Taking this moment to vent...

Cyan99
Cyan99 Posts: 84 Member
in Food and Nutrition
Currently I am trying to, you know, eat healthy! Particularly I'm trying to hit macros, eat more protein and less sugar because I'm focusing on maintenance and toning not weight loss - and so on the one day when I actually manage to hit my macros goal right on - my mother decides to ask me if I want pie and ice-cream. Because I actually felt like a display of self-control, I said no.

So then ten minutes later she comes up to my room with pie and ice-cream and makes hands it to me, even when I say I don't want any. And this is at quarter to 11pm. When she knows I'm trying to cut out junk food.

WHY! JUST WHY!!!

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  • SugaryLynx
    SugaryLynx Posts: 2,640 Member
    What's wrong with pie and ice cream? >.> Everything in moderation. Even if your goal is fat loss. I ate all those things and lost plenty of body fat balancing my macros and adjusting my intake to mostly nutrient dense foods. I still left room for fun calories. Unless you know, you plan on never eating ice cream and pie again, but that would be so sad :(
  • MildredBarhopper
    MildredBarhopper Posts: 99 Member
    If OP stated they didn't want any, it's not helpful for the mother to be offering it. Who's to say that they won't eat stuff like that at another time, but felt they could not fit it into their day?
  • SugaryLynx
    SugaryLynx Posts: 2,640 Member
    If OP stated they didn't want any, it's not helpful for the mother to be offering it. Who's to say that they won't eat stuff like that at another time, but felt they could not fit it into their day?

    Because they stated they were cutting out junk food is what made me think they would not eat it, even if it fit
  • Fullsterkur_woman
    Fullsterkur_woman Posts: 2,712 Member
    Well, if you decided you didn't want it that particular day, and she gave it to you anyway, you could always say "no thanks", hand it back and go on with your day, or failing that, throw it into the trash right in front of her. I guarantee that'll be the last time you get handed any pie and ice cream by her.

    Also, you could send it on to me. I will make the sacrifice for you.
  • Fenrissa
    Fenrissa Posts: 116
    There's nothing wrong with pie and ice cream (if you have no problems eating in moderation) and this sounds typical of a parent to do. Why not treat yourself sometimes?

    But either way, you don't HAVE to eat it even if she gave you some. It's your diet and your responsibility.
  • Cyan99
    Cyan99 Posts: 84 Member
    What's wrong with pie and ice cream? >.> Everything in moderation. Even if your goal is fat loss. I ate all those things and lost plenty of body fat balancing my macros and adjusting my intake to mostly nutrient dense foods. I still left room for fun calories. Unless you know, you plan on never eating ice cream and pie again, but that would be so sad :(

    I would eat it... I'd just like to be able to plan my own meals and learn how to do that properly. It's not even the food that annoying me, it's the fact that my mother thinks she can decide for me. This isn't a one off thing, and it's not just about diet or food, she just micromanages everything - including me and my lifestyle. It's driving me crazy.
  • SugaryLynx
    SugaryLynx Posts: 2,640 Member
    What's wrong with pie and ice cream? >.> Everything in moderation. Even if your goal is fat loss. I ate all those things and lost plenty of body fat balancing my macros and adjusting my intake to mostly nutrient dense foods. I still left room for fun calories. Unless you know, you plan on never eating ice cream and pie again, but that would be so sad :(

    I would eat it... I'd just like to be able to plan my own meals and learn how to do that properly. It's not even the food that annoying me, it's the fact that my mother thinks she can decide for me. This isn't a one off thing, and it's not just about diet or food, she just micromanages everything - including me and my lifestyle. It's driving me crazy.

    I'm sorry :/ I can understand that perspective (my mother is similar). I was under the impression you thought you couldn't because of your goals. Too bad family situations are touchy. Do you live with her, I assume? That makes it even more awkward because you don't want to be too pushy and make everything weird household wise. Honestly, I would just let it turn to mush if I wasn't interested in it lol. Can't really force per say but it does sounds like guilting when it's continually put in front of you like that
  • Cyan99
    Cyan99 Posts: 84 Member
    What's wrong with pie and ice cream? >.> Everything in moderation. Even if your goal is fat loss. I ate all those things and lost plenty of body fat balancing my macros and adjusting my intake to mostly nutrient dense foods. I still left room for fun calories. Unless you know, you plan on never eating ice cream and pie again, but that would be so sad :(

    I would eat it... I'd just like to be able to plan my own meals and learn how to do that properly. It's not even the food that annoying me, it's the fact that my mother thinks she can decide for me. This isn't a one off thing, and it's not just about diet or food, she just micromanages everything - including me and my lifestyle. It's driving me crazy.

    I'm sorry :/ I can understand that perspective (my mother is similar). I was under the impression you thought you couldn't because of your goals. Too bad family situations are touchy. Do you live with her, I assume? That makes it even more awkward because you don't want to be too pushy and make everything weird household wise. Honestly, I would just let it turn to mush if I wasn't interested in it lol. Can't really force per say but it does sounds like guilting when it's continually put in front of you like that

    I only have to live with her for another six months - and believe me when I it wouldn't be worth it to refuse it, the ****storm that would raise would just be to much to deal with.
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    Well, if you decided you didn't want it that particular day, and she gave it to you anyway, you could always say "no thanks", hand it back and go on with your day, or failing that, throw it into the trash right in front of her. I guarantee that'll be the last time you get handed any pie and ice cream by her.

    Also, you could send it on to me. I will make the sacrifice for you.

    ^This. There are far too many people in this world afraid to throw ANY kind of food away. We just had a huge slab cake for my daughter's birthday, and there was a ton left over. He has bad cholesterol markers, but God forbid we toss the excess in the trash. It all goes into plastic bins and into the refrigerator so it won't go to WASTE. /tiny rant
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    What's wrong with pie and ice cream? >.> Everything in moderation. Even if your goal is fat loss. I ate all those things and lost plenty of body fat balancing my macros and adjusting my intake to mostly nutrient dense foods. I still left room for fun calories. Unless you know, you plan on never eating ice cream and pie again, but that would be so sad :(

    I would eat it... I'd just like to be able to plan my own meals and learn how to do that properly. It's not even the food that annoying me, it's the fact that my mother thinks she can decide for me. This isn't a one off thing, and it's not just about diet or food, she just micromanages everything - including me and my lifestyle. It's driving me crazy.

    I'm sorry :/ I can understand that perspective (my mother is similar). I was under the impression you thought you couldn't because of your goals. Too bad family situations are touchy. Do you live with her, I assume? That makes it even more awkward because you don't want to be too pushy and make everything weird household wise. Honestly, I would just let it turn to mush if I wasn't interested in it lol. Can't really force per say but it does sounds like guilting when it's continually put in front of you like that

    I only have to live with her for another six months - and believe me when I it wouldn't be worth it to refuse it, the ****storm that would raise would just be to much to deal with.

    I can kind of see your point. But thinking that way led to me gaining 10 lbs when I first got married because my husband likes to show his love by cooking. And would feel hurt if I didn't eat it. Now I just kiss his cheek and say 'I love you, but I'm not hungry. Thank you."
  • SugaryLynx
    SugaryLynx Posts: 2,640 Member
    What's wrong with pie and ice cream? >.> Everything in moderation. Even if your goal is fat loss. I ate all those things and lost plenty of body fat balancing my macros and adjusting my intake to mostly nutrient dense foods. I still left room for fun calories. Unless you know, you plan on never eating ice cream and pie again, but that would be so sad :(

    I would eat it... I'd just like to be able to plan my own meals and learn how to do that properly. It's not even the food that annoying me, it's the fact that my mother thinks she can decide for me. This isn't a one off thing, and it's not just about diet or food, she just micromanages everything - including me and my lifestyle. It's driving me crazy.

    I'm sorry :/ I can understand that perspective (my mother is similar). I was under the impression you thought you couldn't because of your goals. Too bad family situations are touchy. Do you live with her, I assume? That makes it even more awkward because you don't want to be too pushy and make everything weird household wise. Honestly, I would just let it turn to mush if I wasn't interested in it lol. Can't really force per say but it does sounds like guilting when it's continually put in front of you like that

    I only have to live with her for another six months - and believe me when I it wouldn't be worth it to refuse it, the ****storm that would raise would just be to much to deal with.

    I totally get that. I tend to try to be at peace with people, especially those I live with, when I can. Here's to six months of hopefully non - goal hindering shenanigans :flowerforyou:

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