I keep failing

4 words, eat more lean protein.

It sounds like you are eating because of habit, and it may not be triggered by actual hunger.

You have to start asking yourself why you are going to the cafe for that cookie. Is it a social thing, is it a break from your desk, is it a treat/reward or are you actually really hungry. Once you figure out the why part, you can find an alternate solution. If you really are hungry, then maybe you need to eat a bigger lunch to hold you over.

I know what you mean about everything going downhill at some point during the day. For me, it usually happens because I ate that piece of birthday cake at noon, and now I feel like I messed up the day's calories. The difficult part is to mentally let it go, and continue on track.

Good luck, I know you can do it!

Don't feel ashamed - no one here is going to judge you for what you log in your diary. Actually, people might judge you, but they are losers with zero self esteem who like to torture other's so they feel better about their lives so they really don't matter! If you are ashamed then keep your diary private for a while, just log everything, review it at the end of the day, and really look at what you ate. Hold yourself accountable. And don't beat yourself up - I do the same thing and its always like "well, now that ive eaten one brownie Im a total failure and this day is gone so why not eat 10 more and start over tomorrow?" (I actually kinda did this Sunday....). Tomorrow is a new day, but every minute of everyday is new too - so if you make a "poor" choice just log it, live with it, don't punish yourself and move on.

Give yourself weekends free to start - try cutting out junkfood and sweets during the week only - if you can, just DONT go to the cafeteria - I mean - are those cookies really that good? Wouldnt yuo rather whip up your own batch on the weekend, eat a couple, then give the rest away to friends and family in cute little bags with ribbons to brighten their day and see the smiles on their faces? Wouldnt THAT feel awesome? Better than the cookie from the lunch ladies?

Try sugary fruit to get your fix - bring pre-cut pinaple and shove that in your face every time you get a craving (word usage chosen because thats literally what i do - shove it in!).

Also if you don't live with your parents get the "bad" food out of the house - just don't buy it! Don't buy cookies and snacks and ice cream - if you live with your folks ask them to stop - or better yet, ask them if hey can buy the ingredients to make the stuff yourself, instead of the pre-packaged stuff, then see my previous item.

Also drink, drink, drink, drink - just keep drinking water - drink water until the thought of a cookie makes you want to explode because there's no way you could fit it in!

I agree with the protein talk too, but my suspision is your like me - you arent actually hungry, you just want some cake. Like, at any mooment of any day.

Good luck feel free to add me!

The thing is this...it doesn't matter if you eat the cookies as long as you stay in a deficit, which you don't know because you don't log.

start logging consistently and see what you are eating...if the cookie fits eat it.

I eat treats everyday...and I mean everyday...I couldn't stick to this if chocolate etc was totally off limits...

If this was your eating pattern for a long time, it is going to take several trials and errors periods before you get it right. There isn’t any need to beat yourself up because not many of us have gotten it right the first time. I have lost track of the number of times I started and stopped. The most important thing you need to do is make a solid and firm commitment and not give up. This doesn’t mean you won’t have off days and weeks. This means recommitting yourself over and over until you get it right. Junk foods and cookies are not the problem. Over eating any food is the problem because constant overeating will result in becoming overweight. If you are tracking in MFP then make sure your profile is set correctly and eat back at least half of your exercise calories. Since you only have 25 lbs. to lose, a weekly weight loss goal of .05-1 lb. a week is very reasonable. Here is a great place to start:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants?page=1#posts-16625920

Don't feel ashamed - no one here is going to judge you for what you log in your diary. Actually, people might judge you, but they are losers with zero self esteem who like to torture other's so they feel better about their lives so they really don't matter! If you are ashamed then keep your diary private for a while, just log everything, review it at the end of the day, and really look at what you ate. Hold yourself accountable. And don't beat yourself up - I do the same thing and its always like "well, now that ive eaten one brownie Im a total failure and this day is gone so why not eat 10 more and start over tomorrow?" (I actually kinda did this Sunday....). Tomorrow is a new day, but every minute of everyday is new too - so if you make a "poor" choice just log it, live with it, don't punish yourself and move on.

Give yourself weekends free to start - try cutting out junkfood and sweets during the week only - if you can, just DONT go to the cafeteria - I mean - are those cookies really that good? Wouldnt yuo rather whip up your own batch on the weekend, eat a couple, then give the rest away to friends and family in cute little bags with ribbons to brighten their day and see the smiles on their faces? Wouldnt THAT feel awesome? Better than the cookie from the lunch ladies?

Try sugary fruit to get your fix - bring pre-cut pinaple and shove that in your face every time you get a craving (word usage chosen because thats literally what i do - shove it in!).

Also if you don't live with your parents get the "bad" food out of the house - just don't buy it! Don't buy cookies and snacks and ice cream - if you live with your folks ask them to stop - or better yet, ask them if hey can buy the ingredients to make the stuff yourself, instead of the pre-packaged stuff, then see my previous item.

Also drink, drink, drink, drink - just keep drinking water - drink water until the thought of a cookie makes you want to explode because there's no way you could fit it in!

I agree with the protein talk too, but my suspision is your like me - you arent actually hungry, you just want some cake. Like, at any mooment of any day.

Good luck feel free to add me!

love the cookie idea!
although i think BF would be fairly upset once they started being packaged up...

Some things that help me are: plan your entire day in advance. Log all the meals you intend to eat in MFP and then eat your breakfast as planned and pack your lunch and snacks. Some good low calorie snacks are 100 calorie packs. I love the 100 calorie packs of almonds. They have all flavors. Don't eat it all at once. Space it out so you are eating every 2-3 hours. Don't let yourself get so ravenous that you want to eat ANYTHING right NOW.

If you are a snackasaurus like me (and it sounds like you are), you need to replace that cookie with something else but something just as satisfying for you. You can't replace a cookie with an apple. I know everybody is saying to eat better foods, but when you want a cookie and you deny yourself that cookie, you will become obsessed with that cookie! Find a lower calorie version of what you already like. For me, I'm a candy fiend. Instead of eating chocolate and high calorie candy bars and things like that I will just eat a wonka fun dip or a small box of nerds. It satisfies my sweet tooth but it's only 50 calories. Hope that helps.

I'm similar to you and "fail" a lot, if that's what you want to call it. But I don't want to call it "failure." I lose weight, but slowly, and nothing's wrong with losing weight slowly. Gives me plenty of room to cheat. I'm going to cheat. I want to cheat. I'm happy cheating. So I accept that weight loss is low and plow away at my own rate. Frankly, not too many downsides this way.

If you plan to do it then it is not cheating. You change your eating habit to allow those foods.

I have been making small changes daily, now most of what I eat is made from scratch. First thing I ditched was cereal, I found I wanted to eat 2 or more bowls of cereal, now I have a fruit salad, varies depending on the fruit I have in and pro-biotic yoghurt for breakfast, I find that if I eat heavily processed food now it may taste good, but it really does make me feel quite ill.

I am finding making the changes are easier to deal with than going for a big goal, that way I am not failing, if I fail as you put it, I just get on with it and start again, to me now I no longer fail, I learn what I can eat in moderation and what I can eat without feeling ill.

I am no longer on automatic pilot going to the shop and buying sweets and chocolate anymore :-)