Can't believe what someone said today..

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  • T0RIEELIZABETH
    T0RIEELIZABETH Posts: 376
    My guess is that this is going to be immensely unpopular post, but here we go.

    First and foremost, right or wrong, rude or indifferent, the person said what they said based on something they saw. And for better or worse, what they said gave you pause for thought which can be a positive.

    Do not, under any circumstance, let what they said make you decide to change or to not like who you are. No one should have that kind of power over you. Besides, if you try to use something someone said as your driving for for change you WILL quit as soon as 1) You are more tired than pissed off and 2) Enough people pile on the BS to make you feel like they are the problem and not you. Either way, you will likely fail.

    Rather try this.

    Do you have health issues stemming from weight? Is your diet putting you on a collision course for heath issues? Are you mathematically obese or over weight? Do you want to change or need to change your life. NOTE: The first one is actually more powerful than the ladder.

    If the answer to the majority of the above questions is yes, then yeah, you should declare that you will never be as heavy as you are today ever again. If however you have none of the issues above, your BMI is respectable and you like yourself, then f**k him for saying it. Give yourself a hug, have a bowel of ice cream and go to bed.

    What can I say. I am a former Marine and the lovey touchy feely crap is not my strong point. Take the circumstances at hand, weed through the emotions and feelings (because they are useless) and get to the facts. The facts are: someone said something to you with regard to the way they see you. They implied that you look heavy. It is their opinion. It is up to you to determine if they had reason to see that? It is up to you to decide if you want to change.

    I honestly dont mind your post. Actually, thank you. I dont need to do this for other people, this is for me and my health (bmi=obese). Thank you very much :)
  • dancer77
    dancer77 Posts: 249 Member
    Awww :( that is the dumbest question to ask! I haven't had that one..but I have been carrying around my sister and people asked if she was mine....I was only 17...did I look like I just had a baby?!?! :P
  • CuteMommy88
    CuteMommy88 Posts: 538 Member
    what a douche bag....i hate ppl sometimes!!! you are beautiful!!
  • marisol7649
    marisol7649 Posts: 484 Member
    I just looked and your picture and you are so pretty. Some people are a*&holes.

    But Why must you focus on one jerk who made you feel bad when I know you get compliments. Am I wrong?
  • T0RIEELIZABETH
    T0RIEELIZABETH Posts: 376
    thank you guys so much! I really appreciate the compliments, definitely made my night and makes me feel better about it and myself! I am so glad I found this website, you guys are amazing :)
  • MissResa
    MissResa Posts: 1,147 Member
    My guess is that this is going to be immensely unpopular post, but here we go.

    First and foremost, right or wrong, rude or indifferent, the person said what they said based on something they saw. And for better or worse, what they said gave you pause for thought which can be a positive.

    Do not, under any circumstance, let what they said make you decide to change or to not like who you are. No one should have that kind of power over you. Besides, if you try to use something someone said as your driving for for change you WILL quit as soon as 1) You are more tired than pissed off and 2) Enough people pile on the BS to make you feel like they are the problem and not you. Either way, you will likely fail.

    Rather try this.

    Do you have health issues stemming from weight? Is your diet putting you on a collision course for heath issues? Are you mathematically obese or over weight? Do you want to change or need to change your life. NOTE: The first one is actually more powerful than the ladder.

    If the answer to the majority of the above questions is yes, then yeah, you should declare that you will never be as heavy as you are today ever again. If however you have none of the issues above, your BMI is respectable and you like yourself, then f**k him for saying it. Give yourself a hug, have a bowel of ice cream and go to bed.

    What can I say. I am a former Marine and the lovey touchy feely crap is not my strong point. Take the circumstances at hand, weed through the emotions and feelings (because they are useless) and get to the facts. The facts are: someone said something to you with regard to the way they see you. They implied that you look heavy. It is their opinion. It is up to you to determine if they had reason to see that? It is up to you to decide if you want to change.

    I actually thought this was stated very well. You kind of reminded me of R. Lee Ermey from the insurance commercial when you said lovey touchy feely crap, lol. ;)

    tsosbe, you are a cutie(as Marisol already stated), and you seem to have a pretty good head on your shoulders when it comes to this. Use it as motivation, and forget the socially awkward guy that started all this... Or better yet, remember him as the person who added fuel to your fire, since you were already motivated enough to start on here. Maybe you'll run into him a little farther down the road. =)
  • kidtechnical
    kidtechnical Posts: 146
    Oh, never mind, you can lose weight, but that person will always be a tool!
  • KanCrav
    KanCrav Posts: 439 Member
    If I were you I would take it as motivation, which I am sure your going to do. You cant help what ppl say but you can help how you react to it! Next time you think your at about faliure in those situps, think of that guy and do 5 more!~!~!
  • copper33
    copper33 Posts: 12
    I agree - take it as a motivational impulse. Although that was a horribly rude thing to say, an incident like that can make a real emotional impact which, in turn, can sometimes increase motivation and make it easier to stick to your weight loss and exercise goals.
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