Why your friends don't want you to lose weight...

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  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
    Why does this even matter? Seriously, I don't understand why you NEED other people to approve of your decision to lose weight. What is with this new philosophy that if you don't actively and vocally support people who are doing things you don't care about, you're either jealous or you're a bully? Isn't it okay to just not care?

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  • katematt313
    katematt313 Posts: 624 Member
    Diet sabotage happens, and it is often in the form of a friend or relative wheedling you to eat or drink something you should not, criticizing your food and exercise choices, or suggesting that you are too thin, or are thinning out too fast. It is insidious. In my experience, they do not intend to influence you to stay fat, but they don't like to see you change for some reason. I am guessing it is a comfort thing.

    What I do know is this - my personal experience - I often have difficulty making good choices, sometimes I want to quit exercising before class is over because exercising is uncomfortable, sometimes I want to dive headfirst into a bucket of [Chinese food, extra crispy KFC, a Five Guys bacon burger, cheesecake, chocolate cake, cookies, brownies...insert your poison here].

    There are many days when I want to say "screw it", because being fat is waaaaay easier than being healthy.

    And this is without any external input.

    I don't need another voice telling me to quit, that I am fine the way that I am, or that "just a bite" of [insert your poison here] isn't going to kill me.

    This is what I say: I am 80 pounds overweight, and I am an obese diabetic. Making healthy choices is a life or death situation for me.
  • SapiensPisces
    SapiensPisces Posts: 992 Member
    Tangential: There is ALWAYS a fat/ugly chick in any group of "hot girls". Always. It's symbiotic: the hot girls need the fat one(s) around to make them feel hotter, and the fat girls need the hot girls to get them into better social standing.

    Fact.
    Is that fact coming from the mind of a life long wing man?

    I'm guessing a self-proclaimed alpha male who isn't so alpha after all.

    I generally tend to assume that any man who feels the need to refer to himself as "alpha" isn't.
  • k_nicole87
    k_nicole87 Posts: 407 Member
    Why does it matter? If your friends are being douche bags then there lies the problem with your friendship.
  • LolBroScience
    LolBroScience Posts: 4,537 Member
    someone please read that to me.

    Will read this as your bedtime story later
  • QueenBishOTUniverse
    QueenBishOTUniverse Posts: 14,121 Member
    Tangential: There is ALWAYS a fat/ugly chick in any group of "hot girls". Always. It's symbiotic: the hot girls need the fat one(s) around to make them feel hotter, and the fat girls need the hot girls to get them into better social standing.

    Fact.
    Is that fact coming from the mind of a life long wing man?

    I'm guessing a self-proclaimed alpha male who isn't so alpha after all.

    I generally tend to assume that any man who feels the need to refer to himself as "alpha" isn't.

    I'm seeing far to much mention of "alpha" on the boards this morning.
  • kk_140
    kk_140 Posts: 518 Member
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    i don't have the attention span to read all of... SQUIRREL!

    Yup, I agree, I got about 1.5 paragraphs on and then started looking for gifs.
  • caringiscreepyx
    caringiscreepyx Posts: 34
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    i don't have the attention span to read all of... SQUIRREL!


    my thoughts exactly
  • IPAkiller
    IPAkiller Posts: 711 Member
    OP, I see you have placed a lot of thought into this. However, you have missed one key point... 1 out of 4 people aren't obese. National statistics show its more like 3-4 out of 5 people exhibit some level of obesity. So instead of your illusion that groups of people resemble the Goonies:
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    They are actually more likely to resemble these fellers:
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    So, by your reasoning... wouldn't the average group of friends make a valid attempt to bully someone onto being the "skinny kid"?
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    Scientific research based on a preconceived conclusion and non-statistical observations emits nothing but biased garbage.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I always need a chubby friend so I can have sustenance if we get trapped somewhere.
  • kethry70
    kethry70 Posts: 404 Member
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    i don't have the attention span to read all of... SQUIRREL!
    ditto.
  • BekaBooluvsu
    BekaBooluvsu Posts: 470 Member
    Nice read but I have one thing to say.

    :smile: I want to be healthy and I don't care who doesn't like it. :smile:
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    The people you work with, live with and socialise with can have a huge impact on your weight loss, because they have the power to inform everything from your diet and fitness regime to your self-esteem.

    That's BS. No one has that power unless you choose to give it to them. If you're giving other people the power to "inform" your self esteem, then you've got bigger problems than unsupportive friends.

    I had to learn early on in life that if I didn't find/create my own sense of worth within myself, I would never have any. Friends are nice. Friends that make us feel loved and appreciated are even better, but worth comes from within.

    ETA: When that is found, it's easy to grow a thicker skin, and to take some good-natured ribbing from friends, rather than to see them as "bullies" that you need to stop hanging around with.

    You can only be bullied if you *allow* it. The quickest way to stop "bullying" is to stand up to them. If they are beating you up for your lunch money, tattle to Human Resources.
  • DeadliftAddict
    DeadliftAddict Posts: 746 Member
    Why would anyone give their peers the power to influence their weight loss. Seems a bit childish to me.
  • honsi
    honsi Posts: 210 Member
    OP, I see you have placed a lot of thought into this. However, you have missed one key point... 1 out of 4 people aren't obese. National statistics show its more like 3-4 out of 5 people exhibit some level of obesity. So instead of your illusion that groups of people resemble the Goonies:
    Just to clarify :I didn't write this, It is an article from a newspaper that I thought people may find interesting.....
  • honsi
    honsi Posts: 210 Member
    I always need a chubby friend so I can have sustenance if we get trapped somewhere.
    LOL! Maybe now we are getting to the truth of the matter..
  • The_Aly_Wei
    The_Aly_Wei Posts: 844 Member
    If my friends didn’t have something d-bagish to say then we likely would not be friends very long.

    If you are over the age of six and still worried about "bullies" something is off.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    Who GAF if someone else does or doesn't want me to lose weight? Seriously - it's not their business. I did this for MY health.

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