Evening over eating help

Thanks for all your posts! It's nice to know I'm not alone at this.
In response to all your observations let me say, my evening salad is about 6 oz and consists of iceburg lettuce, a little mixed bell pepper, a few diced ham bits, some black olive slices, and a couple of cherry tomatos. It's about the size of a dinner salad in a restaurant...maybe a little smaller. Then I spritz it with the ranch spray on dressing. I like that stuff! It suprised me that I liked it. Which brings me to the fact that I am a very picky eater so that gets in the way of nutrition etc. as well. I don't like the taste of yogurt but I can tolerate the frozen yogurt cause it tasts like ice cream and I was lucky enough to find one that tasts good and is relatively low in calories. I was trying to get those little bugs that live in yogurt but I finally found them in pill form, so I doubt I'll buy any more of it since it's such a temptation. I don't like any kind of nuts at all, don't like carrots, broccoli, brussel sprouts, chicken, fish, stuff like that. I'd rather go hungry than have to gag that stuff down. I know it sounds crazy but they have figured out that some of us have an abundance of taste buds to detect different tastes in foods. Our tastebuds are out of balance. If you have too many sweet tastebuds (or sweet receptors) then things that are sweet are going to tast too sweet to you compared to how they taste to the normal person. There is a science to it. So anywa, I try to find things that I like, or at least can tolerate, that are going to fill the needs nutritionally and limit calorie wise.
Five years ago I weighed 100 lbs. at 5' 4" tall. I was underweight to the point that a Dr told me to gain weight or go on dialysis. I started working on gaining weight. Seems logical. Yea right! Soon after, I hit menopause and now I have the opposite problem! Now it's so much harder to control my weight! Right now, I am up to 125 lbs but I carry it all around my waist which is dangerous. I have this spare tire that hangs over my jeans and is so uncomfortable. I keep working on loosing, but I'm slowly gaining. It is so frustrating! I'm on the elliptical going anaerobic, I'm lifting weights, (not large heavy amounts of weight mind you but still) I'm walking, often carring weights and lifting them over my head as I walk, kind of like a cheerleader in a parade thing. I can actually do 2 sets of 10 push ups now! I'm so excited! But still gaining weight and still have a spare tire hangin out there. So that's why I'm here. That and the fact that both my mother and my sister are extremely over weight. They gave up the fight and just quit trying at all. I can't see allowing myself to do that. So thanks for all your help and advice. Look forward to hearing back from you.

Thank you very much, I really appreciate your suggestions.
My disability is a mixture of autoimmune diseases and when they decide to act up, it makes me exhausted, literally lithargic. I go to sleep for days on end sometimes. It also makes my muscles painful and they atrophy very quickly. My joints get into the act as well, then it usually settles in my left leg/knee. This has put me in a wheel chair twice and I still have crutches I use, but just occasionally. The whole left side of my body is signficantly weaker than my right so I try to work it extra to even things out. This is the reason I am so scared of gaining too much weight like my Sis and Mom. My Mom probably weighs 225lbs. If I get that big, I'll be back in the wheel chair cause the legs won't carry the weight.
It has taken me a long time because things go two steps forward and one step backward in my exercise endurance, but I can now do 20 minutes on the elliptical at a difficulty level less than 6. Doing this causes me to go anaerobic (my bp goes up into the 160's) which is above the aerobic zone. Now I'm playing with it a little by changing the timing of my medicine. My blood pressure causes migrane headaches because the Dr says the top number and the bottom number are too far apart on the reading. So I take bp medicine. If I take the bp medicine before working out, I can keep the heart rate in the lower zones. Just yesterday I did two sets of 10 push ups. I'm so proud of myself! But when I have my next flare up I will loose ground again.
OH and we have been eating our evening salad at about 5 or 5:30 so I think I'll try putting that back a bit, plus I think I'll try a evening trip to the gym or go out for a walk before it gets too cold. Oh I'm in Tucson for the winter in our motor home, we just can't take the cold in Colorado in the winter, it hurts too much. So if I eat later and I go for a walk or something in the evening, then I have something to do other than sit on the couch and eat chocolate! I also thought about trying to keep my blood sugar on a more even keel by dividing my food intake so I am eating every 2-3 hours. Still eating the same number of calories, just spreading them out more. It's an idea.
thanks for your input and advice
Jackie