130 lbs.... unrealistic???

Listen to your doctor, not your friend.

Put the time and work into getting the body you want and deserve.

Do what is best for you.

I'm 5'4" and I weigh 127lbs and people always tell me I look too thin - which I don't...I have a small frame so yes, I'm thin but I'm not skinny. I do think 130 for your hight might be borderline skinny.

Like everyone else said I think you should just continue your journey and re-evaluate as you go along. Maybe 130 is not what you really want anyways.

130 lbs of muscle vs. 130 lbs of deprivation vs 130 lbs of fat = all different looks.

Agreed. And you know what is healthy for you.

I'm 5ft 8 and at 140 I looked too skinny and people kept asking me if I was ill and I was freezing all the time. 154 looked awesome on me, I was slim, athletic with a few curves, really great for me. I have long arms and legs and broad shoulders.

20 years on. Will be glad to get to 170 from where I am at 181 and maybe eventually 160 but intentionally REALLY SLOWLY.

After years of yoyo diets I can now call myself a Permaloser having lost 50lbs and kept it off for a year so far. I'll never go back to my old bad habits.

I also go by body fat percentage. I am 27% right now. Never want to go below 22% as I'll look too skinny and being over forty I'll look more wrinkly!! Lol

haven't read any of the other responses, but to reply to the OP's question I am roughly 5'7" and just under 130. For my frame size I look fine (confirmed by highly biased fiance), but I don't want to go too much lighter (just my opinion about what weight looks good for me)

Going by weight alone is pretty pointless. There is a reason there is a healthy weight range. Different people look different at the same weight. I am 5'5 and 130 would be really skinny for me. At my leanest I was 140lbs and very tiny in the waist and lower bodyfat. There are women my size and taller than me who look really good at 130.
I do have a goal weight range because I know from past experience what I look like at that size, but I am also not totally hung up on the number either.

I wouldn't get hung up on a number. I also wouldn't assume she is saying that because she doesn't want you to be skinnier than her. She may just not realize how different we can carry weight and is basing your goal weight on her percieved notion of what 130 looks like. 130 is on the lower end of the range for 5'7 so it's not like she is totally out to left field.

Thank you everyone for your great insights . I will take losing weight day to day, but just talking to her and how she came out with all that stuff just kind of floored me. I dunno, she is the competitive type too, that's why I work out at the gym without her now...lol...

I will definitely listen to my body and let it tell me when the right weight has come upon me. Thanks again everyone!!

I know people in real life who are competitive about weight loss. One I know rubs it in my face that she's only a few pounds heavier than I am but has been at it longer. However, I'm four inches taller with a totally different body shape, so we shouldn't be comparing (not that we should even if we were similar). I was like, "Oh, ok," like I didn't care (because I don't), and I could tell it got under her skin that I didn't get all defensive/competitive with her.

One thing I've learned in my own weight loss and search for fitness is that life is so much better when you focus on fitness, not just because the exercise does awesome things for your body and mind but also because the people I work out with are super supportive of each other. It's not about outdoing anyone but about doing the best YOU can and improving yourself. They are all also very positive people - and it's just so much nicer being around them than competitive, negative people who feel the need to build themselves up at your expense.

You're clearly in the right mindset

I am 5'6" and I've been as low as 123 over the past 10 years. Once I get to around 145 people start asking me how much more I want to lose. Once I get to 132 I start looking a little too thin in my face. I think it is because I have high cheekbones so my face ends up looking a lot thinner than the rest of me.

You just do what you feel is the most healthy for your body. Don't listen to people that are only trying to rain on your parade. It's her problem, not yours.

I would listen to your doctor. I am 5'7", am currently 132 and definitely not "too skinny." My workouts are almost entirely strength-training and I eat around 1700 calories a day, so certainly not starving myself or killing it with cardio.

Same!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Currently 129 and body fat measures 20.4%.

Calories between 1700-2000/day
Workout 4x/week for 70 minutes; very little cardio, mostly weights

I maintained at 123 and I'm 5'7. It's not unrealistic. Now I'm 130 so... whatever!

I think it's really dangerous to get too hung up on numbers. I'm also 5'7, and my ultimate goal weight, my absolute sweet spot, is 160. Any thinner and I can't maintain. It feels unnatural for me to go below that, so I won't. But yeah, that's my body, not yours, and ultimately your only concern should be health and happiness. Can you comfortably maintain 130? Is it the weight you're strongest and healthiest at? If so, go for it. If you're just hung up on that number because of your doc or the BMI scale, play around and find your own sweet spot.

I am 5'9 and my goal is 140. I think you should listen to your doctor over your friend.

I'm 5'7" and 134 pounds currently in a size small and a 4/5 right now. I am currently getting those comments too, although my end goal is 130 pounds. I'm not too skinny, in fact I have a bit of that skinny fat thing going on which is why I just started lifting. I do agree with the other posters that said you do what you feel is right, you have the backing of a doctor and your goals won't put you under weight so go for it!