Only one in family wanting to make the change! HELP.

I just change what I fill my plate up with. I have a smallish portion of the main entrée when we are having things like spaghetti, casseroles,etc. I also stick to smaller portions of the carb-y sides (not that I cut carbs a lot, it just tends to be higher calorie). Then I fill up my plate with a lot of veggies. I also try to have things like grilled chicken or fish a little more often.

Same.

Hang in there! I don't really have any advice as I am a divorced dad with a 7 year old and I make all of the meal decisions. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to make a change while others around you don't share in your aspirations.

As far as the expense of groceries, I feel your pain. My problem is that groceries seem to be packaged for families and not single people and I end up either throwing half of it away due to spoilage, or I am tempted to "get my money's worth" and eat it ALL!

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Oh yes families can be a problem, but you can get thru it. The key is just to do portion control. Don't eat the chips and the other snacks family members insist on having in the house. Buy yourself fruit, low fat yogurt, for your own snacks.

Stay away from second helpings, cut your bread intake in half. It works for me.

Eat less, move more.

I'm the cook of the house. I do try and add in healthier choices for meals, but if i cook something that isn't so healthy, to please them, i just eat it in moderation and add it in to my log. I have 3 kids, ages 9,7 and 4.....and if i offer them healthier snacks instead of what they think they want, they eat it without complaint. My problem is my husband doesn't give a crap what he eats and he actually gets MAD at me if i don't buy him junk food, which makes it hard for me to avoid. But I've just had to stay strong against that stuff and make healthier choices for ME.

If you have control over the menu try to pick a few meals a week that are more friendly to your diet, like lean meats and more veggies. I eat what we eat, I am not on something special this is real life and these are changes I will need to live with for the rest of my life. So I take control of ME, I eat a low calorie lunch such as a huge salad, I have salad often with my dinner and not eat too much of things high in calorie, basically I make sure I eat a serving size not a generous serving that is 2 or 3 servings in reality! Eat what is there but control your portions.

You took the words right out of my mouth!! lol

As far as the family thing. I went through the same thing over and over again until the "skinny" people in my house finally decided to be a little more supportive. They love you and if you make them see how important it is for you and for them that you be healthy they'll make adjustments. I basically cook a healthy meal of meat and veggies then add a starch for them. I stay away from most starches but it makes them not feel so deprived and if you cook the meat and veggies with lots of flavor it should make the transition a little easier for them. And don't feel like you're making them suffer because you're overweight. In the long run, a healthier diet will benefit them as well. Hang in there.

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I just wanted to encourage you to stay strong. If you would like to add me I would love to be a cheerleader for you on here.

In response to your post, I do the same as other posters have said. Since I am the main one to do the shopping and cooking, I buy healthier items and try to serve more fresh fruits and vegetables with my meals. While buying fresh can be more expensive, I just buy a few veggies and fruits to try for one week and then change the type of veggies the following week and so forth. I still buy and cook the things I know my kids and husband like. But I encourage my kids to eat some healthier items along with the things they like. I take smaller portions of the higher calorie food and try to fill up with veggies or lower calorie foods.

Also as for keeping junk food in the home. I may buy some for everyone else but I buy smaller amounts of it. Then I encourage my kids to snack on fruit or carrots. I don't try to control what my husband eats. But I can definitely encourage my children to make better choices. And hopefully by having healthier options around my husband can make healthier choices too. While generally he's a meat and potatoes kind of guy, he has said to me that even though it's not his choice he likes it when I make salad or vegetables for dinner because he realizes its healthier and he's more likely to have a little if it's in front of him.
Anyway. Sorry for rambling.
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I am so glad I found this post, because I have the same problem!! I read through all of the comments, and all are great ideas!! I have three kiddos, and one big kid that just won't commit! He needs to lose to, but I can't make him. I have tried over and over again as well, and it does get difficult on being the only one who seems to be trying. Feel free to add me and we can motivate each other! I have also added a lot of motivational sites and people on my facebook and instagram to help me get the right mindset! Good luck and just remember if he notices it will be inspiring and may change his mind as well

Hi Everyone,

I have started my journey over and over. My biggest problem is no one else in my household is willing to do the same. I don't think its fair they need to change just because I am over weight. I also don't have the budget to buy 2 separate meals for every meal of the day.

Does anyone else have this issue? How do I get past this, inexpensively.

I am in need of motivation/support and friends!!

Same issue. My mom lives with us and she is the MOST resistant and the only one in the house who (because of several health issues) REALLY needs to make a change.....so I've been slowly changing everybody's diet...for example, I don't use beef in family dishes like Spaghetti, I use Italian Ground Turkey....NO ONE could tell the difference...and EVERYBODY loves it. I also don't buy her as many sodas as I used to. I just buy a small pack and once they run out I conveniently "forget" to buy more and then only have 100% juices and water available so, she has no choice alot of times. I can tell a difference. She is also losing weight slowly but surely and she looks great. I compliment her all of the time and I am seeing changes. I just don't pressure her or anyone else to move at MY pace....I'm gently helping her find her own....GOOD LUCK TO YOU.....YOU CAN and YOU WILL DO IT!!!!