First day trouble please help

Don't give up! I find that keeping a routine has been helping me. Baby steps... but making sure you truly log everything (don't cheat yourself) and staying true to your promises to yourself works. Counting calories sucks... but I find that it's become a bit of a game for me. Like... how many times can I say "no" and overcome the temptation in a day. Each time is hard... but over time it becomes easier and the pride you have in your decision outweighs the sacrifice!

Logging every single thing is important, I agree with that. What I have done this time around is that I allow myself the treats. I have stocked my freezer with low calorie fudge bars and fruit bars. When I am craving that sort of thing, I indulge, of course they are a part of my daily intake, but it helps that I CAN IF I WANT TO!!! Another thing I have changed is that I eat within the first half hour of getting up in the morning. I never used to do that. It's important to start up that motor so your body can work to the best of its ability. I got married, quit smoking, and entered menopause all in the same year and really put on the weight, but now I am finally able to see some decent results. You can do it, too. Hang in there!

First of all, stop beating yourself up. Look at it this way. You are down almost 70 lbs. Forget what you gained back. It's done. Stay focused on the wt. you did lose cause that will remind you that you CAN do it as you were successful before. Secondly-here is what I find helpful. Plan Plan Plan...Each day I plan exactly what I am going to eat within my allowable calories. I even tally it up on MFP in my data. Somehow writing it down before I start my day. Keeps me honest. And third...keep cut up veggies in your fridge, sugar free jello, and I make a big pot of vegetable soup and just heat it up by the cupful whenever I feel tempted to eat . I hope this helps. I hear your frustration but you can do it. The three children will make it difficult because of the time issue. But make time for yourself. You can do it.:flowerforyou:

Remember that you have done the hardest part already, making the decision to change and losing all that you have. Also you are amazing and deserve to do this for yourself not just for your children. When I feel the urge to eat loads of crap I stop myself and acknowledge that neither 1 piece nor 100 pieces will ever be enough so there's just no point in even starting. I also chew gum if I feel like eating because I'm bored or emotional. Good luck you can do it!

I feel your pain! I WAS a size 3 & ran 8 miles a day until two years ago. Not anymore. Through life not going exactly as planned I stopped running & working out & have gained a lot of weight. Emotional eating is to blame for most of it. Lack of moving is the rest! Being well aware that my size 3 went 5 then went to 7, etc... I have started over on numerous Monday mornings only to give up by Wednesday. This time I began with a schedule, of sorts. I included three meals & three snacks daily as well as four mini sessions & one hard workout daily. I use the schedule to grocery shop & buy nothing more than what I need to prepare those meals. I too have three kids & they are eating what I am eating (this helps form better habits for them later on) Each day after my hard workout (currently it is Insanity) I text a post workout picture to 7 people as a form of accountability.

If I feel like I am stressed or whatever & am thinking about eating something unhealthy I look up the nutritional information & that gives me enough time to regroup & refocus.

Don't focus on the negative. Focus on each day, each week. Incorporate your kids in daily workouts like walking. Also, let them help pick out the healthy foods in the store & be excited about trying new foods. They feed off your emotions. They are learning that it is ok to fall & get back up to be better than you were before!

Now this is just my experience. The lady who suggested protein and exercise, I'm sure is right. I have a knee injury so I had to do Donovan Green's No Excuse chair exercises (which I LOVE). He's so very cute too! (I'm 61 so no I'm not stalking him).
Also, i found that Carcinia Cambogia really helped curb my appetite.
I take three a day. I use the kind they recommend on Dr. Oz and get them at GNC. If you become a member of GNC then they have special deals from time to time that you buy one and you get one half price..plus you get GNC's discount.
The carcinia cambogia helps you feel content...it's not one of those "makes you feel full" things. It has something to do with endomorphins.
I also had to quit my job (lifestyle change) because I worked retail and had acquired many bad habits: eating out and eating after 9 p.m/
I stopped eating after 7...biggy for me.
I have lost enough pounds that my clothes fit me better...big plus.
I raised three children and was terribly underweight from depression for many years. I am now back down to 141 after ballooning up to 159.
Be patient with yourself and DON'T STOP DOING BASIC THINGS YOU KNOW WORK.,<SMILE> have confidence! You seem to be doing fine to me if you 've actually lost that much weight. Add things. Don't take away. You will only be depressed. : (. I lost the weight I lost after losing my husband 2 years ago! You'll be down soon, but be proud NOW!

I know you're right but she has three kids. I used to have kids climbing on me and under me while I exercised. I was thinking..."REALLY, KIDS""" DON'T YOU KNOW MOM NEEDS TO STAY HEALTHY SO SHE CAN KEEP UP WITH YOUR MISCHIEF??" LOL!:noway: :noway:

This is a link to my coach's facebook page. I have tried and failed so many times and this time, with her help I have been sticking with it. I started my new journey April 1st and I had a few ups and downs with my weight at first, but in the last 2 weeks I have been consistently at a plateau or losing, so I am happy about no more ups. Now I just have to keep working to be consistently going down.

She is a Beachbody coach, but the thing about her I love the most is how understanding and supportive she is. Her story is inspiring to me.

https://www.facebook.com/lynda.suttles?fref=ts

That'll fix it. :huh:

Best advice I received? Log your food, even on your "bad" days. If you eat a handful of chips as your running out the door-log it! I also have gained what I had previously lost after keeping it off for 3 years. I have MFP ad on my phone which makes it easier especially if you're on the go with the kids.

youre welcome to add me for support

Thanks everybody definitely have emotional eating problems, and theres a lot of junk food in the house and I always have an all or nothing attitude, perfectionism at its worst. I'm also extremely depressed from the weight gain and having to lose it AGAIN for the thousandth time, and still not getting to my goal even though I should have been there years ago. So hope I can figure this out, I'm so tired and my kids deserve a better mom thats not always eating. I'm still breastfeeding my 10 month old and I swear that makes me hungry but thats just another excuse.

Work on this. Seriously. This is the key. This is what will prevent you from succeeding. I'd argue its even more important than the emotional eating. Emotional eating can be managed and will reduce as you find better coping mechanisms, but the all or nothing thinking is really what's sabotaging you.

You don't have to be perfect to lose weight and keep it off. You don't have to eat the perfect diet, or be the perfect dieter. You just have to take in less energy than you are burning - consistently over time. So, you don't even have to achieve that every day, just enough days that over time you have a calorie deficit and are burning more fat than you are storing. You can succeeds even if you eat all your favourite foods, even if they're the opposite of what people think you "should" eat on a diet, even if it's cheese, and butter, and white bread, and chocolate chip cookies. You can succeed if even if you have the odd bad day and inhale a whole tub of ice cream. (No, I'm not advocating that as the healthiest way of dealing with your emotions, but you can still succeed at this if it happens occasionally.) You can succeed if you have a day where you exceed your calorie goal, or even your TDEE (total daily energy expenditure). You can even succeed if you exceed you calorie needs for a week over Christmas or Thanksgiving.

You will see people on these boards talk about a "lifestyle change" rather than dieting. A lot of times, people don't really get it and have just replaced the terminology. The point of a lifestyle change though is that it's permanent, or at least long term. It's not just to get the weight off, it's creating a new way of living/eating that supports you being a healthy weight. Permanently.

It doesn't mean never making mistakes or eating in a way that you didn't plan to, or going off track a little every now and then. It means that you don't give up trying. You don't give up forging new habits. You don't give up on the idea of exercise because it gets boring or starts getting in the way of other things - you make a commitment and find ways of making it a habit. You don't give up on your calorie deficit because you thought you should do it one way (all grilled chicken and steamed broccoli) and found it too hard to sustain. You go back and figure out a way that you can sustain.

Start simply. Eat the foods you're already eating. Measure it accurately, log it, hit your calorie goal. Make small, gradual changes to tweak your diet so that it's easier to meet your goal. Look at your diary, you may see things that are taking up a lot of calories but not providing many nutrients and/or not providing much pleasure. Switch them for alternatives. Keep the things you really love. Make changes slowly, over time, allow each change to become a habit.

And by the way - of course breastfeeding will make you hungry. Don't you think your child is getting energy from somewhere when you do that? That's from you - from your body! Of course you're going to notice that.

Bottom line - people think that they are "all or nothing" thinkers, and that they'll never change; it's an integral part of their personality. Like so many other things, perfectionism is a habit. You can absolutely change that, and you'll probably be not only more successful at your goals, but a lot more relaxed and happy if you work on changing that.

I suggest that you take the time, after your children have gone to bed, to plan your menu choices for the following day. It's the only way that I personally can be successful. If you work outside of the home, then I suggest that you leave your money/debit card/credit card at home, so that you are not tempted to purchase things that aren't on your menu plan for the day. Again, from my own experience, I only sabotage my success by purchasing food items which are both unhealthy and expensive.
Keep telling yourself each and every day that you are a good person and that you have what it takes to reach your goal. You have done such a terrific job. Keep it up. It's only a matter of time.
Good luck.
Best wishes
Wenrondy

I used to be an all or nothing person. If I couldn't do everything perfectly...well why bother??

Baby steps. Make attainable goals. My first goal was to walk 10 minutes each day and I added 5 minutes per week until I was at 30 minutes a day. Then I began to make changes to my diet...adding more protein, then more veggies/fruits, etc. I'm not perfect and I make some bad choices, but I keep on trying and frankly when I make mistakes now it's not nearly as bad as it was a year ago!