Please.. Help me?

Welcome back! Check out this super helpful link to get you started. You can do this, OP!

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

I am sending you an invitation to my group.. we can help.

It works. It WILL take time though. I'm down a lot of weight, but I don't really see the difference in the mirror yet, this is a long-haul thing, so you will definitely need patience.

DEEP BREATH!!!!

Yes counting calories work if you really count the calories!! Its simple formula of calories in vs calories out. You don't have to "diet" just eat smaller portions. Be more mindful of the types of food you eat (less processed foods, less chemicals, less sugar (HFCS), less bad fats). Do that and move more and you will see change. But you did not gain over night and you will not lose over night. Its a slow process - a marathon not a sprint. If you truly want it you will succeed. But understand you will have bad days and you will have good days. Don't look at the finish line... look at today - look at how you can change today then carry it on to tomorrow!!!

Also, seek the advice of a nutritionist to help you if you feel overwhelmed. You can do this!!! Good luck!!

I have been on diets for most of my 56 yrs, the best way to lose weight is to change the type of foods you eat and to get support. I went to weight watchers for awhile and it changed to way I looked at food. I started choosing healthier foods. Making sure you record every thing you eat so you are aware of all your choices. It is a life change some of us has to stick to for our entire life. So don't cry just make up your mind that this is what I am going to do and do it. Good Luck!!

The biggest key is to first become conscious of what you're eating. When you first start, just really pay attention to what you're putting in your mouth. Ask yourself if you're really hungry or just eating because of emotional reasons. Find out what you eat too much of. Do you drink a lot of caloric drinks? Just limiting those can really have an impact. Honestly, before counting calories I lost a boat load of weight just by working out more, cutting out caloric drinks, and eating less. The hardest part isn't what to eat, but being able to stop when you really should stop. I have an iron stomach and can eat more than almost anyone in the world. It was, and still can be, very tough to stop myself.

This this this! When I started, I just started logging my food. I ate the same things I always have, not trying to stay under any certain amount of calories or anything. As I became aware of what I was eating, I was able to make changes to stay within the calories I needed to in order to lose.

Don't get overwhelmed by this process. You can take it a step at a time. You can eat the foods you like in smaller portions and slowly add things to your diet to give you more healthy options. You don't have to eat 100% healthy and you don't have to be perfect 100% of the time.

^ This (and the rest of Dianne's post) is great advice. Don't think about THE DIET and then freak out. Think about eating what you are eating now, only less of it, and gradually swap in some healthier alternatives over time.

For many people, "diet" means restrictions; it means cutting things out, having no fun, renouncing pleasures. Those people may lose weight when on that diet, but when they reach their goal, they give up the restrictions and end up gaining the weight back. Those who are successful think of "diet" in terms of the food that they eat on a regular basis, and that they follow all of their life. If you want to not only lose weight but also keep it off, it helps to reframe what the word "diet" means, so that it is closer to the second.

I've lost over 50 lb. in the last 16 months by eating less, but I haven't cut anything out of my diet. I eat chocolate from time to time, I have bacon, I spread butter over my toast and cream cheese over my bagels. I have a drink or two most days. I just eat less of everything, and pay more attention to whether I am truly hungry or whether I just feel like eating because something looks good or I want a distraction.

Veggies are good, but you can take it slow with them. Eat the ones you like, and try small portions of new ones. It takes 12-20 tries before most people learn to like a new food (unless it's full of fat and sugar), so don't give up easily.

You can do it if you put your mind to it! It's not easy, but it can be done. Good luck!

For me carbohydrates are not nice / good for me. I can eat same amount of calories but if my carbs are too high I will not lose. I talked with a dietitian and what I generally follow is eat three meals, each meal should you should not have more than 45 carbs, I eat three snacks per day (morn, afternoon, evening) each snack should not be over 15 carbs. You are welcome to look at my diary if you want. This has helped me. Everyone is different but you might try this. Also make sure you have protein at every meal, if you don't get protein you may not feel as full. Sometimes I use almonds 1/2 serving of cocoa roasted almonds to get me past a "I want something" craving.

Apples and bananas are great! I particularly like the "Pink Lady" variety of apple if you can find them at your store!

As far as other veggies go, maybe try 1 new one a week. Or blend them up with some yogurt and a little juice and drink them. Or just stick with what you like.

You're going to do great. Add me if you like and we can help each other. I'm not perfect, but I'm trying and that's all any of us can do, right?