Dressing to hide obesity

Well, I feel like a whale and I dress appropriately. I wear only sweats and T-shirts, I buy the biggest I can find, currently 4x T-shirts, which I don't need size wise, but if i feel the clothes on me, they bug me, so I buy bigger than I need. I don't own anything nice, but i work from home and really never go out.

I have a few pairs of mom jeans in the drawer, with elastic waists, that I bought probably 2 years ago, and have never worn.

Well, I feel like a whale and I dress appropriately. I wear only sweats and T-shirts, I buy the biggest I can find, currently 4x T-shirts, which I don't need size wise, but if i feel the clothes on me, they bug me, so I buy bigger than I need. I don't own anything nice, but i work from home and really never go out.

I have a few pairs of mom jeans in the drawer, with elastic waists, that I bought probably 2 years ago, and have never worn.

that makes me sad hugs from me to you....

and i think i'll start wearing sweats and big tshirts too....fml

I will gladly take the hugs, I love hugs, but don't be sad. I am one of those people who really enjoy being home. It is a choice I make. Give me my house, no sun, and sweating outside, any day of the week. I love it. I am a hermit. What does FML mean?

For larger women, the area right under the breasts tend to be their skinniest area. Additionally, their breasts tend to be on the larger side.

So, maximize that by wearing dresses/shirts that flow from after the breast on down, instead of the traditional dress that flows from the waist on down.

Avoid neon colors like the plague. Go for designs that break areas up instead of fully solid colors.

If you can wear heels or shoes that raise you a little bit, it will add a slimming effect.

GOLDEN RULE:
DO NOT wear any clothes that are even slightly too small.
While it is mentally nice to be able to "fit" into a size smaller, it does not mean it looks good. An example could be pants, where you could technically fit in a size smaller but gives muffin top or what not, this actually makes people look larger than if they wore a larger pant size!

A lot of it really depends on the style of clothing you like to wear and the shape of your body.

TL;DR:
No neon. Ever.
Accent what you got, minimize what you don't.
NEVER wear a size too small.
Heels rock (not street side worker girl heels though...)
Solids should be avoided unless there's a design involved.

Shop with a friend. Ask honest opinions. Some of the prettiest girls I know are overweight/obese. They just wear stuff that fits properly in the right areas, work their make up well, and have confidence.

Buy clothes that fit and never mind the size, remember not to compare others external best to your overcritical internal, and force yourself to be confident (I do a power pose for a few minutes before reminding my self that I can only be my best today; the past and future have gone and will come, respectively). Kinda cheezy, and I know a little pep talk to counteract negative self-talk can seem patronizing, especially when you are not feeling your best, but can do wonders...even if it just gets you out the door. Some days, its the only way I can.

Here is a pic of what I am mainly wearing these days...do you think they are okay for a fat person like myself? It does have patterns as 1 poster suggested....

I think whatever you feel comfortable in is okay. If you exude confidence, you're beautiful and sexy, IMO. No matter what size you are or what you're wearing.

Something i figured out long ago is that there's no hiding. So to hell with that, i am who i am, and i'm done apologizing for that. Lots of fat women look fantastic it's all about attitude and style. Sweats do not have any style sad to say.

Wear what makes you happy, not what "fits". Buying a size or two up is just as bad as buying too small!! I know everyone says dark colors are slimming (and personally i'd wear all black all the time just because i love black) but a punch of color really adds to an outfit. I work in an office so i'm mostly dressed business casual, dress pants, nice tops etc. I love a slight v neck (just gotta be careful of flashing too much boob when you have extra to spare!) I think i'm going to bump up my wardrobe with more skirts and dresses for the summer. Easy enough to throw on a dress and grab a cardigan on my way out the door each morning. There are loads of "comfort waist" pants out there now that look good but have a bit of stretch in the middle. Accessorize with nice shoes, costume jewelry etc.

I will admit i dress for comfort. But you can look nice and put together without resorting to sweats and tees all the time. I'm no fashion goddess, but i make a point to look good and put in a bit of effort. It doesn't disguise my weight, but the truth is you can't make 260 lbs look like 125 no matter what you do.

Google 'fatshion'--you can find lots of good ideas. Just because you're fat doesn't mean you can't look great or be fashionable. I'm not fat, and I still follow lots of fat fashion bloggers, because they dress amazingly well, and look awesome.

Please read this from one of my favorite plus size fashion blogger: http://www.killerkurves.ca/2013/07/the-rules-of-fashion-what-plus-size-women-should-not-wear/

And wear whatever you like on you and makes you feel pretty and confident.

That's what I do.

This morning, I'm wearing whitish-metallic skinny jeans (color name was metallic ice or something like that) with a sleeveless black tunic and cute sandals. Tomorrow, who knows, probably a dotted vintage dress with a colorful cardigan an a fancy hairdo.

Be proud of yourself and love the skin you live in, everything else will fall in right place.

Even though I have lsot 62 lbs Im still obese and you know what?
I wear whatever I want
I always did
if I want to wear bright yellow I wear it
want to know why?
my size does not change who I am
I have always been a confident person
I am cute even when I was fatter
I was still cute
just be you and go out and do stuff
find your joy
being healthy is the main reason I came here to lose weight it had nothing to do with not being happy with how I looked
I like my body now too and I will like it when it gets smaller

GOLDEN RULE:
DO NOT wear any clothes that are even slightly too small.
While it is mentally nice to be able to "fit" into a size smaller, it does not mean it looks good. An example could be pants, where you could technically fit in a size smaller but gives muffin top or what not, this actually makes people look larger than if they wore a larger pant size!

This is a good rule for everyone, whether you're obese or at your optimum weight.

Structured, tailored styles help. A heavy person will look more shapely in a well cut suit than in sweats.

For larger women, the area right under the breasts tend to be their skinniest area. Additionally, their breasts tend to be on the larger side.

So, maximize that by wearing dresses/shirts that flow from after the breast on down, instead of the traditional dress that flows from the waist on down.

Avoid neon colors like the plague. Go for designs that break areas up instead of fully solid colors.

If you can wear heels or shoes that raise you a little bit, it will add a slimming effect.

GOLDEN RULE:
DO NOT wear any clothes that are even slightly too small.
While it is mentally nice to be able to "fit" into a size smaller, it does not mean it looks good. An example could be pants, where you could technically fit in a size smaller but gives muffin top or what not, this actually makes people look larger than if they wore a larger pant size!

A lot of it really depends on the style of clothing you like to wear and the shape of your body.

TL;DR:
No neon. Ever.
Accent what you got, minimize what you don't.
NEVER wear a size too small.
Heels rock (not street side worker girl heels though...)
Solids should be avoided unless there's a design involved.

Shop with a friend. Ask honest opinions. Some of the prettiest girls I know are overweight/obese. They just wear stuff that fits properly in the right areas, work their make up well, and have confidence.

OMGosh YES. Everything she said. Maurices Jeans are awesome. Also, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE buy a cheap bra. Go to Cacique or Victorias Secret and get fitted. Try on several styles. Pull those boobies up. Not cup overflowing up but just where they are supposed to be. Go get your hair done at a NICE salon. Then go to the store and get brand new makeup. On your way home stop and get a manicure and pedicure.

Enjoy where you are at on the way to where you are going ladies. Lifes to long to be miserable and too short to not have fun!

After I buy work clothes, I take them to get altered to look more professional on me. For example, depending on the shirt for example, I might change the sleeve from too long to ¾, take in the sides, . . .
I usually have some ideas before I get there, but I trust the ladies to do what will work. They do not change me much.

Two stories: first, there is a woman in the town nearest me who always looks good and always looks like she's losing weight. She is not heavy but there is something about her that makes you think she has just lost a few pounds (all the time). Finally I realized what it is. She wears clothing that is just a tiny, tiny bit too big. I do not mean a saggy butt in jeans or too large shoulders on her tops, but instead she wears nothing that is skin tight.

Second story. The last time I was at my doctor's office for a quick update she asked me if people had noticed that I've been losing weight. I acknowledged that a few had but not many. She said, "I think its probably because, unlike many overweight women, you never wear skin tight clothing, so you don't see every bulge." Hmmmm. Well, my jeans were getting pretty damn tight around Christmas! But I know what she means. I happen to just be comfortable in clothes with a bit of room, and never have been one to wear clingy tops.

You have youth on your side, plus if your ticker on your profile page indicates the amount of weight you need to lose, are not very overweight anyway. The outfits you showed in the picture ^^ a few posts up certainly look normal size and cute. If they fit you nicely wear them! If you are embarrassed to show certain parts of your body at your current weight, then don't. Who cares? Usually young women have toned arms and legs regardless of their weight. Take advantage of it!