I weigh more than i look

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  • laurenwantstogetinshape
    laurenwantstogetinshape Posts: 12
    Yea you guys are all helping a lot thank you for giving me your input. i agree with my mom is projecting her feelings onto me and i just need to realize that
  • aledba
    aledba Posts: 564 Member
    It's hard to hear those things sometimes. Especially from someone we are supposed to feel loved and supported by. I hope you can find the support you need. I feel for your mom too and I hope one day, she can have a more positive mindset. Just remember to put yourself first (modestly of course) and try to do things to make yourself happy. :)
  • beckyjeanleemaddox
    beckyjeanleemaddox Posts: 154 Member
    My mom says i should still loose like 10. but i think i look thin now? i mean i weigh like 138 so it seems like a lot but idont think i look like that.

    Don't worry to much about the number, as I'm the same, I look heaps smaller then what my weight says. I don't understand why your mom feels you need 10lbs less. That wouldn't even come to my mind looking at your pics.
    I just want to say. Wow you've lost 375 lbs. How long did it take and you inspire me. I have 59 to go.
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    and i have been to a therapist. but i just find it hard to believe anyone because i think everyone is lying to me, so theres a underlying reason to that.

    that's what you should talk to your therapist about, not your weight.

    ^^This.

    From the photos I see, you look amazing and don't need to lose a pound, IMO.

    Also, here's some advice - throw out your scale and tell your mom you weigh 125. Problem solved.
  • Ilikelamps
    Ilikelamps Posts: 482 Member
    What's your kik?


    Feel any better at all now...?
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Yea you guys are all helping a lot thank you for giving me your input. i agree with my mom is projecting her feelings onto me and i just need to realize that

    May I inquire as to why a 35 year old woman is so wrapped up in getting approval from her mom in regards to her physical appearance?
  • Allen_Mohs
    Allen_Mohs Posts: 3
    I think you look great and also fit.
  • laurenwantstogetinshape
    laurenwantstogetinshape Posts: 12
    Im not 35 i have no clue why it says that I'm 18 lol... i don't have a kik :(
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    18 years old. NOW it all makes more sense

    1. stop listening to your mom about fitness/weight issues
    2. change your name to "laurenisalreadyinshape
    3. learn to use the quote button
    4. stay away from kik
  • Oi_Sunshine
    Oi_Sunshine Posts: 819 Member
    The best thing you can do for yourself is have a sit down chat with your mother that sounds something like:

    "From now on, our conversations will be about all things under the sun except my weight. I feel pressured to be something I don't think I need to be, and since this pressure is coming from someone I love, I feel like I need to reach a certain weight in order to be loved. I am sure that is not your intent, but it feels like it sometimes."
  • laurenwantstogetinshape
    laurenwantstogetinshape Posts: 12
    The best thing you can do for yourself is have a sit down chat with your mother that sounds something like:

    "From now on, our conversations will be about all things under the sun except my weight. I feel pressured to be something I don't think I need to be, and since this pressure is coming from someone I love, I feel like I need to reach a certain weight in order to be loved. I am sure that is not your intent, but it feels like it sometimes."


    Yea thats true, I will.. thank you :)
  • laurenwantstogetinshape
    laurenwantstogetinshape Posts: 12
    18 years old. NOW it all makes more sense

    1. stop listening to your mom about fitness/weight issues
    2. change your name to "laurenisalreadyinshape
    3. learn to use the quote button
    4. stay away from kik

    Haha yes! i know i shouldn't listen to her.
  • kmm0034
    kmm0034 Posts: 46 Member
    Okay, first off, You are a sexy lady, and don't you let anyone tell you otherwise. Skeletons aren't hot. If you think you need to lose weight, PLEASE speak to your doctor before determining how much. If s/he says none, and you still have issues, you don't want to lose weight, you want to change shape. This is accomplished by lifting weight, and as female, unless you are blessed with such an overabundance of testosterone you are super manly, which judging by your headless form, you are not, then you will not look freaky bulky like the hulk. You'll look more like Buffy the vampire slayer or Xena warrior princess. I'd have something more current, however I stopped watching TV with any sort of regularity when I was 13, and the majority of my own body issues left with it.

    I firmly suggest a pop culture diet. No fashion magazines, no teen anything, and please no reality television, Next Big Thing competitions or modelling shows. And certainly don't read or watch any shows about celebrities. Given time and the rediscovery of how kick *kitten* your body is, you'll feel significantly better about yourself. Don't believe me? Just think of all the things you can do. I've just recently gotten off the 'we don't know if you're permanently disabled list.' The biggest happiest moment for me? Opening the door to my building and doing so without having to jerk it and shuffle quickly though before it closed, and then getting stuck, because I was walking with a cane at 23, and the cane foot would get stuck in doors on a daily basis.

    Darling, you are gorgeous. You are able to enjoy your life. Do NOT listen to ANYONE but your doctor about how much you should weigh. IF they try, ask to see their medical certifications concerning the issue. If they have none, they need to shut their mouth.
  • KarmaLaine
    KarmaLaine Posts: 37 Member
    I think you look great! I'm 5'6" and 145lbs is my goal weight. I know it sounds high, but you look slim and toned, so does the number really matter?
  • mrhonesty
    mrhonesty Posts: 274 Member
    hi guys :) I have lost a little weight before i found this website.. don't know how to add pictures so i just made it my profile lol.. I want to try to loose like 10lbs but idk if that will look gross with what I'm at. and i weigh 140 right now. which i don't think corresponds with how i look, i know its go by how you feel but i have the WORST body image and i have no clue if i look good because i ALWAYS think i look bad...

    You look great, keep doing what you are doing!
  • fillvv
    fillvv Posts: 6 Member
    This sounds like an issue that your mom has. If you have been listening to a person tell you that you are not good enough, not skinny enough etcetera... you will never feel like you are. Your mom is an important person in your life and she will shape the negative talk that you have in your head and that is a fact. You have to find a way to be HAPPY with yourself and change the negative chatter in your head. The fact of the matter that at 5'5" and weighing 138 you fall into a normal BMI range. Your BMI is 23. That is great. Don't let someone not even your mom make you feel bad about yourself. I myself as a mother of a 16 year old would never make my children feel insecure about themselves. Shame on your mom her jobs is to build you up and send you out into this world confident and secure.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    Stop investing so much into what your mother thinks about a number on the scale.
    It you think it will help, just tell her you weigh 125 and that would end the whole conversation, wouldn't it???
    You look fine. You look like your in shape and I don't think you need to lose any weight.

    Personally, I think you should continue to seek professional help. There's clearly more issues here then just a number on the scale.
  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    I'm sorry that you're dealing with that. I'm your age, and I've also struggled with body issues. Right now I know I'm a little chubby (I'm heavier and shorter than you), but I'm generally happy with myself. Try looking in the mirror, and find at least one feature that you like about yourself. Look at that, and admire yourself, because you are beautiful!

    I think your body looks perfect. Not too thick, and not to thin. I agree that this is your mom's problem. It's not her business what you weigh, her job is to support you and encourage you no matter what.

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