Hi. I'm new here and I really need support.

Hi! I am not completely new but I keep to myself and decided today, maybe if I reach out and connect more I can have more support and motivation to stay on track. So...good luck to you!

Welcome Amy! I would be happy to help you with your goal to lose weight! If you don't mind sharing, what's your current weight, height and activity level (how many times do you work out/week?). I can provide you with free help if you ever need it. Good luck and feel free to message me for assistance!

What's your height currently? I can help you further with your diet/exercise with that info.

For me I lose off my chest, around my collar bones, neck, cheeks, belly then last of all thighs!! Don't worry it will come!!

Hi, I will send you a FR (friend request)...happy to give you some support. :flowerforyou:

here is an awesome link to read....
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1175494-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants?hl=path+to+your+sexy+pants

(edited to add link to path to sexypants)

I sent you a friend request.

One thing I want to say, and I think it was already said but needs to be repeated, is this. Do this for you. If you are doing this for someone else, it won't work. I know because I did that before.

Many years ago, the guy I was dating at the time looked at me while we were heading to Minnesota for work and told me, "I would marry you if you lost the weight." Back then I wasn't as heavy as I am now, but I was so in love with this guy that when he said that, I took it as my only chance at gaining his full love. So when we arrived in Minnesota, I asked his aunt (we were staying there at the time) to help me with that. She did, and I began to lose the weight. Unfortunately, he cheated on me and moved his 'girlfriend' up there while I was still there. Needless to say, I lost motivation and stopped my weight loss plans.

It was a hard lesson for me to learn, but it has been one that has stuck with me for a very long time. I'm doing this weight loss journey for me. The time is right, and I know that with support and MFP I can do it.

So, don't worry about your husband. Take the journey for yourself. Think about how good you'll feel, how sexy you feel and look.

*hugs* We can do it! :flowerforyou:

I'm sorry you have to go through all of that, and for the fact that he isn't being very supportive about it. Maybe there is a reason why he is not being supportive of your desire to lose weight and get yourself in better shape. He sounds very insecure, and with him being very thin, that is what I'm banking on. He needs to understand that your condition is dangerous. He needs to understand that there are risks involved, and I'm talking about health risks. Heart diseases, hypertension, diabetes, even cancer. He needs to understand that, and support your decision to get healthier. I'm glad that you are making this choice for yourself. You do not need his approval. It's your body, and only YOU can take care of it. As far as the number of calories go, the thing you really need to focus on, more than stressing over the calories, is just to have a set meal plan involving vitamins and supplements, lean meats, good carbs (sweet potatoes and brown rice, for example), fruits and vegetables, and lots of water. You're doing a good job of avoiding simple sugars. You need 5 meals a day, and that's three regular meals (or 2 meal replacement shakes and 1 big dinner), and two protein snacks. I can't stress the protein enough. It is important to get the protein in your system because you need to boost metabolism. Protein will help (not entirely do it for you). Protein will really aid in weight loss. More protein, and less carbs is really the way to go. Don't deprive yourself of good nutrition by "watching your calories." All you need is good nutrition. And then the exercise. It's important to exercise 150 minutes per week. You don't need to do anything vigorous right now, but as long as you can get your blood flowing, and improve your strength, you will get healthier every time. It's all about progression. Take baby steps.

I really hope this helps, and I really hope that this will encourage you. You can do this. I know you can.

Hi, I am also new. Been tracking my food for about a week now. April 17 I went to the dr for a rash and left with the a script for Metformin for high blood sugar. I have completely changed what I eat, making better choices. No bread or soda at all. My husband and I take the dogs for a walk 2-3 times a week, usually 30 minutes. I started this week on the treadmill 15 min after breakfast and 15 min. after lunch. I am determined to come off the meds. I weigh 243 and I am 5 3. Hope to make some friends to help keep me on track during this journey of a life change.

So- I was sticking with a 1200-1400 calorie diet and eating back about half of my workout calories - and I was working out 5 times a week and sticking strict to the diet. And saw the scale move about 2lbs in about 3-4 weeks. I was getting very frustrated. And then a friend I made on here told me I was putting myself into starvation mode - moved myself up to 1900 calories a day (with a good assortment of healthy foods) two weeks ago - and have lost about 5lbs in the past two weeks. Who knew eating more would help me lose more! It's working and I plan on sticking with it.
Best of luck to you - you are more than welcome to add me as a friend - I try to get on a log everyday.

My name is Amy. I'm 39, married and have two kids. I am VERY overweight. I've never really sincerely tried to lose the weight. I'm prone to pretty severe depression and tend to be very sedentary. I decided that I'd better get my head on straight about 2 weeks ago and found MFP. I've been logging every calorie on my phone with the app. It says I'm allowed 2000 calories a day and I'll lose 2 pounds a week if I eat that. I've been VERY good so far, but some days are a real struggle. My husband is thin and has the metabolism of a hummingbird. He eats when he wants and what he wants and gains nothing. He's not the most supportive person in the world when it comes to this, and insists on desserts in the house. I can usually stay away from them, for some reason once I've baked it I don't care to eat it.

I'm questioning the 2000 calories a day though. That seems like a lot. I thought I'd have to go down to 1500 or so to lose anything. I got discouraged yesterday. I have to have lost some weight, but can't tell about the pounds because I don't own a scale. I was depending on my clothing telling me I was making progress, but nothing seems looser....except the cup size on my bra. I realized that THAT is where it's happening. LOL not complaining really but it would be nice if it came off my stomach or thighs or face. Anyway, that's my story. I look forward to getting to know some people who need help too.

Thanks!

Just a bit of insite: I am 5-5"/130lbs and I am on 2100 calories to maintain. So the 2000 for you, is not a lot at all. Focus on eating lots of veggies and lean proteins The good thing is your body has quite a bit of muscle and it is used to joint stress, so just moving will be like a strength workout for you. The more you move, the more your body will increase that muscle and the more you will burn at rest. Start small... anything you can do and build from there! get rid of all processed snacks/foods and sugars, you will be amazed at just that. You may have some energy depletion while your body adjusts to the sugar low. You got this!!!

hi everyone

im new here also, week 2 and this is the first time ive ever had the notion n determination to do this. im not one for much interaction but need support to help me, i like amy dont know what im meant to be eating but i have a holiday abroad in 8 weeks and know im still gonna be fat when i go but i hope to feel better about myself than i do now. I also have been signed off work with serious depression due to issues within the workplace but i feel so much better already, I cant run to save myself but I thought as someone who is super unfit ill buy a wii and have been doing 30 mins 4/5 days a week, may i just add that i can barely bend down cos every bone in my body is crying out for help lol, hoping to meet people like me, not wee skinny people that have never had a weight issue in there life

Welcome, Amy. Good for you for doing this for yourself and your daughter. Keep it up. You can do it. Seeing someone else change can be hard for many people to accept. Don't let anyone else's fears or lack of support stop you. Depression is something many of us here share. When you start eating right, that should become less severe and should go away all together as you get healthier. Protein, veggies, lots of water and balanced supplements are key.

Hi Amy!! I was in a very similar situation. Right before I started MFP I had just moved 3000 miles from home to be with my now husband without knowing anyone and became so depressed, I rarely left the house. My husband is addicted to fast food. I soon took on his addiction and already being overweight, I put on about 120lbs in a year. So, I found this site and started at 405lbs!! I have been where you are. I did it on my own. He wasn't ready to change. I would log my calories and still go out and get him fast food, having to smell it and bring it back to him. That was hard. Really hard, but I am used to doing that now. You just know that they aren't going to change. You have to be in the mindset that whatever you do is for you and it is for TODAY.

As for results, I bet you have lost quite a bit. I have to lose about 40lbs before notice in my clothes because I am so used to wearing baggy clothes. I bet you are the same way. The best way to tell is buy a tape measure. They are cheap and less temperamental then a stupid scale!!

Amy, I just joined today also. You are right...this will be a struggle for both of us, but just take it one day at a time. I will be your weight buddy if you need one. In former diets, I found that the less sugar I intake the faster the weight comes off, so think twice about those desserts. Go for some fresh fruit instead. Good Luck, Marge