deal with the "inbetween" until you reach your goal

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  • suejoker
    suejoker Posts: 317 Member
    Hi & Welcome to MFP! I wake up most mornings feeling restless, irritable, and discontent. Fortunately, I have a morning routine designed to pull myself out of that space. It includes prayer, meditation, journaling, reviewing & visualizing my goals, prepping for the tasks, exercise and meals I have ahead of me, yoga, coffee, and breakfast. If I'm still not feeling revved up for my day, by the time I've reviewed my tasks, I have a Happy Dance Party (where I dance in my room to a youtube playlist of songs that make me happy). Sometimes, even if I am feeling revved up, I'll have a Happy Dance Party.

    I find that if I start off my day encouraging myself and believing that everything is possible, the momentum carries me through even the most difficult days. When I am derailed from this positive attitude, I just stop what I'm doing and do one of the things in my am routine to get grounded again.

    I don't know what will work for you, but I encourage you to figure out what snaps you out of that negative mindset. Sometimes, just checking in on MFP can pull me out of it. Make lots of supportive friends and your newsfeed will be full of things to make you believe that success is possible!
  • BobzStuff
    BobzStuff Posts: 121 Member
    Go look in the mirror. Spend some time there and really see your beauty. It took me awhile before I could look in the mirror and see all the beauty, even though I'm not perfect and I have fat I am still beautiful and I have ever right to feel beautiful and hell even say it aloud. I hate that society always tries to tell us to be quiet when we should be celebrating how beautiful each of us are. I had to stop body shaming myself and others around me. Without even trying I was secretly judging and comparing. It's not right, it's not okay. We are all different but we are all beautiful in our own unique way. Change the way you view beauty and you will change your life and your relationship with your body. Or else even when you lose the weight you will not lose the poor body image.

    Also, stop trying to lose weight. You didn't try to gain weight did you? Were you on the scale each week like "I only gained a pound. I'm going to drown myself in a salad." No, it was a series of small changes over a period of time and that is how you lose it too.

    Good luck!
  • bellabananas
    bellabananas Posts: 20 Member
    Sometimes what helps me is really breaking down my goals, even into one week increments. I have been struggling with consistency and on Monday I made weekly weight loss goals. I have been doing much better this week and feel confident about making my goal tomorrow! I also set up rewards, not always for weight loss but for healthy behaviors, such as working out or tracking. It can be something as simple as new dumbbells or a jump rope. Seeing the overal picture (I have 30 pounds to lose) feels so overwhelming and like it will take forever. But as someone else said, the time will pass anyways, might as well spend it working towards your goals!
  • newlisa2014
    newlisa2014 Posts: 25
    I feel low when i look at the parts of my body that i am disappointed with.. So lately i have been focusing on the good parts and trying to be positive and feel confident and it is really helping me keep going. I like to pretend i already have my dream body and it gives me a sense of excitment

    Maybe that could work for you too?

    Thanks! I imagine myself walking on the beach in aruba in the clothes I feel comfortable in and feeling a sense of happiness I dont feel like eveyone is looking at me!!! Thats my long term goal but im also focusing on the smaller stuff along the way.......making sure I have some fruit every day, making sure I log all my food and exercise and drink plenty of water.........these goals should get me to that beach in aruba next year!!!
  • newlisa2014
    newlisa2014 Posts: 25
    Go look in the mirror. Spend some time there and really see your beauty. It took me awhile before I could look in the mirror and see all the beauty, even though I'm not perfect and I have fat I am still beautiful and I have ever right to feel beautiful and hell even say it aloud. I hate that society always tries to tell us to be quiet when we should be celebrating how beautiful each of us are. I had to stop body shaming myself and others around me. Without even trying I was secretly judging and comparing. It's not right, it's not okay. We are all different but we are all beautiful in our own unique way. Change the way you view beauty and you will change your life and your relationship with your body. Or else even when you lose the weight you will not lose the poor body image.

    Also, stop trying to lose weight. You didn't try to gain weight did you? Were you on the scale each week like "I only gained a pound. I'm going to drown myself in a salad." No, it was a series of small changes over a period of time and that is how you lose it too.

    Good luck!

    Thanks bobzstuff all very sound advice and I never thought of it like that regarding gaining weight!!! I never thought about it I was too busy enjoying myself with all the food so now going to turn it on its head and enjoy other types of food and trying new and healthy things and the weight will fall off without me thinking about it to much!
  • newlisa2014
    newlisa2014 Posts: 25
    Hi & Welcome to MFP! I wake up most mornings feeling restless, irritable, and discontent. Fortunately, I have a morning routine designed to pull myself out of that space. It includes prayer, meditation, journaling, reviewing & visualizing my goals, prepping for the tasks, exercise and meals I have ahead of me, yoga, coffee, and breakfast. If I'm still not feeling revved up for my day, by the time I've reviewed my tasks, I have a Happy Dance Party (where I dance in my room to a youtube playlist of songs that make me happy). Sometimes, even if I am feeling revved up, I'll have a Happy Dance Party.

    I find that if I start off my day encouraging myself and believing that everything is possible, the momentum carries me through even the most difficult days. When I am derailed from this positive attitude, I just stop what I'm doing and do one of the things in my am routine to get grounded again.

    I don't know what will work for you, but I encourage you to figure out what snaps you out of that negative mindset. Sometimes, just checking in on MFP can pull me out of it. Make lots of supportive friends and your newsfeed will be full of things to make you believe that success is possible!

    Im loving the happy dance party idea, I love a good dance and the music always cheers me up!!!

    I have loads of clothes that either dont fit or never fit (ive never figured out why I bought them.......) and im dedicating the weekends going through all my clothes and sorting me out a whole new wardrobe so that when I feel like the pounds are dropping ill try them on and feel fantastic when they start to fit!!

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