Do you remember when

Broderick50
Broderick50 Posts: 842 Member
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Do you remember when you first thought I'm overweight. How did you handle it what did you do. I know for me I didn't think about being overweight until I was like 26 until then I needed to be big for sports and it was part of me. When I first thought about it I instantly went on a diet and lost like 50lbs but then it crept back after time. Now I'm back again just wondering about others.

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  • MrsPaulSmith
    MrsPaulSmith Posts: 401 Member
    When I was 15. My dad called me fat. I started starving myself. Fun sharing! :indifferent:
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  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I was in kindergarten and bigger than all of my classmates. Taller but also chubbier. Being female, I knew this was a very bad thing and I was extremely insecure about it.

    I quickly became a big people pleaser and took pride in getting straight A's, having the best handwriting, best manners, perfectly matched outfits, neatly arranged pigtails, running faster, jumping higher, you get the picture...a neverending search to become better through other outlets since I wouldn't be the cute skinny girl.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    I remember when, I remember, I remember when I lost my mind
    There was something so pleasant about that place.
    Even your emotions had an echo
    In so much space
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    in all seriousness. I have always felt a little overweight until I hit 200lbs... then i felt really overweight.

    i responded by adding another 25-30 lbs.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I never really saw myself as a fat guy or whatever. i was actually rail thin growing up and always wanted to put on weight. I did put some on in my 20s, but that was actually good weight...the weight I put on from about 30 - 38 was not good weight at all.

    That weight went on fairly slowly and was largely a result of a substantial decrease in activity with no real change in consumption. I was also in a lot of denial and just blamed getting older, etc. But really, I never thought I was that overweight. Basically what did it for me was my doctor telling me I had officially crossed the line from overweight to obese and that I was basically heading down a path towards ill health among other things.
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  • SalemBoSox88
    SalemBoSox88 Posts: 237
    After I one day had trouble sleeping at 23 and was told I may have sleep apnea, had such bad high blood pressure I was having nose bleeds, and was borderline diabetic.
  • knitapeace
    knitapeace Posts: 1,013 Member
    I was in kindergarten and bigger than all of my classmates. Taller but also chubbier. Being female, I knew this was a very bad thing and I was extremely insecure about it.

    I quickly became a big people pleaser and took pride in getting straight A's, having the best handwriting, best manners, perfectly matched outfits, neatly arranged pigtails, running faster, jumping higher, you get the picture...a neverending search to become better through other outlets since I wouldn't be the cute skinny girl.

    Hug. I understand. I wasn't heavy until I got to college but I was always "Amazonian" and never felt attractive. Ever. I also get the "must be perfect" mentality.
  • madhatter2013
    madhatter2013 Posts: 1,547 Member
    I was in the store buying new clothes because I had just had the baby (a year prior) and didn't want to wear the maternity clothes anymore. I had to buy 2XL shirts and size 18 pants. I had never been so big. It really hit me when my husband caught me in the bra section crying because I was no longer the same size I had been since we had gotten married. My last child really shot my weight up there.
  • ABsolute85
    ABsolute85 Posts: 156
    When I had to go up two pant sizes and they were still snug...yup...that did it...
  • lookinggoodkel
    lookinggoodkel Posts: 1,235 Member
    I've known i was over weight for over 20 yrs but things happened in life that made me comfort eat and hate myself so couldn't make myself loose it as i was fighting myself but at new year i decided enough was enough and i'm on a winning battle with myself and feel alot better ;)
  • Blacklance36
    Blacklance36 Posts: 755 Member
    I was overweight, my brother was overweight. I had two chins and a belly to rival Santa.

    We made a $1000 bet that you had to pay unless you hit your weight goals.

    Long story short, we both hit our goals and I will never let myself get that way again.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    It happened to me almost overnight. I was always around 183 lbs, because I was competing at a high level in Martial Arts. Had to stay under 184. Wasn't that hard, because I had my own school and was competing, teaching and working out every day. Pretty much ate anything I wanted.

    Then, at 34, I moved 1,100 miles away.Stopped teaching and stopped competing, but didn't adjust my eating. I literally put on 80 lbs in about 6 months.

    Dropped about 25 over the next 25 years, but I am going to be 60 this year and I'm still 50 lbs too heavy. Working at it though. Built a gym and a dojo in my home over the last two years and I'm taking it off at the rate of about 4 or 5 lbs a month.

    Sure is coming off slower than it went on.
  • amethyst7986
    amethyst7986 Posts: 223 Member
    I realized that I was over weight and continuing to gain weight, when I went clothes shopping a few weeks back for a wedding and realized that I was trying on 16/18! Ugh, I felt so disgusted and sadden that I allowed myself to get this big. Oh and when my work scrubs started fitting tighter around the waist!
  • Bride2B1103
    Bride2B1103 Posts: 37 Member
    At the end of last April, I saw a photo of myself and knew something had to change. For whatever reason, that picture was what did it for me..Funny how it wasn't the new pants I had to keep buying because I couldn't fit in my old ones anymore. Can you say "denial?"
  • buzybev
    buzybev Posts: 199 Member
    I always knew I was fat but didn't really think much of it since I "carried" it so well. My wake up call came last year while walking around a museum with my bf. We were walking at a leisurely pace, but I felt sweaty, out of breath, gross and actually had to sit down cus I was getting winded. Took me a couple of months to get my act together and get serious about my health and fitness, but once I started in September I haven't looked back!
  • Alidecker
    Alidecker Posts: 1,262 Member
    I was in kindergarten and bigger than all of my classmates. Taller but also chubbier. Being female, I knew this was a very bad thing and I was extremely insecure about it.

    I quickly became a big people pleaser and took pride in getting straight A's, having the best handwriting, best manners, perfectly matched outfits, neatly arranged pigtails, running faster, jumping higher, you get the picture...a neverending search to become better through other outlets since I wouldn't be the cute skinny girl.

    I am the same way, I am still a people pleaser. Sometimes it is a good thing....I hate feeling like a dissappointed my personal trainer even though he moved away and I don't see him very often, I do talk to him a lot and I hate feeling like I let him down.
  • weightedfootsteps
    weightedfootsteps Posts: 4,349 Member
    Well.....let's see. I was 18 and got pregnant. Had always been a little overweight. My boyfriend cheated on me when I was four months pregnant. He started apologizing when I was about 8 months along. I stupidly agreed to get back together with him because he was the father...and I was scared. Next thing I knew he was in jail for drugs. Yup. I had my baby on my own. Got back down to my pre-pregnancy weight..but my body had changed so much that I couldn't wear the clothes I used to. I was fine with that because I was back at that weight. The guy gets out of jail and we are back together. First thing he asks me when he sees my stomach is WTH happened to my stomach???? I had your freaking baby JERK! I promptly gave up on everything except my child. Gained 150 lbs. within three years. I'm sure there was more but I stopped weighing at that time. It wasn't a good time in my life. Nobody knew how unhappy I was but me. I hide my feelings behind a happy façade and doing for others.

    I finally made a change about 5 years ago. Lost about 70 lbs. but plateaued so bad and didn't know how to get past it. So I gave up again and gained much of it back.

    Jan. 2013 I took my life back! It wasn't a New Year's resolution. It was the end of January. I was just playing around on the computer and saw something about MFP. Best thing I ever found on the internet!
  • healthyplans
    healthyplans Posts: 134 Member
    The family and I were sitting in a fast food place and I turned around and caught a glimpse of someone in the glass--- and thought "oh my.... who is that person"??? Yeah. It was me. Like someone else said, I guess I was in denial when I had to buy new clothes because the others had gotten too small... and I avoided the camera so I didn't have to see pics of myself... but seeing my reflection... yeah. That did it for me!!!!
  • ItsMeGee3
    ItsMeGee3 Posts: 13,254 Member
    I remember! I hated myself. I can't believe I let myself go like that. And, I was smoking a pack of cigarettes a day. I stepped on the scale one morning and I was 186 lbs. I''m 5'0" tall. WTH was I thinking. I joined Weight Watchers, and filled my Chantix prescription (my doctor was already on me about smoking). Never looked back! Quit smoking and started running. I still have a little to loose but, I feel so much better. Mentally and Physically.
  • Cynner2007
    Cynner2007 Posts: 46 Member
    I "knew" I was overweight..I was ok with that, could hide it under baggy shirts. Being tossed off a ride at Hershey Park because the bar would not close over my stomach brought home to me that I was FAT. I have never felt such shame..
  • fannyfrost
    fannyfrost Posts: 756 Member
    I was 12 and I hadn't grown at all, but had gained like 10lbs in one year, Doctor said that was too much. The sad part is that I had been sick for a week shortly before that and had lost 10lbs from that.

    My parents also always pointed out to watch what I eat because I didn't want to get fat. My dad sold Mother of the Bride and large size dresses and would let me know I didn't want to ever look like that. Mind you at that time I was always only about 10lbs overweight for my height.

    At age 17 or 18 my mom told me I looked like a swayed back horse because my butt was so big, at that time I wasn't even overweight.

    So pretty much thought I was "fat" my whole life.

    FYI, when I used to help put the groceries away I ate one cookie from each box, when mom asked why I said it was because I wanted to make sure I got to eat at least one. Mom shopped on Saturday by Monday they were gone, mostly her and my dad. So many issues with weight and food I have.
  • nsimon24
    nsimon24 Posts: 115 Member
    I was always very athletic as a kid - I swam like a fish, hiked regularly, and could cycle for hours. As a result, I was solid muscle for most of my teen years, but since muscle weighs more I always compared number (weight) against other girls - I never considered the height and fitness differences. Between being bullied most of my life and weighing more than most of the girls in my class (I was 5'9-10" and 145) I saw myself as fat (ugly) for most of that time. I trashed my knee in a bike crash and the weight started creeping up when I could not be as active afterwards (my Doc botched the surgery big time and I had to relearn to walk afterwards) and I started eating from stress//boredom. After I had my daughter I really packed on the pounds and realized I needed to do something when I hit the 230 mark and every joint in my body hated me. Lost some weight, but it crept back on.

    So in response to the question - I always "saw" myself as fat, but the truth hit when my body started behaving like it was and began matching my mental view of it.

    I have to smile now - I am working back to my HS weight of 145 (and would be happy at ten pounds more) and want to get back to that same fitness level - or at least as close as this 48 year old body can manage! It sounds perfect to me now and I know I can do it because I was there once before :)
  • AmyZ46
    AmyZ46 Posts: 694 Member
    I always felt over weight and fat - all my life - my heighest weight before children was 132 ....but then when I was 26 I wore a 16 and there was a weight loss comercial that came on and the woman in the comercial said " I was in a huge size 16 " and I lost it ...I think I cried for a week . My exhusband was there and asked me why I was crying and I told him it was because I was fat ...he started laughing and asked me if I just found out? Lol he was a funny guy though so you had to know him ...It did difuse the situation , I got on a diet with diet pills lost 60 lbs and guess what ? Got pregnant again ..... gained all my weight back and then some ... I have been trying to get that and the extra weight off ever since ..

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