so annoyed!
weewdy
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On the 5th january this year i decided enough was enough and because i was turned 30 at the end of july i would get back down to my pre pregnancy weight. Not only because of my birthday but because i didnt want to hide away behind the camera, i wanted to enjoy getting my photo taken with my daughter. So since then i have lost 48lbs, 8lbs away from my 1st goal (weight loss seems to have stalled, although its only been a few weeks, i will work through it!)
Anyway only 1 person has noticed my weight loss, a woman in our local garage commented how well i was doing, which gave me another boast in my weight loss. This was about a month ago.
Yesterday i was working with a colleague who i hadnt seen for a while, she is a larger lady probably the same size as i was if not bigger. She said "oh your looking alot better than you did, you were massive after you had your daughter, what tablets are you taking" i told her i was doing it properly this time with no fad diets only counting calories, she said "oh theres no way youve lost all that just counting calories, is it drugs your using" i was that annoyed i walked away.
now its got me thinking is that what everyones thinking, is that why no one has commented on my weight loss. Ive hardly slept a wink.
Anyway only 1 person has noticed my weight loss, a woman in our local garage commented how well i was doing, which gave me another boast in my weight loss. This was about a month ago.
Yesterday i was working with a colleague who i hadnt seen for a while, she is a larger lady probably the same size as i was if not bigger. She said "oh your looking alot better than you did, you were massive after you had your daughter, what tablets are you taking" i told her i was doing it properly this time with no fad diets only counting calories, she said "oh theres no way youve lost all that just counting calories, is it drugs your using" i was that annoyed i walked away.
now its got me thinking is that what everyones thinking, is that why no one has commented on my weight loss. Ive hardly slept a wink.
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I think that says more about her than you tbh. Super well done on your weight loss.0
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who cares what anyone else thinks? its really NOT worth losing sleep over...0
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She's just jealous...
Some people do not comment because they are afraid to offend you if they say the wrong thing...
Don't worry about it and keep up the good work!
It is an amazing loss!!0 -
they are just jealous coz you found something that really works the healthy way.
kudos to you !
suxz for them .... LOL !0 -
Truth is... pill, or not you're either eating less, being more active, or both. All the pills do is suppress appetite.0
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Most people are probably not commenting for fear of offending you or perhaps they think it is not appropriate for them to comment, not because they think you are doing drugs or something. This woman just sounds bitter to me.0
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On the 5th january this year i decided enough was enough and because i was turned 30 at the end of july i would get back down to my pre pregnancy weight. Not only because of my birthday but because i didnt want to hide away behind the camera, i wanted to enjoy getting my photo taken with my daughter. So since then i have lost 48lbs, 8lbs away from my 1st goal (weight loss seems to have stalled, although its only been a few weeks, i will work through it!)
Anyway only 1 person has noticed my weight loss, a woman in our local garage commented how well i was doing, which gave me another boast in my weight loss. This was about a month ago.
Yesterday i was working with a colleague who i hadnt seen for a while, she is a larger lady probably the same size as i was if not bigger. She said "oh your looking alot better than you did, you were massive after you had your daughter, what tablets are you taking" i told her i was doing it properly this time with no fad diets only counting calories, she said "oh theres no way youve lost all that just counting calories, is it drugs your using" i was that annoyed i walked away.
now its got me thinking is that what everyones thinking, is that why no one has commented on my weight loss. Ive hardly slept a wink.
I just dont know why you care?...0 -
People can be really touchy about comments on their weight even if it's meant to be a compliment. They're probably just going the safe route and saying nothing at all rather than risk offending you, the exception being the vocal woman who obviously didn't care about offending you. She probably just doesn't want to believe that healthy weight loss is possible for others when she doesn't feel like it's possible for herself.0
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I think that says more about her than you tbh. Super well done on your weight loss.
Absolutely! And she's probably just jealous of your progress. Well done !!0 -
Are you doing it for them or you? The people that matter in your life will know what and how your doing it. As for everyone else it's nothing to do with them and if they think that that's more there problem than yours. Carry on with what your doing and congratulations on your lossnow its got me thinking is that what everyones thinking, is that why no one has commented on my weight loss. Ive hardly slept a wink.0 -
She probably just doesn't want to believe that healthy weight loss is possible for others when she doesn't feel like it's possible for herself.
^ THIS. Think back to the past when you might have struggled to lose weight yourself. If you saw someone as successful as you've been, I bet you'd be convinced that it was some miracle diet or pill. I think it's hard for people to accept the simplicity of healthy eating and exercise to lose weight. We're conditioned to think that there's some quick fix or that some massive sacrifice has to be made (like cutting out entire food groups).
You're doing so well! Focus on you and have some pride in your success
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People are either jealous, don't know what to say, don't care, don't want to offend you... could be a number of reasons!
You're doing great and you will look fabulous so screw what other people think because you're doing this for you, not for them!0 -
As someone else said it's more of a reflection of her than you.
Seriously don't lose sleep, what's the point, Just accept she told you you've lost weight and be pleased with that!0 -
People are stupid. The end.0
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Don't worry about what others say. The same thing happened to me last year.. I lost about 20 pounds over the summer just by watching what I ate and walking about three nights a week. No pills, no diet. I changed the way I ate. The only thing I did cut from my diet was sweet tea because of all the sugar. But i just reduced my portions and made better choices.. like when we my family goes to Shoney's.. I dont get the breakfast bar (eggs, gravy, biscuits, etc.).
I now eat the salad, corn, green beans, pintos, etc.
You can do it by making good choices and exercising. Keep working hard... You can do it !!0 -
Congratulations on your weight loss, you are obviously on the right track. As far as the other woman's comments, just let them go. Whatever her reason for being inconsiderate, it doesn't matter.0
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You are doing great and you should be proud of yourself (I'm proud of you and I don't even know you- LOL).. I have two theories for you: 1) The lady that made the comment about using pills - she probably thinks there's no way SHE could lose weight the healthy way and therefore thinks that of you... actually, you should pity her. Maybe if she presses it, you could introduce her to MFP? My second theory about why people don't say anything is probably because they don't want to offend you. If they make too big of a deal, they may think you'll think "Geez, how bad did I look before?". That's how I've reacted before when I've lost weight or got a new haircut or some change and people tell me I look so much better - I think "Holy &*%$! I must of been a mess before!" Hang in there!0
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I actually remember once I went to meet a friend for coffee, I'd lost about 50lb since last seeing her but was still overweight, wearing a UK size 16 (US size 12?) which obviously was better than what I was when I started but still chubby.
The first this she says to me when I walk in is 'OMG you look anorexic! What have you been doing, starving yourself?'
I was actually like what has just happened, this is my friend! One of those situations where you think 'if you have nothing nice to say...'0 -
I don't comment to others about their body or food unless they ask. But that's because I hate anyone commenting on my body or food.0
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People can be really touchy about comments on their weight even if it's meant to be a compliment. They're probably just going the safe route and saying nothing at all rather than risk offending you, the exception being the vocal woman who obviously didn't care about offending you. She probably just doesn't want to believe that healthy weight loss is possible for others when she doesn't feel like it's possible for herself.
This comment is all sorts of truth!0 -
who cares what anyone else thinks? its really NOT worth losing sleep over...
This. OP, you have nothing to prove to anyone. You lost the weight for you, right? So why put so much worth behind what someone else thinks/believes?0 -
The general population won't say much to either a man or woman for a number of reasons. My boss, a man lost an incredible amount of weight - probably 50 lbs without saying a word. Turns out he was in Weight Watchers. No one has ever said anything, we just gossip "hey have you noticed _______ looks like he's losing a lot of weight, he looks great". No one wants to be seen as kissing up.
Conversely I've noticed a woman at work who has done a great job losing weight (in the same WW group I believe) and I just don't know her well enough. Hey....I've never said anything to you about your weight before....but it's lookin good now? There's just not a good way to bring it up with coworkers in our "everyone gets offended" society these days.
The OP's issue with an ignorant coworker accusing her of lying? There's just really no excuse or explanation.0 -
To the posts saying why are you bothered then the answer is because i am live and work in a small village where everyone knows everyone and i also work caring for other peoples children. I dont want people to think im on drugs, as alot of people were taking a prescription drug to aid weightloss and i would hate for people to think i was doing the same.0
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Honestly, it seems like people who don't mention it are just jealous that you've achieved something they probably want! I get it quite a bit, I get people telling me to stop because I'm too thin when I'm not or they don't say anything at all when it is very obvious I've lost weight as I have lost 27 lbs and gone from a size 16 to 12! Well done for the weight you've lost and keep it up, don't listen to people who annoy you, they really aren't worth the hassle!!0
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who cares what anyone else thinks? its really NOT worth losing sleep over...
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She's just jealous...
Some people do not comment because they are afraid to offend you if they say the wrong thing...
Don't worry about it and keep up the good work!
It is an amazing loss!!
^This.0 -
You've done an awesome job! Don't let her comments affect you. It sounds like she's projecting her own insecurities onto you.0
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Most people are probably not commenting for fear of offending you or perhaps they think it is not appropriate for them to comment, not because they think you are doing drugs or something. This woman just sounds bitter to me.
I agree with this.
Who cares how you lost the weight, really. I mean YES it's great that you didn't do a quick fix because that sets you up for easier maintenance and future success. But it doesn't really matter if others know that.
I have lost a total of 120 lb and so far no one has asked me if I had weight loss surgery, but I know a lot of other people around the same loss who get constant assumptions. I can see where that might be pretty annoying. I HAVE had people ask me if I am doing a specific fad diet, shakes, or a pill. So I understand your annoyance and slight paranoia that "everyone thinks that" but I really would not worry too much over it.
People also sometimes just don't notice, maybe some of them are too wrapped up in themselves. I have been 'guilty' of this before. Especially when someone was a pretty average size, say a ladies size 12 dress and lost weight and got to a size 8 or 10, I viewed that woman as normal before and after and not fat so I would never even notice the loss. That has been an issue several times with coworkers and acquaintances of mine asking, "Did you notice I lost 20 lb?" and I was totally unaware.0
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