I lost weight and didn't leave her

People have this warped belief that if you're unhappy you leave rather than make the effort to work with their partner to find happiness again.

People have this warped belief that if you're unhappy you leave rather than make the effort to work with their partner to find happiness again.

I can see if you are only with them for a little while but some people stay in relationships that are toxic for years or even decades trying to "make it work" - be happy- if you are in a toxic relationship dont waste years of your life because people say you arent putting in the effort to make it better - just sayin
just my opinion- take it as you will

People have this warped belief that if you're unhappy you leave rather than make the effort to work with their partner to find happiness again.

I can see if you are only with them for a little while but some people stay in relationships that are toxic for years or even decades trying to "make it work" - be happy- if you are in a toxic relationship dont waste years of your life because people say you arent putting in the effort to make it better - just sayin
just my opinion- take it as you will

I disagree. I think it applies more to people who have been together a long time and for the most part were happy but let temptation of freedom, a change, the grass is greener kind of mentality, get to them.

NEVER be with someone because you hope one day they will be different than they are.

Waaaiiit a minute Scotty, I do have to point out that due to your relationship, you could have also been turned into a lesbian in a man's body, just like the person in the other topic! :P

OK, OK..you post quotes from my profile, and didn't read the sarcasm part....I get it.....maybe I did go a little overboard. But the topic was ripe for this...she posted HER side of the story, now i f she was right, I apologize, but history is always written by the victors, so maybe the story was skewed...anyway, it just upset me that all those women, were like "You GO girl! "its all his fault"....it takes 2 people to make a relationship work......or fail.......

F***in' eh to that man!!!!!!!!

Youre married? Would not have guessed that from your profile blurbs

"Read my profile carefully, before you get upset about my posts!!! Ladies, the more perverted the friend request, the more likely I will accept!!!"


I'm funny ( at least I've been told ), Honest, truthful. I'm also a big pervert, 99% of my posts will be sexual in nature, I'm a huge flirt and always make inappropriate comments to people. I hit on every woman i meet! i'm just joking, not trying to offend, but some people might take offense. So, if you're one of those people who gets easily offended, you can just get the **** out now.

Awwwww...he made his profile private now. Boo. If my hubby had that up on his profile, sarcasm or not, he'd get a swift kick in the balls. Just sayin'.

Mine too, but he knows it. Props to you scotty!

I see many couples that when one has drastic weight loss there's a divorce, same thing with gain, or cheating, or a multitude of other things. Good for you.

I feel like I'm one of the only people that don't want to lynch this dude. To many people, not me because I work in IT, the internet is not a 'real' thing so they do and say whatever they want and no f*cks are given. Big whoop.

You do realize he posted this as a joke after a beautiful woman said she broke free of a loveless relationship with her husband and he felt like being an asshat in a separate thread shortly after. It would have been completely different had it just been a raw post and not some childish attempt at tasteless humor.

but you're right, this is the internet and people have every right to say whatever the hell comes into their tiny little minds but don't for one second think that there won't be back lash for it.

People have this warped belief that if you're unhappy you leave rather than make the effort to work with their partner to find happiness again.

That's what I said in the original post, and caught heat for not supporting her leaving her uncomplimentary husband to enter into a lesbian relationship.

Youre married? Would not have guessed that from your profile blurbs

"Read my profile carefully, before you get upset about my posts!!! Ladies, the more perverted the friend request, the more likely I will accept!!!"


I'm funny ( at least I've been told ), Honest, truthful. I'm also a big pervert, 99% of my posts will be sexual in nature, I'm a huge flirt and always make inappropriate comments to people. I hit on every woman i meet! i'm just joking, not trying to offend, but some people might take offense. So, if you're one of those people who gets easily offended, you can just get the **** out now.

Awwwww...he made his profile private now. Boo. If my hubby had that up on his profile, sarcasm or not, he'd get a swift kick in the balls. Just sayin'.

Mine too, but he knows it. Props to you scotty!

I see many couples that when one has drastic weight loss there's a divorce, same thing with gain, or cheating, or a multitude of other things. Good for you.

I feel like I'm one of the only people that don't want to lynch this dude. To many people, not me because I work in IT, the internet is not a 'real' thing so they do and say whatever they want and no f*cks are given. Big whoop.

You do realize he posted this as a joke after a beautiful woman said she broke free of a loveless relationship with her husband and he felt like being an asshat in a separate thread shortly after. It would have been completely different had it just been a raw post and not some childish attempt at tasteless humor.

but you're right, this is the internet and people have every right to say whatever the hell comes into their tiny little minds but don't for one second think that there won't be back lash for it.

Right, because we all know exactly what happened in this relationship after hearing one side of an online story that someone posted for public comments/validity, so we really should feel very self righteous in defending all possible humor targeting this relationship...between people we don't know and made up a reality about that we now treasure in our heads. That's some srs bizness to make light of Scotty, shame on you for inferring staying together after losing weight is important!

How about staying together is important UNLESS talking does nothing and the relationship had devolved with no real resolution. How are you to assume the opposite of what you're inferring of me? Sure, we don't know full details but given that we hear one side and it's not something damaging to the OP in the other thread, in fact, she was freed from the experience...what good does it do to post in jest that you're so awesome that you kept your relationship together. Essentially mocking her for her decisions. That, ultimately, was my point.

Staying together is important, if you're in a relationship that is salvageable. Who but the individual can determine that? Are we so self righteous that we think that anyone whose gone through a divorce has done so in a knee her reaction to a single disagreement or mere boredom?

Also, from other's digging, OP isn't exactly the prime model for the perfect relationship. Bahahaha. It's not really bizarre that I would stand by an Internet stranger in their decision to be happy. Good for them for pursuing happiness.

I suppose I can understand your point in not caring whether this OP feels like being an asshat but meh.