Fat and Friendless!

nellaalyrehc
nellaalyrehc Posts: 3
edited September 22 in Introduce Yourself
New Year, New Me...right?

A little bit about this "me":

I am a wife and mother of three girls under the age of six. My last daughter was born 11 months ago and I have never been heavier (besides pregnancy).

I work part time outside of home to keep myself sane.

I am a self confessed chocoholic who could easily skip mealtimes and head straight for dessert.

I live in denial until I see pictures of myself.

I am easily 40 pounds overweight. The more I attempt to diet, the more I gain.

I hide chocolate wrappers from myself in fear of realizing that I am overweight.

I have never joined a group before and never thought I needed emotional support to help me through this...until NOW. ;)

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  • AislynneRobot
    AislynneRobot Posts: 19 Member
    Welcome , this is a great place to get suuport! Good luck!
  • Rocking_Robin
    Rocking_Robin Posts: 238 Member
    You are not alone!! I have been on MFP for maybe 2 weeks now and LOVE it!! We can do it together!!!
  • JRIV60
    JRIV60 Posts: 732 Member
    :flowerforyou: I will be your fat friend! I have about 40 or so pounds to lose myself. We can take baby steps towards our goals.
  • angeladawn88
    angeladawn88 Posts: 30
    You can do this. We will all help!
  • Mindful_Trent
    Mindful_Trent Posts: 3,954 Member
    Welcome! Sounds like MFP is just what you need! It's all about awareness - fully realizing how much you are eating... all those chocolate bars can really add up! I recommend you log EVERYTHING. Don't feel that you have to give up chocolate/treats completely - but make sure keep them as an occasional thing, and go for dark chocolate if you can - it's much better for you!
  • LynnBirchfield
    LynnBirchfield Posts: 581 Member
    You have made the right decision in joining MFP. The website is very user friendly. While friends are there to motivate you, you definitely have to put forth the effort. If you want, you can request me as a friend by clicking on my user name. I wish you the best of luck in your weight loss journey.

    Lynn
  • Meganne1982
    Meganne1982 Posts: 451
    I feel you on the chocolate- i could (and probably have) eat an entire chocolate cake in one sitting by myself.
    It can be a tough journey, but changing your life to a healthier one is soooo rewarding!
    Good luck to you and welcome!
  • thisis4me
    thisis4me Posts: 219 Member
    Welcome!! I am new here and can tell you I am loving this site and all the wonderful people I have come across so far....already I feel such great support and kindness:) Feel free to add me and we can help each other:) Have a great day and best wishes!!
  • YeahMe
    YeahMe Posts: 35 Member
    Chin up...we are all in the same boat! We can work together to support each other! 40 pounds YOU CAN DO IT! I have at least 65 pounds to go. One step at a time!

    Friend me!!!!!!. . .and together we can reach our goals!!!!
  • Darlis
    Darlis Posts: 191 Member
    This place is awesome for support! LEAVE the chocolate alone...LOL. Actually once you leave it off for awhile, your cravings get less and less. Also "dieting" too much just puts your body in starvation mode and makes it want to hang on to every calorie. Log in on the food journal and actually eat healthy calories.....all this is the advice of my new nutritionist! So far I am eating more than I was, but also healthier meals. I haven't been hungry at all, and even though I haven't logged in officially yet, I am already seeing a change on the scale!
  • jla4et
    jla4et Posts: 3
    Hi
    I am new here too. I love your confession about not realizing you are overweight until you see a picture of yourself, I feel the same some days and I have MUCH more than 40lbs to lose. Sometimes I walk by a store window and look at the reflection and can not believe it's me.

    Good luck to us!
  • bienlunee
    bienlunee Posts: 10 Member
    I totally know what you mean about the pictures...I threatened my friend on fb that I would sit on her if she posted another picture of my fat behind...then I e-mailed her later to ask her to send it to me....I'm going to post in on the fridge and in my car. Sigh.... :noway: ...the things I do to motivate myself!! ;)
  • msdebg
    msdebg Posts: 33 Member
    Well Girlfriend you came to the right place I think! I have never tried support before either, but so far it is pretty darned good. We are with you!
  • shelli1982
    shelli1982 Posts: 133
    feel free to add me!! I've been on the site for a year, had good results last year until I stopped counting calories in Sept. Now i'm back to get the rest of the weight (coincidentally, also about 40 lbs) off... good luck!
  • gsg37
    gsg37 Posts: 23 Member
    I have about the same amount of weight to lose too, so you are not alone. Feel free to add me as a friend and we can encourage one another! We can do this, it won't be easy but it will be so worth all the hard work!
  • MontanaB
    MontanaB Posts: 439 Member
    hey and welcome
    dont feel alone - there are hundreds of us just the same out there but only the ones who have determination and want to change find places like this :)

    feel free to add me :)
  • sweetiev
    sweetiev Posts: 18
    You will love this site....I have been here only a week but loving it and everyone is so friendly! You can do this and I will be here for you! Friendless no more =)
  • srcurran
    srcurran Posts: 208 Member
    I love how this site keeps me "honest" because I've vowed to post everything that I eat - no matter what. It has been a great help.

    You can do this!

    Do you have any exercise options? There are plenty you can do at home. A treadmill is good. You can do running in place, you can walk your neighborhood, you can lift light weights (or cans of soup).

    Start slow and build up. You'll so like the positive way it makes you feel you will be motivated to keep going.

    I love getting credit for the exercise I do (including housework) which also boosts your mood.

    Use it! Log in every day! Reach out to us for assistance!

    Welcome!
  • mandster
    mandster Posts: 95 Member
    Hi

    I joined a few days ago and think the site is great! I'm addicted to putting in my food and exercise - especially exercise as inputting it seems like a reward (or maybe I need to get out more!)

    I was always fit and healthy before having kids but have put on weight after both of them (lovely as they are they do drive me to chocolate sometimes.) I did used to do a lot of exercise and eat what I wanted though. Since having kids I have still ate whatever I liked but did almost no exercise - and walking at toddler pace doesn't do much for your fitness. Have been exercising every day for almost a week now and feel great!

    Good luck and I'm happy to be fitness buddy.

    Mandy
  • redwingluvr
    redwingluvr Posts: 75 Member
    Welcome!!! You will love this site so much. It has helped me big time. I started out wanting to lose 45 lbs and have lost 15 so far since Nov 15th. I love the support here and love to give support. Stay positive and on board and you'll be fine. There are great people here!!! Good luck on your journey and I look forward to losing with you!!!
  • milbrymoore
    milbrymoore Posts: 4
    Like you I need to lose 30-40 pounds. This is my first day on the program. I am a retired registered nurse. One thing I know for sure, exercise is the key to losing or not gaining. I spend a few days in Miami before Christmas, ate all I wanted including ice cream twice a day; walked for hours every day and did not gain an ounce. That proved to me the importance of exercise. I have become lazy since retirement. I vow to eat less and eat more in the new year.
  • curvymonkey
    curvymonkey Posts: 26
    Just when I thought I was getting better, a friend took a picture of me during the New Year's Eve party and I nearly cried. I was bulging everywhere. How hideous! So yeah, I feel your pain.

    You're not alone so whenever you need support, give us a holler. That's what we're here for. :)
  • Katz85340
    Katz85340 Posts: 206 Member
    I know how you feel. I loved chocolate and any type of carbohydrate! I also have been known to binge on cake and pie! The more cream the better. Sigh! I'm glad those days are gone. It's also true, the longer you're away from your weakness (in your case, chocolate), the less you crave it.

    I started out on this site eating whatever I wanted as long as I logged the food and stayed at or under the calories designated to me by MFP. I set a small goal of 1lb. of weight loss per week. As I continued on, I started seeing the weight drop off. The more weight I lost, the more motivated I got. Eventually, I slowly reduced the amount of sugar and fat in my diet, choosing healthy substitutes. I began drinking more fluids, especially sugar-free options. I decided I'd rather eat my calories than to drink them, so I stopped drinking sodas and other high calorie beverages and opted for things like Crystal Light, diet sodas, sugar-free flavored waters, decaf coffee with sugar-free creamer, regular water, and so on. I lost even more weight.

    Since chocolate is your craving, try sugar-free chocolates, sugar-free fudge frozen bars, sugar-free hot cocoa, etc. They are very good, depending on the brand. Sugar-free hot cocoa can be satisfying and relaxing since I believe your cravings are stress related and not hunger related. Most important, log everything...even if you go over. Eventually, you will see where you should cut back on the sugars. Really pay attention to your nutritional information. You'd be surprised how much you'll go over on sugar, cholesterol, fats, etc. I was! Now I'm really conscientious. I, like others have become obsessed about logging my foods and beverages; something I never thought I would do or say.

    The MFP community is very supportive and you have come to the right place! I look forward to helping you as much as possible. Welcome to MFP!
  • CaptainSmedley
    CaptainSmedley Posts: 10
    There were two things that got me started working out seven years ago. The first was the fact that my Dr. told me that I would probably die and never see my three daughters get married. My cholesterol was one of the highest he had ever seen as was my blood pressure. I had also made two trips to the ER with chest pains.

    The second thing that got me started was looking at pictures of myself. All I could ever see was stomach. I absolutely hated having my picture taken.

    What I did was focus that anger towards the machines in the gym. I created a log of each excercise and made it my goal to do one more push-up or burn five more calories each day I went. I went to the gym alone so as not to get distracted by idle chit chat and just focused on beating the machines. Too many use this as a social outlet at the expense of results. You also need to watch very closely what you eat. This software is really helpful in that regard. I eat the same thing for breakfast and lunch every day with wery small variations so it is all measured and easy to stick with.

    Believe me I hated it at first and really struggled to keep pushing. The log and my anger to never see another fat picture of myself kept me going . After seven years I have lost 80 pounds and have 5 more to go which does not include the extra six I just put on over the holiday.

    You can do this! It just takes a little focus and keep reminding yourself why.

    You have already taken the first step. Good Luck!!
  • LaVerne2008
    LaVerne2008 Posts: 9
    we are all here for you! i know hwat it's like to be in denial about all of it...it's tough, but we can all get through it! welcome to MFP! the first step is deciding to change and you've done that by joining MFP! good luck in your progress!
  • mezmez73
    mezmez73 Posts: 63
    U CAN DO THIS!!! WE ALL CAN DO THIS!!! KEEP UR EYE ON THE PRIZE!!! LETS BE FRIENDS AND DO THIS TOGETHER!
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