybe you hang out with people who are somewhat like that as well. My aunt, on the other hand, notices every pound. As long as you know you're making great changes, that's all that really matters.
  • Dlibo1013
    Dlibo1013 Posts: 883 Member
    well didnt turn out as bad as i thought other than the town drunk who had to say out loud "how much weight have you lost" i casually said how many drinks have you had?
  • HealthyChanges2010
    HealthyChanges2010 Posts: 5,831 Member
    well Becca you are one remarkable kid, keep it up buddy
    sidehug.gif Thank you my friend:flowerforyou:
  • taletreader
    taletreader Posts: 377 Member
    well didnt turn out as bad as i thought other than the town drunk who had to say out loud "how much weight have you lost" i casually said how many drinks have you had?

    Excellent!

    I'm too late to the thread obviously, but just wanted to say I understand your feelings. The coping mechanism I've found is to play it down and say something along the lines of "oh, yeah, I've lost a bit. It was time." and change the topic as if it was completely irrelevant, like a remark about the color of my shirt. It isn't, but you don't have to cater to what your acquaintances consider polite conversation (or maybe, permissible intrusiveness).
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