Can't believe what someone said today..

T0RIEELIZABETH
T0RIEELIZABETH Posts: 376
edited September 22 in Health and Weight Loss
While I was cleaning tables at work, one of the customers asked me 'Did you recently have a baby?'

I swear on my life I will never EVER weigh this much again. Thank god I was busy, or I would've broken down in tears.
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  • dlrcpa
    dlrcpa Posts: 114 Member
    Hang in there. Stick to the plan and it really will work, it just takes time.
  • ltlemermaid
    ltlemermaid Posts: 637 Member
    wow that is very rude--some people just don't know when to keep thier mouths shut!!
    Don't let this idiot ruin your day--just stay on track on here and I know you will reach your goals.
  • hotpickles
    hotpickles Posts: 639 Member
    Ugh, the nerve of some people. The only way I'd ever inquire about if "someone just had a baby" was if I saw them pushing a stroller with a baby, or was holding one.

    Well, I guess the positive is you took it as motivation! You can do this!

    L.
  • coronalime
    coronalime Posts: 583 Member
    idiots! Where I work I had a friend come in. And the receptionist asked her if she was pregnant..I was so pissed. We know not to ask that question. Its all about where you carry your weight. Even really skinny people can have big pouches so dont let that get you down. But hey its also motivating you by making you pisssed off so maybe use that in a work out this weekend
  • kacylaine
    kacylaine Posts: 154 Member
    People are so stupid. :mad: I had someone ask me when I was due when I weighed 135 pounds. I'm 5 foot 9, so that was way skinny for me! And they still thought my eggo was preggo! :noway: Don't let it get you down. Love your body, and your body will love you back. :wink:
  • Nanavette
    Nanavette Posts: 9
    I'm sorry to hear that was said to you. I have had something like that said to me in highschool.
    It's difficult but just ignore everyone who tries to put you down.
    All my best.
  • RunConquerCelebrate
    RunConquerCelebrate Posts: 956 Member
    While I was cleaning tables at work, one of the customers asked me 'Did you recently have a baby?'

    I swear on my life I will never EVER weigh this much again. Thank god I was busy, or I would've broken down in tears.

    That is really rude some people just don't know how to keep their mouth shut sometimes. But sometimes things like that motivate us more to keep working harder and show them.

    Right after I had my son and I came back to work (last December) a co -worker who had seen me pregnant asked so when are you do. That was really hard to swallow. but is a motivator to never be that big again so keep your head up and keep going
  • loseitlaney
    loseitlaney Posts: 14
    I went to a party about 10 years ago and was asked when my baby was due, odd enough I probably weighed about 126 at the time.... Same person now might ask if I had triplets =)

    I laugh it off but it is still stuck in the back of my mind. Don't let them get you down.
  • Oishii
    Oishii Posts: 2,675 Member
    One thing that got me motivated to lose weight was when an old guy at church (who is a bit of a charmer) asked if I was pregnant again and said people had been asking! Now I get the same (lovely) people checking that I haven't been ill!

    Turn it into motivation ;)
  • Shirley61
    Shirley61 Posts: 7,758 Member
    I have a good story for you. I am 61 years old
    and I was wearing a nice blouse to work
    which is like those empire style blouses.
    The maintenance guy comes in every Wednesday
    to collect our recycle paper. He asked me if
    I was pregnant. I was motified and I looked
    at him and said no, just fat. So I kinda know
    where you are coming from (sigh)
  • jojojor
    jojojor Posts: 24
    When I put on weight it all goes to my stomach. Im 45 and still a workmate (who should have known better) asked if I was pregnant. I was so embarressed I didnt think i looked that bad.People say things without thinking. Im having to work really hard but I am slowly losing it.When people come up and say your vlooking good thats great-but how awful was I looking before???? Everything these days is focused on how you look,how wrong is that?
  • yodacho
    yodacho Posts: 90 Member
    What a turkey. I can't believe some folks. So sorry.
  • RDTaylor13
    RDTaylor13 Posts: 160
    don't let that idiot get you down. your better than that.
  • sarahlasvegas
    sarahlasvegas Posts: 73 Member
    Don't let it get to you

    I've had it happen twice at work!!

    Both times by older guys that just dont think at all! Once was about 9months after my wedding, and I'd put on a good 24pounds and had made cakes for everyone - he took one and was like oooh thanks this is great - aww look at you nesting... It was in a room full of 10 of my work mates and I was mortified.

    In front of everyone I laughed it off and we made him feel bad (he too was mortified...) - but it really upset me, and if anything probably made me eat more :(

    Happened again a few months ago too - "you shouldnt be doing that in your condition..." this guy who said it is an idiot and I just said im not pregnant you idiot. Think before you speak....

    Im using it to spur me on, x
  • mayana2002
    mayana2002 Posts: 192
    Somebody asked if I was pregnant when I was 16... I was at work and it was a horrible day for me. That day I started my diet though....
  • Bearface115
    Bearface115 Posts: 574 Member
    **GASP** wow... Either that person doesnt know the first rules to complimenting a woman or they have problems with spiting anything outta their mouth. Im sure that person was trying to maybe be nice and take on an observation. But holy molly, i would have been angry and tried to have made that person feel badly.

    I was a waitress for YEARS and sadly that profession added 30+ pounds to my figure and I felt self concious around me co-workers because there was a guy that i worked with who was playful buddy of mine and we would goof around and give eachother a hard time, but he did something that WASNT a joke which made me feel like the heaviest person ever! I was putting oil into my oil bottle and he comes into the room with 3 other servers and he said to me, " Hey i didnt know we put an extra Shelf in here!" and he tried to balance the glass oil bottle in between the small of my back and the top of my butt. (i know i didnt have that or that i knew of) I was humiliated :embarassed: and tried to diet after that. i made him feel badly about it later and he appologized and said, " But i like women who have a little back to them!" UGH how devistating! so i know how you feel...
  • Jenn421
    Jenn421 Posts: 56
    people are rude. i work at mcdonalds and i get customer a few customers tell me i think its time you lay off mcdonalds. like keep your ****ing mouth shut.

    dont listen to rude people dont let them make you feel down i do and it just gets me very depressed.

    good luck on your weight loss
  • noiinteam
    noiinteam Posts: 92 Member
    Some people are so rude..... blow it off ..... you are cute as a button.
  • javamom
    javamom Posts: 309
    While I was cleaning tables at work, one of the customers asked me 'Did you recently have a baby?'

    I swear on my life I will never EVER weigh this much again. Thank god I was busy, or I would've broken down in tears.

    One of my students asked me when my baby was coming out.
  • fitterpam
    fitterpam Posts: 3,064 Member
    I have a good story for you. I am 61 years old
    and I was wearing a nice blouse to work
    which is like those empire style blouses.
    The maintenance guy comes in every Wednesday
    to collect our recycle paper. He asked me if
    I was pregnant. I was motified and I looked
    at him and said no, just fat. So I kinda know
    where you are coming from (sigh)

    What a great response though. I can only imagine how bad HE felt for opening his mouth....LOL
  • sherrik10
    sherrik10 Posts: 74 Member
    If the person who said that to me was a littel heavy I think I would have said "no, are you?" Even if they were male.
  • Cristy_AZ
    Cristy_AZ Posts: 986
    People are idiots and have no manners or class! Blow it off, you are on the right track. And know that any female anywhere near childbearing age that carries ANY weight in their middle has heard a similar remark. I had one of my employees ask me if I was pregnant in front of a whole hall of construction laborers, I just wanted to die, but I just said no and continued working.
  • Echoshill
    Echoshill Posts: 42 Member
    My guess is that this is going to be immensely unpopular post, but here we go.

    First and foremost, right or wrong, rude or indifferent, the person said what they said based on something they saw. And for better or worse, what they said gave you pause for thought which can be a positive.

    Do not, under any circumstance, let what they said make you decide to change or to not like who you are. No one should have that kind of power over you. Besides, if you try to use something someone said as your driving for for change you WILL quit as soon as 1) You are more tired than pissed off and 2) Enough people pile on the BS to make you feel like they are the problem and not you. Either way, you will likely fail.

    Rather try this.

    Do you have health issues stemming from weight? Is your diet putting you on a collision course for heath issues? Are you mathematically obese or over weight? Do you want to change or need to change your life. NOTE: The first one is actually more powerful than the ladder.

    If the answer to the majority of the above questions is yes, then yeah, you should declare that you will never be as heavy as you are today ever again. If however you have none of the issues above, your BMI is respectable and you like yourself, then f**k him for saying it. Give yourself a hug, have a bowel of ice cream and go to bed.

    What can I say. I am a former Marine and the lovey touchy feely crap is not my strong point. Take the circumstances at hand, weed through the emotions and feelings (because they are useless) and get to the facts. The facts are: someone said something to you with regard to the way they see you. They implied that you look heavy. It is their opinion. It is up to you to determine if they had reason to see that? It is up to you to decide if you want to change.
  • Zita_Jenn
    Zita_Jenn Posts: 252 Member
    I so know what you are going through... I've been asked that same question 3 times. The first time was almost 10 years ago... I was with my soon to be 4 yr old son, husband and father in law at Marine Land.. I don't do well on rides and a lady asked me when I was due? I told her I wasn't. She told me how sorry she was. The second time was when I went shopping when my last baby was a newborn. I was pushing him in a stroller while walking with my aunt. A lady asked me when I was due. I was thinking.. Are you F'ning Kidding me.. I have a NEWBORN here.

    Then two summers ago.. my husband, my 3 boys and I were coming home from a trip.. we pulled into a Fast food restaurant..... a lady beside me says "you are brave." I am like "excuse me?" She says, "to have another baby after having 3 boys.. wow" I said, "yeah... I am hoping for a girl" She says "well the best of luck to you". I walked towards my husband and said congratulations.. it appears we are having a baby and it is a girl" . I felt like **** though. I am so hoping to lose this weight.
  • Umeboshi
    Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
    Jeez. :noway: I can't believe people think it's okay to be that rude. Don't let it get you down.
    On a side note, I think you're gorgeous, so don't let comments like that make you self-conscious. You're probably way better looking than the person that made that remark.
  • sweetiekayk
    sweetiekayk Posts: 84
    Just the other day my sister said I looked pregnant. I said "yup, 3 kids will do that you....what's your excuse?" It's great cuz she's small and we constantly tease each other about our weight.


    Several years ago, at a new job, someone whispered to me "are you pregnant?" She said it quiet enough so no one could hear, which was nice of her, but still kind of offensive. She was just concerned because one of our job duties in the warehouse was going in the freezer for up to 15 minutes at a time to gather orders. My ex and I had been trying to get pregnant at the time and the following month (after we decided we should wait longer) we succeeded...our 3rd and last baby.

    I think you have to look at rude remarks based on how the person says it. In my case it was safety. But most times people should just bite their tongues.
  • jbqueen
    jbqueen Posts: 89 Member
    I had that happen to me twice. Once a patron (I'm a librarian) asked me when I'd had my baby; turns out she confused me with a co-worker who was heavily pregnant at the time, but it was still disturbing because apparently I looked post-partum. Then a couple of years ago another patron, an elderly woman, thought I was pregnant; I attribute that to an empire-waist dress that I have NEVER WORN AGAIN. :tongue: But yes, I still need(ed) to lose some weight.

    Nothing tops my friend's experience, though: her own mother thought she was pregnant when she went home for a visit! Her mom was all excited until my friend told her she wrong. Her mom's response: "Well, then, that top makes you look fat." Nice!:frown:
  • HerbieSue
    HerbieSue Posts: 288
    I agree, rude comment! Your mini goals are great, you CAN do it!!
  • melissarforlife
    melissarforlife Posts: 47 Member
    OMG!!!!!! I'm sad for you! Im big in my butt...I've gotten "fat *kitten*" for years! Its crazy isn't it. If someone says that again, you should say something like, "I have a tumor" and see what they say! Geesh. I just don't think that people think!!!!! Seriously!
    I hope that you didn't let this sabotage you, because you can't! This is for you honey, nobody else! Man!!!!!!

    YOU WILL BE LESS THAN YOU ARE TODAY SOON ENOUGH!!!! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND LOVED!!!! Hang in there my dear, and add me as a friend if you'd like. :)
    Prayin for ya!
    Melissa
  • dd1224
    dd1224 Posts: 11
    Okay that was SUPER rude! I have been asked this more times than I can even remember and every time my heart aches a little. I'm a small framed person and all my weight goes to my belly. Even people at work have asked me this, and they're not even sorry after I correct them?! It makes it seem malicious. One lady said "oh, it must be gas then?" Like hello? STOP talking!

    I know its hard to let it go, and it will take time to get over. Funny thing is I've had so MANY people ask me this that I finally realized I should do something about it....I guess peer pressure works? Ugh, it still makes me mad to think about.
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