Husband needs help

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  • Aaron_K123
    Aaron_K123 Posts: 7,122 Member
    My husband who is 6'6 had a starting weight of 294. The first two weeks he lost 15 pounds and 11.5 inches. Awesome.
    This last weigh in (today) was 2 weeks later. He lost only 3.6 pounds and 3 inches.
    We're eating really good. Almost "clean", well pretty well clean. Lots of fruit, veggies, Greek yogurt, Qia seed and a bunch of other healthy clean things.
    At the gym he's doing 24m on the treadmill and pushing it really hard. And then he does usually a 30m thing on the bike. Along with arms every other day and he does 100 crunches, and 100 scissors/leg lifts.

    He's pretty discouraged right now. He pushes himself so much at the gym, and has been going for 25+ days straight.
    He feels like he's doing all this for nothing and I don't know what to tell him. I've tried telling him he's gaining muscle, that the first weigh in was water weight, and that he's still doing great. A loss is a loss
    He just says that a guy his size should be dropping fast and this weigh in reslly killed him.

    What can/should I say to him? What can/should he be doing??

    Could this be related to his hormones? Or thyroid? My friend has the same issue - no matter how little she eats or exercises, she is still the same, and can't drop a pound. She was told she has a thyroid something, but I also think she has too much of a female hormone oestrogen in her. She also mentioned to me that every time she cuts herself, the wound just wouldn't heal for a long time and puss comes out of it. And although I told her to get checked for diabetes, she refused saying "it just can't be".
    I understand this is difficult for you to encourage him, but maybe it is worth to go to a doctor to see if the problem lies deeper.
    A million virtual hugs to you both! Don't give up!
    Kind regards

    Big difference between not dropping a pound no matter what you do and dropping 15 pounds in 4 weeks.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    Well, 25 straight day of working out at least an hour a day; maybe a rest day is in order. Then again, maybe he could start a thread and ask for advice himself.

    (Maybe he's hanging out with the wife of that other thread (#1285532)?)
  • mslovecats
    mslovecats Posts: 49
    My husband who is 6'6 had a starting weight of 294. The first two weeks he lost 15 pounds and 11.5 inches. Awesome.
    This last weigh in (today) was 2 weeks later. He lost only 3.6 pounds and 3 inches.
    We're eating really good. Almost "clean", well pretty well clean. Lots of fruit, veggies, Greek yogurt, Qia seed and a bunch of other healthy clean things.
    At the gym he's doing 24m on the treadmill and pushing it really hard. And then he does usually a 30m thing on the bike. Along with arms every other day and he does 100 crunches, and 100 scissors/leg lifts.

    He's pretty discouraged right now. He pushes himself so much at the gym, and has been going for 25+ days straight.
    He feels like he's doing all this for nothing and I don't know what to tell him. I've tried telling him he's gaining muscle, that the first weigh in was water weight, and that he's still doing great. A loss is a loss
    He just says that a guy his size should be dropping fast and this weigh in reslly killed him.

    What can/should I say to him? What can/should he be doing??

    Could this be related to his hormones? Or thyroid? My friend has the same issue - no matter how little she eats or exercises, she is still the same, and can't drop a pound. She was told she has a thyroid something, but I also think she has too much of a female hormone oestrogen in her. She also mentioned to me that every time she cuts herself, the wound just wouldn't heal for a long time and puss comes out of it. And although I told her to get checked for diabetes, she refused saying "it just can't be".
    I understand this is difficult for you to encourage him, but maybe it is worth to go to a doctor to see if the problem lies deeper.
    A million virtual hugs to you both! Don't give up!
    Kind regards

    Big difference between not dropping a pound no matter what you do and dropping 15 pounds in 4 weeks.

    Yea, I understand what you mean. But my friend was trying to lose weight since she was a kid, and she is convinced that eating healthy foods is the only way. So, she seemed to be stuck on 200 pounds for ages. I just think he should see a doctor, just to make sure everything's fine. Honestly, I cannot understand how a person may weigh so much, despite a generally healthy lifestyle - it could be a more serious issue.
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    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
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  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    That's probably the best first 2 pages that I've read in at least 24 hours . . .
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  • lori_oz
    lori_oz Posts: 13 Member
    Yea, I understand what you mean. But my friend was trying to lose weight since she was a kid, and she is convinced that eating healthy foods is the only way. So, she seemed to be stuck on 200 pounds for ages. I just think he should see a doctor, just to make sure everything's fine. Honestly, I cannot understand how a person may weigh so much, despite a generally healthy lifestyle - it could be a more serious issue.

    What are you talking about? Who said he had a "generally healthy lifestyle". He has been at this for four weeks, and in that time has lost 19lb. How is that similar to your friend?
  • Ashleystrickland87
    Ashleystrickland87 Posts: 6 Member
    Sorry. The "m" means minutes.
  • Ashleystrickland87
    Ashleystrickland87 Posts: 6 Member
    Well, 25 straight day of working out at least an hour a day; maybe a rest day is in order. Then again, maybe he could start a thread and ask for advice himself.

    He's not on MFP
  • Ashleystrickland87
    Ashleystrickland87 Posts: 6 Member
    divorce him and find a new one.
    you look HOT now, it will be very easy to find one.
    :bigsmile:
    or not? but uhhh... thanks?
  • gostumpy
    gostumpy Posts: 156 Member
    Echoing what has been said, he has good weight loss record, and if he continues, he will continue to lose weight.

    Full stop.

    He needs to continue for months on end, not a few weeks. Reinforce the thought that this is a long-term change that will have great payoffs, not a short-term burst of weight loss then maintain.

    Like was said, he didn't gain it in a month, so he won't lose it in a month either :)
  • Ashleystrickland87
    Ashleystrickland87 Posts: 6 Member
    okay ive read all the comments. and thank you everyone!
    IM not discouraged for him. Ive told him its normal and he needs to just keep going. A loss is a Loss. I guess hes thinking "biggest Loser" drops... He just thinks that a guy his size should be able to drop a lot more than 3 pounds in 2 weeks. *shrug*
    Ive been doing My own weight loss journey since Feb 2013, and there was times I gained, and lost only 1 pound. Most of my losses has been 1-3 pounds here and there. And Im cool with that. I went from 155 to now 127 which is cool for me.

    Ive tried convincing him to join MFP in order to get a better understanding of how many Calories he needs to take in and everything else. He doesn't want too. SO maybe I should do it behind his back?! LOl just kidding obv.

    I've told him hes possibly gaining muscle, even just in his legs from doing the Treadmill and Bike. And hes also been doing arm machines, so I've told him hes gaining muscle from those things. But he doesn't believe me. Ugh hes frustrating sometimes.

    Its hard for him to eat normally most times because he drives trains. And on call pretty well 24/7.. So for example he went to work last night/this morning at 3am... And it takes 12 hours to get to his destination. And then he has to sleep, and he does his workout at he hotel. but then he will probably be awake all night again. So we do pack him a good lunch. Quinoa cereal, yogurt, granola, and a whole slew of other things. Last night he brought some left over chicken fajitas that I cooked up (no tortilla)...

    I wasnt really asking for why he didnt lose as muhc weight, but more what I could say to him?!
    Maybe I should buy him a gift. he always bought me stuff when I was feeling discouraged.
  • mslovecats
    mslovecats Posts: 49
    Yea, I understand what you mean. But my friend was trying to lose weight since she was a kid, and she is convinced that eating healthy foods is the only way. So, she seemed to be stuck on 200 pounds for ages. I just think he should see a doctor, just to make sure everything's fine. Honestly, I cannot understand how a person may weigh so much, despite a generally healthy lifestyle - it could be a more serious issue.

    What are you talking about? Who said he had a "generally healthy lifestyle". He has been at this for four weeks, and in that time has lost 19lb. How is that similar to your friend?
    i was talking about my friend, who leads a generally healthy lifestyle.
    As for this person, I just thought since he is stuck and not losing weight, maybe he needs to see a doc.
  • mslovecats
    mslovecats Posts: 49
    okay ive read all the comments. and thank you everyone!
    IM not discouraged for him. Ive told him its normal and he needs to just keep going. A loss is a Loss. I guess hes thinking "biggest Loser" drops... He just thinks that a guy his size should be able to drop a lot more than 3 pounds in 2 weeks. *shrug*
    Ive been doing My own weight loss journey since Feb 2013, and there was times I gained, and lost only 1 pound. Most of my losses has been 1-3 pounds here and there. And Im cool with that. I went from 155 to now 127 which is cool for me.

    Ive tried convincing him to join MFP in order to get a better understanding of how many Calories he needs to take in and everything else. He doesn't want too. SO maybe I should do it behind his back?! LOl just kidding obv.

    I've told him hes possibly gaining muscle, even just in his legs from doing the Treadmill and Bike. And hes also been doing arm machines, so I've told him hes gaining muscle from those things. But he doesn't believe me. Ugh hes frustrating sometimes.

    Its hard for him to eat normally most times because he drives trains. And on call pretty well 24/7.. So for example he went to work last night/this morning at 3am... And it takes 12 hours to get to his destination. And then he has to sleep, and he does his workout at he hotel. but then he will probably be awake all night again. So we do pack him a good lunch. Quinoa cereal, yogurt, granola, and a whole slew of other things. Last night he brought some left over chicken fajitas that I cooked up (no tortilla)...

    I wasnt really asking for why he didnt lose as muhc weight, but more what I could say to him?!
    Maybe I should buy him a gift. he always bought me stuff when I was feeling discouraged.

    Buy him a t-shirt with Grumpy Cat on it. He'll love it
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  • ravenmiss
    ravenmiss Posts: 384 Member
    I've told him hes possibly gaining muscle, even just in his legs from doing the Treadmill and Bike. And hes also been doing arm machines, so I've told him hes gaining muscle from those things. But he doesn't believe me.

    He's right not to believe you because you're wrong. You cannot gain muscle when eating at a deficit.

    Just be there for him and if he can't be bothered to join MFP to gain his own knowledge on the matter and real weight-loss as opposed to fake TV shows then that's his problem really. Just be there for him and educate him but make sure you're right in what you're telling him.
  • ravenmiss
    ravenmiss Posts: 384 Member
    Yea, I understand what you mean. But my friend was trying to lose weight since she was a kid, and she is convinced that eating healthy foods is the only way. So, she seemed to be stuck on 200 pounds for ages. I just think he should see a doctor, just to make sure everything's fine. Honestly, I cannot understand how a person may weigh so much, despite a generally healthy lifestyle - it could be a more serious issue.

    What are you talking about? Who said he had a "generally healthy lifestyle". He has been at this for four weeks, and in that time has lost 19lb. How is that similar to your friend?
    i was talking about my friend, who leads a generally healthy lifestyle.
    As for this person, I just thought since he is stuck and not losing weight, maybe he needs to see a doc.

    But he is losing weight......as mentioned several times on this thread.

    Weight. Loss. Is. Not. Linear.
  • FireOpalCO
    FireOpalCO Posts: 641 Member
    He's not interested in joining MFP, which is fine. Does he do any tracking? He might not always see the scale dropping but he might take comfort in seeing his health improve in other areas: a faster run time, a longer plank time, heavier weights, etc. Body measurements would also be a good thing to track (or blood pressure if that's a worry).

    If he is on the move a lot, apps would probably be a good option for him whether it's MFP, Fitocracy, or something else entirely.
  • Ashleystrickland87
    Ashleystrickland87 Posts: 6 Member
    He's not interested in joining MFP, which is fine. Does he do any tracking? He might not always see the scale dropping but he might take comfort in seeing his health improve in other areas: a faster run time, a longer plank time, heavier weights, etc. Body measurements would also be a good thing to track (or blood pressure if that's a worry).

    If he is on the move a lot, apps would probably be a good option for him whether it's MFP, Fitocracy, or something else entirely.

    We do measurements every two weeks along with the weigh in.
    But he also tracks his calories burned/speed/distance/ whatever else on the treadmill and he started planking and keeping track of his times for that.
  • HaelaBaer
    HaelaBaer Posts: 44
    Tell him more protein and healthy fats! Seriously, does he have any time to read the Internet? I know some good sites my husband uses, and he's doing well. A plateau is expected. If you want to talk web sites, shoot me a note.

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