Sister is making everything so much harder. Help?

Hmmmm...... well, can you just let it go? Stop worrying about what she thinks or says and stop comparing yourself to her. You are you, she is she.

If relatives were in any way helpful, then this website would go out of business.

Just ignore her. No matter how fit someone may be, there is always someone in better shape. No one can be better than everyone.

"Comparison is the thief of joy"…ITA with the other posters. You are you, she is she. As hard as it may be, you will be much happier when you focus on all the things you are doing to better YOUR life, than worrying about her reaction to your choices. And personally, her "competitiveness" with your choices speaks to her insecurity. Feel compassion for her, as it is not much fun to constantly be comparing yourself to others.

Honestly, I would just talk to her about it. Chances are you're over-thinking this or she's glorifying herself by bringing you down. Sisters should support each other. I know because I have a younger sister and she grew up watching me have a hard time with my weight and she's always been super supportive of it. She's always been thinner than me but she doesn't throw it in my face because I don't think it really phases her. We've sort of devised a plan for each other. I'm better with nutrition and she's better with exercise because she's always been athletic.

Just communicate with your sister. Talk to her about how you don't like the ways she puts you down, whether she's really aware of it or not. The more you tiptoe around her comments the more you'll resent her. It would be awesome if you could let it go at the drop of a hat but it's definitely hard when she's around you all the time.

That's just my opinion, though. I don't believe in sweeping stuff under the rug.

I think your definition of success is a bit skewed. Depriving yourself of everything you enjoy is not success. It's not sustainable and it makes your life miserable. Success is sticking to your plan. If you plan on eating a treat and eat it, you are successful. Don't let her teasing you doubt that.
Another approach you can take is one I took with a close family member. Roughly at the time I started this journey, a close family member had a major medical incident. That led him to change his eating habits and he actually lost quite a bit of weight. For weeks he constantly tried to compare himself to what I was doing. While we were both doing well, we were going about it quite differently. He constantly tried convincing me that what he was doing was the right way. To counter that I started complimenting him whenever I saw him on how great he was doing. I don't know if that gave him enough confidence so he didn't have to compare himself to me but it definitely helped. These days we both just compliment each other and agree that we're both doing what works for each of us.

She is telling something,it's you who is comparing.
If you stop being affected by her and do your own thing ,she will lose her hold over your happiness.
Grow up.

Stop letting things bug you. Your sister can't make you feel anything or make you compete with her, etc. That's all on you.

time to create some healthy boundaries and distance yourself from toxic relationships like this one.

This isn’t a contest; the person who eats the fewest calories doesn’t win. You need to stop buying into her comparisons. If she laughs at your cookie just point out how tasty that cookie was, that the calories still fit into your daily balance, and that you are happier having had a treat rather than planning to sacrifice eating cookies for the rest of your life.

How old are you, OP?

Sound like about 12.

OP --

What kind of help do you expect? Shall we tell your sister to leave you alone and quit comparing what she eats to what you eat? My advise is to put on your big girl panties and get on with your life.

I agree with other post let it go and keep unhealthy people out of your. How do you do that by believing in your process and staying try to what you want to accomplish. This is about YOU!

It's your sister who has the issue, not you. Just keep up what you are doing and ignore her constant nitpicking. Just my .02.

You are going to have to learn to let it go.

Realize that she's possibly doing that because she's jealous. No carbs? Won't eat a cookie or a treat? I'd be a hateful grumpy person too!

Good for you for not restricting too much.

I know it's hard to let it go, I said to my sister the other day "when I lose this weight" she corrected me and said "If you do"...yeah it hurt, but I will NOT let it push me into a hateful place. That's on her.

I have to agree with what others have posted and quote the song title from the movie Frozen.....LET IT GO

When you quit giving into her comparisons, and her having to "One Up You", then she'll quit doing it or at least quit telling you she's doing it. Because she's getting a reaction and the reaction that she wants, she's doing it. I'm sure there's a lot of psychological reasons behind it (and most likely they are all her issues) but the bottom line is, no reaction from you will create no comparison from her.

Focus on you. Are you losing weight for her? Are you eating better for her? Are you making your choices for her? I'm pretty sure you'd answer each of those questions with "No" and I hope followed by "I'm doing it for me". If that's the case, then really the next question you need to ask yourself is "If I'm doing this for me, then why does her opinion count?" I can't think of a reason why her opinion should count, so if it doesn't count, then ignore it and keep moving forward with your improvements.

This is going to be an internal conversation you have with yourself for a bit, I wish it could be instantaneous but it's not. You'll get better at it, and you'll quit letting her make it harder on you. You can only change yourself and your attitude, you cannot change your sister or her attitude.

Let me tell you a little story. My sister who is 10 years older than me was always tiny and curvy and adorable and ALWAYS more petite than me even though we're the same height. I always knew we had different body types so I didn't get too upset but it was a little annoying. I have always stayed active and have had two kids (she has none) and am still in great shape, especially for my age, etc. She, on the other hand, has gained a ton of weight, has so many excuses I've lost count, and showed me in the last year how she has fat hanging from her forearms now that she can jiggle. She has a very flexible schedule so she just chooses not to exercise or eat well. She's what I call a cheese-a-tarian. She loves to make green shakes and tell everyone she's a vegetarian but in reality she exists on cheese and bread and pasta and I don't remember the last time I saw her eat a vegetable or a fruit.

Worry about yourself, take care of yourself in your own way, stay active. The less you care what she thinks and what she does, the less she'll be competitive and do you REALLY care anyway? You shouldn't. I'm glad I never got worked up about it because look how things have turned out. Come back to us when you are 40 and 50 and tell me who looks healthier and who is happier. It's going to be the one of you that gives up on worrying about the other first.