I just wanna ****ing quit

You've lost 19 lbs already, that's amazing. It takes time. It took me ONE year and one month to lose 60 lbs.

It's a one step forward two steps back process. The weight loss is fast at the beginning and slows right down.

Remember, slow and steady wins the race. Just keep going.

What do you mean nothing is working? You lost 19 lbs???

January? I've been at this for 3 years, I'm not about to give up. Frustrating? hell yeah it is...doable? of course. Go sweat out the frustration, it helps. Take pictures and make side by sides to see your progress, measure after you weigh yourself, be honest with yourself, measure EVERYTHING, love the skin you're in, admit that working out makes you feel good mentally as well as physically. Go get blood work done to see if everything is normal, talk to a nutritionist to see if what you're eating is the most beneficial. Give up? then be ok with who you are and what your body looks like because nobody else is going to change it but yourself.

3lbs of fat caloric wise is 10,500 calories. So unless you consumed that OVER what you normally eat, then it's water retention.

As for the girls who eat ice cream, etc. they are obviously still eating less/even of what they burn. You really don't know about their eating habits unless you follow them around the whole day.

19lbs is good. That's over 6lbs a month and if you CONTINUE to do that, you'll be succeed. DON'T compare yourself to others. Just compare your previous pics and clothing from the start.

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I've had to work hard all my life to keep pounds off. Some people can't keep weight on. Others seem to be able to lose weight whenever they want to. Not me.

So what?

Enjoy your body for what it does. You are alive. You are getting healthier. The scale moves up and down for everyone. Don't waste energy on being jealous of someone else's metabolism. Deal with your own.

I have been working out since January. I had lost 19 pounds up until yesterday.... in one night I gained three back.
I also noticed that instead of losing neck fat, I'm gaining it. I'm losing my chin.
My cheeks are still fat.
My body is still disgusting.

I hate it.
Why can't i be like all the girls here at my college. They're all super ****ing skinny and can eat whatever the **** they want. One girl who only weighs 108 lbs ate two huge bowls of ice cream in front of me today and bragged about how lucky she was she didn't get fat.

I usually eat pretty healthy. I have one cheat day a week. Otherwise I count my calories etc. I'm pretty good.
So why the hell is nothing working. I just want to take a knife and just cut all my fat off. I hate this.

19 pounds in 3 months?! I've lost 2....quit your whining! Waaaaahhhhhhh! :sad:

PS.....calling troll

I seriously doubt you actually gained 3 pounds in one night. That's over 10000 calories OVER your maintenance amount. I'll "gain" 3 pounds every night if I weigh right after dinner. But that isn't a real gain. Also, are you sure you're counting correctly? Do you weigh your food? A food scale is an absolute MUST when counting calories. I've lost 22 pounds and I still haven't seen a difference. I know it's there because my work shirt is a bit looser and I'm using belt holes that I never have before. Just because you can't see a difference, or in your case, what I imagine is you convincing yourself you are going backwards, doesn't mean positive change isn't happening.

And screw everybody else. This is about YOU

Weight loss isn't a linear process, unfortunately. Water weight can easily fluctuate by 3 lbs even during the day. Look at the overall trend, not one single day. Or simply ignore the scale, and use a tape measure or photos or something else instead? But obviously something is working, as you have lost 19 lbs.

Gaining 3 lbs of *fat* would require a calorie surplus of about 10,000 over your TDEE. I find it hard to imagine you ate that much.

And don't judge yourself by what other people look like or eat. Maybe that was all that girl ate all day? Maybe she burns 1,000 calories in the gym every day, so can fit the ice cream in?

Finally, your body loses weight from where it wants. For many, the face does seem to be one of the first areas to go, but maybe it isn't for you. There is nothing you can do about that, other than keep going and reduce your overall body fat %.

19 pounds lost since January is amazing! Congratulations on a job well done! Stick with it and you'll be losing more in no time. Don't compare yourself to those skinny b*tches.

Why can't i be like all the girls here at my college. They're all super ****ing skinny and can eat whatever the **** they want. One girl who only weighs 108 lbs ate two huge bowls of ice cream in front of me today and bragged about how lucky she was she didn't get fat.

As someone who in high school ate "whatever the ****" I wanted and didn't gain weight, let me advise that eventually metabolism slows. The weight gains began shortly after college and continued until I got serious about watching what I ate and exercised more. Then I stopped and it came back. Now, I'm focusing on learning good healthy long-term habits to slowly lose the weight. I have now lost a little over 32 pounds since joining in Oct. 2013. There have been a few weeks where weight went up...sometimes because I wasn't drinking enough liquids and getting lots of sodium so I retained water, sometimes because I ate more food than I burnt off. One of those times was last week. I am not giving up because I don't want to have to start over again. You have to get yourself into that same frame of mind. You've lost 19 pounds....that makes you healthier than when you started.

My weight fluctuates a LOT over the course of a day (as much as four pounds some days). I would advise that if the fluctuations get you down, don't weigh more than once a week. Then focus on the downward trend over time and less on if every single weigh-in is a loss. Also, take measurements and see if those are going down. Take pictures. See if you're suddenly fitting into those jeans you "grew out of" or if the jeans that you're wearing now that are too snug are starting to get loose.

wow...19 lbs since January? awesome. and sincere congratulations.

In my younger years, I was skinny and could eat two bowls of ice cream and nothing would happen. Soooo different now after menopause.

I celebrate your progress. I celebrate your process with being healthy. You are so much further along than you know...

A few weeks ago I put on 2 lbs, and maintained that weight for a week. On my next weigh in I lost 5 lbs! It's strange, but it happens. Don't give up, weight can fluctuate roughly 3 - 5 lbs per day apparently

Have you considered counseling? If you are in counseling, have you talked to your therapist about all of this?

really. for this bears repeating and for good reason.

From her profile "Hey! I'm a junior in college. I'm majoring in Psychology " OH MY! NO, just NO. :noway:

I got like 50 more to go to be like "the skinny girls" but I know that the s**t ain't happenin' this summer!! Your weight didn't just POP on your *kitten* overnight, it came after years, and it will take you just as long to shake the s**t off!! SO quit your mopin' get off your *kitten* and keep pushing...you'll be like the f**king girls but be a realist, the f**king weight ain't coming off like melted butter and you ain't gonna be a "super skinny girl" if you quit!!

Another thing, if you are doing this only to be a skinny girl, you will FAIL...do it because you want to not because you want to be what Hollywood and Barbie glorify as the ideal woman.


Hmpft...I got caught up in the swearing and the feel sorry for me's!! whoot whoot!!

LOL this made me laugh. You tell her