Feel like giving up :(

I have lost all motivation. Don't know what to do anymore. I really don't want to give up but this all seems really hard. I am having a hard time eating a healthy dinner I am out of choices besides chicken and vegetables. Any help/advice would be appreciated.
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  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    How long have you been doing this? Why are your dinners so restrictive?
  • KayBallin
    KayBallin Posts: 111 Member
    Don't give up. Remind yourself of why you want to lose in the first place. It's going to be hard. Anything worth having is not easy, but you can do it!

    I have a limited diet as well. I only consume fish, chicken, and turkey for meat. No pork. No beef. I'd suggest looking on Pinterest for recipe ideas if you're having trouble. Play with spices. One night I had teriyaki flavored chicken. Another night I had garlic flavored with olive oil. You can do so much with chicken... or any meat for that matter.
  • logg1e
    logg1e Posts: 1,208 Member
    What would life be like if you stopped losing weight?
  • farfromthetree
    farfromthetree Posts: 982 Member
    I used to limit my menu. I have tried low fat, low carb, paleo etc...nothing ever worked. Now I eat anything I want, just weighed or measured out, and I stick to my daily calorie goal. I rarely feel deprived. I love tasting all different flavors and recipes. This has been the key to my weight loss. I am not sure why you are limiting yourself but, try not to limit yourself to tasteless, boring foods! Best of Luck and dont give up:)
  • gaxarlis08
    gaxarlis08 Posts: 40 Member
    Thanks for all your help guys. I limit myself basically because I don't know what else to eat. I also hate preparing food so it makes me more inclined to just give up. I am going to give it another go. I appreciate everyone's kind words and support, you all are so great!

    I am going to look on pinterest for different recipes. I just have a portion control problem. I feel like I am always hungry no matter what. Any advice for that?

    Open diary friends would be helpful too :)

    Thanks again guys!
  • sllm1
    sllm1 Posts: 2,130 Member
    Embrace the hunger. :) I have to convince myself that I'm not really starving and that hunger is not an emergency.

    For the portion control, use a smaller plate. It tricks your mind into feeling more satisfied with the meal.

    Make "rituals" about eating. Eat without distractions. Enjoy every bite and eat slowly.

    Plan ahead so that you can enjoy your favorite foods on occasion, unless they are "trigger" foods. Identify those and stay away when possible.

    These are my strategies.
  • lyzmorrison
    lyzmorrison Posts: 172 Member
    It IS hard! Anything worth having is worth working hard for.

    Here's my experience. Instead of retyping it, here's the link to what I posted about my journey...

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1254045-it-s-more-than-weight-loss
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I have lost all motivation. Don't know what to do anymore. I really don't want to give up but this all seems really hard. I am having a hard time eating a healthy dinner I am out of choices besides chicken and vegetables. Any help/advice would be appreciated.

    What do you mean you are out of choices other than chicken and vegetables? Do you not include grains because you are doing low carb? Why only chicken?

    You obviously have the internet. Search for recipes that meet your diet criteria. You don't have to eat the same thing every day just because you are cutting calories. There are so many healthy low cal dishes. Experiment with new recipes to find some you love.
  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    Glad you aren't giving up. That solves nothing. Try not to make this so hard on yourself, you can eat all the same foods you always did you just need to eat less. Focus on just the calorie deficit and logging first, than go from there. Don't overly restrict yourself that just makes it harder.

    Keep it simple find a REASONABLE deficit: Have PATIENCE... I know these links have already been given but they are worth giving again

    If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal

    Log your food accurately and honestly this thread will help:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234699-logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide?hl=logging+step+guide

    Find an activity you enjoy doing - I found I love to ride my bike and lift heavy stuff :)

    Here are 2 more threads that will help take the time to read them:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
  • KayBallin
    KayBallin Posts: 111 Member
    Thanks for all your help guys. I limit myself basically because I don't know what else to eat. I also hate preparing food so it makes me more inclined to just give up. I am going to give it another go. I appreciate everyone's kind words and support, you all are so great!

    I am going to look on pinterest for different recipes. I just have a portion control problem. I feel like I am always hungry no matter what. Any advice for that?

    Open diary friends would be helpful too :)

    Thanks again guys!

    Get a digital food scale and read labels to control your portions. :)
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I feel like I am always hungry no matter what. Any advice for that?

    Exercise to earn more calories. I could never lose without exercise calories. I get too hungry.
  • PinkCupcakes84
    PinkCupcakes84 Posts: 235 Member
    Don't give up. Remind yourself of why you want to lose in the first place. It's going to be hard. Anything worth having is not easy, but you can do it!

    This????
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    Give up.

    It's easier.




    When you remember how badly that sucks. Remember why you want to do this.
  • tesha_chandler
    tesha_chandler Posts: 378 Member
    Hang in there! I have been at that same point recently. You just have to always remember that the time is going to pass no matter if you are losing weight or not.. 6 weeks from now, you could be 10 pounds down just because you turned down the wrong foods a few times. Walking away will always add up! :) Do you have anyone that you could have as an accountability partner?
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Stop restricting your diet so much and it'll be way easier. I'd give up too if all I allowed myself to eat was chicken and vegetables.
  • tanyoshka
    tanyoshka Posts: 50 Member
    This probably isn't the most healthy suggestion, but when have been feeling hungry all day and can't seem to ever get full, I eat a ton of popcorn. It's really low calorie and I can eat and eat and not do too much damage. Every so often, it's worth it just to feel like I didn't have to limit myself for once.

    I'm also having a big motivation problem right now. I just try to remind myself that any progress is progress. less than 1/2 a pound a week? That's ok. In a month you'll still have lost 2 pounds. In 3 months, 6 pounds. In a year, that's 24. Baby steps will still get you there.
  • Bernadette60614
    Bernadette60614 Posts: 707 Member
    First, do you eat regular meals or do you wait until you're starving to eat? I eat roughly every 3 to 4 hours, otherwise I make choices I regret.

    Second, you don't have to cook to lose weight:

    Breakfast: Smoothie in a blender: almond milk, protein powder, blueberries

    Snack: Apple, peanut butter

    Lunch: large salad (just buy the bagged kind), leftover veggies, a cup of beans

    Snack: 3 cups of Skinny Pop, handful of almonds

    Dinner: frozen Amy's burrito (about 300 calories) defrosted and zapped for about 6 minutes, roasted veggies (buy frozen veggies, defrost, spray a cookie sheet with Pam, spread on the pan, put in oven preheated at 420 or so...we make these in bulk on Sundays.

    Snack: 1 150 calorie skinny cow.

    That's about 20 minutes of food prep for a full day.

    You just hit a bump, don't let it force you off the road!
  • AlyRuth94
    AlyRuth94 Posts: 11
    I just have a portion control problem. I feel like I am always hungry no matter what. Any advice for that?

    There's stuff that's filling AND not a whole lot of calories. Chili is my go-to. Like, you can eat 2 full bowls of chili and be looking at under 500 calories. I have chili in my fridge always. Also, WATER. Sometimes you think you're hungry when you're just outright thirsty!

    I started this back in February I think, and back then, my portions were HUGE. We're talking around 1200 calories PER MEAL. That's about what I eat in a day now! When I started this, I felt like you. My portions were never satisfying. But after only about 2-3 weeks I started seeing changes in my appetite. Smaller amounts were filling me up!

    Now, that being said, this might seem both counter-intuitive and counters what I just said: eat when you're hungry. Nothing will kill a diet faster than you being hungry for hours at a time. I'm talking your stomach is growling and your hands are shaking hungry. Not JUST having an appetite. Your stomach growling means you actually need to eat. Having just an appetite means you just WANT to eat. :-)
  • ximenia
    ximenia Posts: 62 Member
    Here's a few tricks I've learned to help with always feeling hungry.

    1. Always drink a glass of water when you feel hungry and wait a few minutes to see if it subsides, your body can't tell the difference between hunger and thirst sometimes.

    2. Drink a glass of water before each meal. (Also if you have trouble with plain water add a lemon)

    3. If you feel hungry and it's not meal time, eat a banana or have a glass of milk if you don't have bananas on hand.

    4. If nothing else is working, exercise and eat back those calories you've earned.

    5. Try to limit drinks that are not water as drinking your calories will make this impossible.

    6. When you do eat, eat a lot of protein, protein is what makes you feel full, things like greek yogurt, lowfat protein bars, even string cheese are great snacks that will keep you from feeling hungry all the time.
  • HerbertNenenger
    HerbertNenenger Posts: 453 Member
    Embrace the hunger. :) I have to convince myself that I'm not really starving and that hunger is not an emergency.

    no, I'm sorry. "embracing the hunger" doesn't work. It leads to a binge. Eat more protein, it will fill you up.
  • Bernadette60614
    Bernadette60614 Posts: 707 Member
    Also, eat at the table. Not in front of the TV, not noshing while reading or in the car.

    Sit down at the table with a dish and eat. It seems bizarre to eat an apple this way, but part of filling satisfied, I've found, is actually paying attention to what I'm eating.
  • Zaftique
    Zaftique Posts: 599 Member
    Thanks for all your help guys. I limit myself basically because I don't know what else to eat. I also hate preparing food so it makes me more inclined to just give up. I am going to give it another go. I appreciate everyone's kind words and support, you all are so great!

    I am going to look on pinterest for different recipes. I just have a portion control problem. I feel like I am always hungry no matter what. Any advice for that?

    Open diary friends would be helpful too :)

    Thanks again guys!

    Get a digital food scale and read labels to control your portions. :)

    Honestly, getting a FoodSaver has been a godsend. I can spend 3 hours on the weekend making enormous batches of food that I then portion out, seal, and freeze. This gives me readymade lunches and dinners for those times when I just don't feel like cooking and want something fast and easy.

    To help with munchie feelings, make sure your meals have some protein (I'm guilty of forgetting this m'self!) to help with punching up the satiety response.
  • DerekVTX
    DerekVTX Posts: 287 Member
    Thanks for all your help guys. I limit myself basically because I don't know what else to eat. I also hate preparing food so it makes me more inclined to just give up. I am going to give it another go. I appreciate everyone's kind words and support, you all are so great!

    I am going to look on pinterest for different recipes. I just have a portion control problem. I feel like I am always hungry no matter what. Any advice for that?

    Open diary friends would be helpful too :)

    Thanks again guys!

    1. Get your portions under control. Its hard at first but I promise it will get easier once you get control of your appetite.
    2. WEIGH and/or MESURE everything (you would be amazed at how easy it is to overestimate things like butter, oil, steak, etc). If you eat 4 potato chips then weigh them first. Eventually you will get better at judging too.
    3. Log everything, no mater what. Log through out the day....don't try to remember it all to log later as you will forget stuff. Cheating and eating a couple of chocolates or just a few chips and not logging them is only going to hurt you. You can eat some chocolate or chips, but keep it in your daily calorie limits.
    4. Being hungry is okay, it is not the end or your world...............if you keep going down the path we were all headed that will end your world.
    5. This is open to debate: But I say don't worry about how often you eat as long as you are eating enough (but not too much). Im not hungry in the morning so I dont' eat until I am hungry around noon. This helps me control my appetite.
    6. Preparing your own food is very important. Eating out is not good at all. Decide whats more important, preparing your own food or being fat your entire life.

    I know I may sound harsh but this is what works for me. I let myself go, then just accepted that i would not be an attractive guy ever again, let myself go some more before I finally woke up and realized that being Fat sucks and that I had been lazy for too long. I care about myself, I deserve to live life to the fullest, I deserve to be attractive, I deserve to live a long healthy life, I deserve to be happy and have fun every day. How do you feel about yourself? Do you feel that you are worth the hard work?
  • felonebeats
    felonebeats Posts: 433
    Stick with it,it's hard work but well worth it
  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    Thanks for all your help guys. I limit myself basically because I don't know what else to eat. I also hate preparing food so it makes me more inclined to just give up. I am going to give it another go. I appreciate everyone's kind words and support, you all are so great!

    I am going to look on pinterest for different recipes. I just have a portion control problem. I feel like I am always hungry no matter what. Any advice for that?

    Open diary friends would be helpful too :)

    Thanks again guys!

    My 5 tips for hunger:

    1. Make sure your calorie goal is appropriate for your size and activity levels. Way too many people skip this step and then wonder why their bodies are telling them something.

    2. Look for foods with more protein, fat, and fiber. These help us feel fuller and more satiated for longer.

    3. Drink plenty of water.

    4. Play around with meal timings. Some people do really well on 6 small meals a day and others do better with 2 large meals. Meal timing won't affect your weight loss. It may affect your mood, energy levels , gym performance, and sustainability. Find what works best for your schedule.

    5. Wait it out. If all of the above fail and you know you're eating enough, getting enough nutrients, etc. then you may just have to let your body adjust for a couple of weeks.
  • radiantsunshine40
    radiantsunshine40 Posts: 48 Member
    Sugga, if you feel the need to quit then JUST DO IT!

    Quitting will never get you HEALTHY!

    I've taken a break during the winter and OH MY!

    My body was a talking to me thru the pain in my lower back and my right knee! I found just a casual stroll on the track for twenty minutes was a BIG RELIEF!

    As far as my eating habits.....HEALTHY has always been daunting!! Simply because the expense and the prep time! I am of the mind set the MORE FOOD the MERRIER I AM! Therefore, I'm wanting LARGE AMOUNTS of the GOOD VEGGIES etc...
    I've learned to gradually add in HEALTHY......a fruit here.....raw veggies there! SWEETS are a pit fall for me HOWEVER I limit myself! Never fully taking anything away but ADDING HEALTHY every way possible!

    TAKE A BREAK......BUT DON'T EVER QUIT!:flowerforyou:
  • farfromthetree
    farfromthetree Posts: 982 Member
    If I feel I am hungrier than normal, I drink a protein shake (one scoop 100 calories) with 1/2 cup 1% milk . It really does help. More protein or fat to help with hunger!! I like the magazine "cooking light" they have some great recipes. If you do not like to prepare your own foods, shop around the supermarket. We eat plenty of frozen meals (fish, ravioli, meatballs, etc...during the week.) I love picking up and trying new things...as long as the calorie content is not too crazy!
    Someone mentioned Amy's Burritos...they are really good! I am almost at goal, but I have an open diary and am on daily. Friend request sent!
  • marialynn2014
    marialynn2014 Posts: 89 Member
    Start exercising if you don't already. Find something you like. For me, it's outdoor trail walking and indoor beach body videos. Invest in a heart rate monitor so you can see all those calories being burned.

    For dinners, I have enjoyed searching Pinterest and trying new recipes. Trade out ground beef for ground turkey and your possibilities are endless. Whole wheat spaghetti, tacos, turkey meatballs, etc. I eat lots of tilapia and grilled marinated chicken breast. Then, you just have to think about your sides. I have now figured out I love squash, sweet potatoes, brown rice with Mrs. Dash.

    Is it worth giving up and staying the same or letting it get worse? If you aren't ready, that's ok! I can't tell you how many times I was just OK with giving up and just put on 10 more lbs before I would "try again" for a week, and quit again. Something finally just "clicked" with me and in May, I am just SiCK of starting over, so I am going to stop giving up. Good luck with your journey. You need to really want to change to make a change :)

    I started treating my MFP like FB. Make friends and help cheer them on, it'll help you be accountable to yourself as well. I am here every day, feel free to add me.
  • Ronni66
    Ronni66 Posts: 43
    It does not have to be all chicken and vegetables! I am a diabetic and need to stay on a strict diet that forbids me from eating sugar , breads, pastas , potatoes , most rice and limited fruits and definitely very very little fruit juice. Basically most yummy things and i got very discouraged and went off my "diet" which resulted in dangerously high blood sugars....not good.

    Note that a diabetic diet is right on par for those that want to lose weight..it's an excellent diet if done right.

    What we have in common is that it really sucks to give up all the foods you love,...and you get resentful and bored with food choices...so this is what i did.

    On a diabetic diets there are two food groups i am able to have a lot of , and that is meats and vegetables. Not just chicken though! I eat Steak, chicken, pork and a variety of all of those. On a daily basis i will have meat that is baked, sometimes Barbecued inside or outside, Even fried on special occasions.

    I HATE vegetables..and i miss my potatoes and Pasta's and rice! So you know what i do? I eat them. But not every day and in small portions at one meal. So, i have that baked potato, or even french fries... I eat at fast food sometimes. Does it up my calories? You becha...but i supplement a few meals with Slimfast and I eat nuts as a snack or popcorn.

    Point i am getting at is don't give up...and do not deprive yourself! Have a small sliver of cake or pie , but that's it for the day for treats . Drink lots of (yuk) water. Keep away from Sugar sodas. I hate Diet drinks ..but Snapple diet peach is really good and so is Walmart sugar free ice tea. I drink that exclusively because it does not taste like diet drinks.

    Mc Donalds has a new diet tea that is also good, so when you have that small cheese burger, drink some diet tea or soda. Fast food is not out on a 'diet"...but it must be done maybe once or twice a month and have the kids menu lol

    I hope you do not give up...believe me, i am the WORST when it comes to following a diet, but i have to...in the process i am losing weight and i don't cardio myself out...i hate it.

    instead i dance around the house or make sure i get up every 30 mins and march in place for 30 steps. Working out does not have to stink on ice...working out is just getting moving doing something.

    I like to do Interval training because it takes about 10 -15 seconds each session. Oh it's hard for that 15 seconds..but at least i am not running on a treadmill for 30 mins and burning very little off ...screw that.

    Sorry so long winded...i guess i don't want you to give up cause i have to do it and others must suffer too!! Muhahaha

    good luck!