Advice For my BF

My boyfriend and I have started trying to eat healthier and lose weight... He hasn't really lost anything and he's baffled as to why.

Let me tell you, he's not eating... He may eat one meal/day. I'm at a loss as to what to tell him. I know he drinks a lot of his calories (energy drinks, soda, etc), but he's recently cut back on the sugary stuff.

He's not eating. I know it's not healthy and I don't know what to tell him. (I know I can't make him change, he has to do it on his own, etc... but he's asking me for advice)

Help?

How about just that? "hey, I know we've been trying to eat healthier lately, but in order to do that you have to EAT!" But take it from me, an old married woman of 18 yrs with a stubborn former Marine husband, they never listen. He'll just have to find out the hard way.

i'm pretty sure he's eating in secret without telling you. that's the only reason he wouldn't be losing.

he probably feels ashamed that he's finding it hard, especially if you're doing well or pressuring him when he eats junk

it's so common and often happens in the car on the way to work/while you're out etc. it's the only plausible explanation unless he is drinking way more sugar than he thinks

Show him the "success stories" threads on this site, and bring up some of the flagged links for him to read on the "getting started"threads. Perhaps he won't read them but if you leave them up on your computer they may randomly attract his attention when you are not around. i agree with an above poster that he may be eating on the sly or embarassed/ashamed......perhaps if you are successful your example can motivate him. No one else can MAKE, threaten, deride or shame you to lose weight, you have to decide one day that it is important enough to yourself to start taking charge of your health. Don't pressure him, just gently encourage by example. Good luck.

I would wager he is taking in way more calories then you think he is -- and probably more calories than he thinks he is.

If he is only eating one "meal" per day he could be drinking calories (three sodas would not be unreasonable and thats 800-900 calories alone) as well as snacks he is thinking won't add up. Of course, I have no idea.

Just a thought.

If he's drinking lots of soda and energy drinks, that is probably the reason he isn't losing.

I had this same problem wiht my husband. He'd eat one meal a day, usually dinner, and he'd eat at least two helpings. He'd only frink diet soda and refused to drink water. You just gotta come out and be blunt and honest. "Hey honey, guess what? You're killing yourself slowly." Take him to the doctors and I get he'll be told he's on the verge of diabetes. That's what it took to get my husband to finally do something about his weight. I said, "See, now will you let me save your life since you onviously don't care about it?" Now he does what I tell him when it comes to eating healthy and weight loss.

Chances are his meal is alot worse for him than he thinks, Its easy to get 1000calories in a dinner if you don't think it threw. Then energy drinks/soda at 200cal a pop, plus then maybe the odd cookie or tub of ice cream. It soon add's up.