Fat people are discriminated against..
ScottH_200
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I'm convinced this is so. I've lost 75 lbs in the past 6 mos with another 60 lbs to goal.
I have noticed a marked difference in the way my peers relate to me now and even how other people I don't know relate to me.
It's sad, but unfortunately true.
I have noticed a marked difference in the way my peers relate to me now and even how other people I don't know relate to me.
It's sad, but unfortunately true.
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Also, grass is green, sky is blue.
Haters will hate. Don't let them discriminate.0 -
Vague post is vague.0
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I agree! when I was 100 lbs thinner I was treated significantly differently than I am now. I am somehow less approachable than I was and it's very irritating and frustrating. Congrats on the loss!0
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meh, fit people get discriminated against, too. Rise above, do you and be happy for that fact.0
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Sometimes it's as though people think fatness is contagious XD0
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Maybe you are just more confident and they react differently.:drinker:0
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ive noticed people treating me differently, but honestly, i think its because i am more confident, smile more, am more engaged/engaging, not necessarily because ive lost a ****load of weight.0
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OR it has more to do with the fact that you were miserable and fat.
At least, that's how it was with me. People thought I was an awful person because I was always in an awful mood. People actually talk to me now that I'm more approachable.
But what would I know?0 -
everybody is discriminated against for one stupid reason or another. You could chose to be bitter, stoop to their level, use it as fuel, or pretend they are speaking in Vulcan and you don't understand.
The point is.
Realize you are better than that, and move on.0 -
ive noticed people treating me differently, but honestly, i think its because i am more confident, smile more, am more engaged/engaging, not necessarily because ive lost a ****load of weight.
This is probably it, actually. My self-esteem and confidence nose-dived with the weight gain. Thinking that people think I'm disgusting really makes me introverted. It's probably my issue not theirs.0 -
Porkins here checking in, im not fat im husky and I still managed to fly an x-wing to help defeat the galatic empire0
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It doesn't matter who you are, what shape, size, height, color skin, eye freakin color...people are just like that...
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I think those responding that perhaps my attitude and confidence level has changed are probably onto something.
By the way, I didn't post this thread to whine... ;-)0 -
DO you act exactly the same?I'm convinced this is so. I've lost 75 lbs in the past 6 mos with another 60 lbs to goal.
I have noticed a marked difference in the way my peers relate to me now and even how other people I don't know relate to me.
It's sad, but unfortunately true.
ETA: i see you answered...maybe you do attract people more with confidence and feeling better about yourself.0 -
Sometimes it's as though people think fatness is contagious XD
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Yes.
I think its two fold however. Some people do treat fat people differently. But I think many over weight people act differently. I know I did. I didn't want to be seen, so I walked with my head down, didn't interact with people I didn't know, didn't make eye contact, didn't smile. Now I have more confidence, I'm proud, I'm happy and I'm more approachable due to that.0 -
society is highly fat phobic you are correct OP0
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in other breaking news...
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People have the ability to have haters on either side (fat shaming and fit shaming). Also, it seems like a person's confidence level can dictate how others act towards them.0
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Then again, I remember getting a queasy feeling in my stomach every time I saw Twiggy in a photo or on television.0
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I don't think it's all down to confidence. I remember when I was younger, I was sitting in a college class, waiting for everyone else. It was just me and another (overweight) student. Another student walks in, I said "hi" and smiled and he responded with, "Ugh, I'm surrounded by fat people. Sorry, girl, but you are." Or I'd walk through the supermarket, acting just like everyone else, focused on my shopping, and someone would follow me around oinking and saying, "Soooooey, here pig!" Or when my husband and I were walking home from a pub, guy drives by and yells to my husband that he shouldn't take me home because I'm fat. That type of thing happened all. the. time. It had nothing to do with my confidence, it was purely because the people who did those things were a**holes.
Funnily enough, nothing like that happens to me now.0 -
When I got pregnant, I was sorely tempted to write a book titled "Fat people don't get pregnant" and each chapter was going to be me talking about a different thing that fat people apparently don't do (judging by the lack of suitable attire/facilities for larger people). As a fat pregnant woman, I couldn't find maternity clothes, so I had to buy bigger clothes. It took forever to find nursing bras (and the ones I found the first time around didn't actually fit, but they were better than nothing. Never did find nursing shirts though.
I am still morbidly obese, but I'm a heck of a lot closer to just obese than I was September 30th of last year, when I began changing my life. I have some time to go before I get things where I want them to be, but I look forward to, one day, being able to do the things I have not been able to do because of my size. (Amusement park rides this October, here I come.)
Awesome job in your progress.0 -
I don't think you're whining. I think your happily stating the truth about your experience. Good for you for the weightloss! And yeah maybe it is that your confidence is better. But I actually worked as a server at a restaurant when I was younger, and there was one particular couple who would come in (and stated) That they didn't want the fat cook cooking their meals "He was a slob"I think those responding that perhaps my attitude and confidence level has changed are probably onto something.
By the way, I didn't post this thread to whine... ;-)0 -
My weight gain and loss of 80 lbs +/- over the years never affected me in anyway with friends and co-workers. I have to admit I got luckier when I was heavier, what’s up with that? lol0
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The worst places I've seen when it comes to this are sporting goods stores. They must be convinced that it's the money in big people's wallets that makes them big because their salespeople seem to hide from any chance to get any of it.0
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Absolutely! I've found that when you're overweight+, you are practically invisible. You don't matter. Very disheartening! Luckily, there is something we can do about it - diet.0
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I think you're right. I also think, for me personally, I used my fat as a barrier between myself and the world. A friend pointed out recently that I'm more approachable now, nicer and less sharp.
I've also found that many important people in my personal and professional life treat me exactly the same as I lose weight- which says a lot about what kind of people they are
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Right on! ...And good for you!I don't think it's all down to confidence. I remember when I was younger, I was sitting in a college class, waiting for everyone else. It was just me and another (overweight) student. Another student walks in, I said "hi" and smiled and he responded with, "Ugh, I'm surrounded by fat people. Sorry, girl, but you are." Or I'd walk through the supermarket, acting just like everyone else, focused on my shopping, and someone would follow me around oinking and saying, "Soooooey, here pig!" Or when my husband and I were walking home from a pub, guy drives by and yells to my husband that he shouldn't take me home because I'm fat. That type of thing happened all. the. time. It had nothing to do with my confidence, it was purely because the people who did those things were a**holes.
Funnily enough, nothing like that happens to me now.0 -
I once told my psychiatrist that I thought people were talking about me being fat behind my back and that everytime I heard them laugh and whisper was about me.
He said: Don't think that your life is more important than theirs and that the world revolves around you. If people laugh and whisper is their business, don't make it about you.
Harsh but true, what do I care? Are they signing my paychecks? No, so I shouldn't bother. Am I doing my best to lose it? Yes, so it's on me.
You will be miserable fat or thin if you choose to want to keep feeling miserable.0
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