Confused and lonely

Dilemma and would appreciate your input. They were planning a birthday food party tomorrow for the regional controller. However they continually walked by me ignoring me and would talk to everybody else in my office but not include me. I walked out the doors without a word to anybody and feel that I should not participate. This is not the first time this has happened to me and I'm getting very very sick of being ignored. Would you try to participate or just ignore them as they ignore you? In addition I have no idea what anyone is bringing so in my mind why bother. Just bring my own food. Let me know what you think.

Why don't you talk to the people planning this party? If you can't speak up for yourself, how can you expect anyone to know what bothers you? I can't help you; I don't work in your office.

Trust your intuition and go with your gut. Bring your own food. It's probably way healthier anyway…….

Dig a little deeper. Ask someone in the office, that you think will give you an honest answer, why they ignore you. It could be something you do or(more likely) it's your perception. Good luck.

Without knowing more about the dynamic of the folks at your workplace, it's kinda tough to make that call...in our office anytime there's a potluck or anything, either someone hangs a sign-up sheet in the break room where you put your name & what you're planning on bringing, or the receptionist walks around and just asks everyone & writes it down. Is everyone you work with a total *kitten* to you in other regards? Or are they normally pretty decent & just seem to be jerkwads when it comes to food?

i'm sorry you're having to deal with that. i can't imagine why your co-workers are acting that way. usually i would tell you to go to the party and try to enjoy yourself, but because of what you said i think you should just skip it. ignoring them back isn't going to make it any better, but i know how much it weights on a person to be ignored and lonely, hence me advising you to skip the party. i wouldn't confront anyone unless it's affecting your work performance. if it starts affecting your performance then i suggest you confront them outside of your workplace. again, i'm sorry about your situation. i hope it gets better.

Thanks starry. If there is on thing I have learned is to not let the cliques effect my work. My screensaver on my iPad says sometimes I feel like giving up but then I remember I have too many people to prove wrong.

Sometimes you go through a period where you have to just deal with losers. Don't let them get in your way. Is this a job you're looking to stay at for a long time?


(your dog is unbelievably cute.)

Maybe you just work with a bunch of *kitten*.

I'd attempt to ask someone if there is a reason, but if nothing comes of that, I'd try my hardest to just not sweat it. Sometimes people are mean, or rude. End of story.

"Do not be misled ; Bad company corrupts good character." Good luck!

I know it's difficult being on the outside but I would just ignore them and do your own thing. They aren't your friends so what does it really matter. It can make some situations a little uncomfortable but you don't need them to make yourself feel better. Keep doing what you're doing, be healthy, lose weight and your positivity and happiness about bettering yourself will eat at them more then you think.

Gee---you think I may have some of the same co-workers as you? LOL!

P.S. I'm on MFP often throughout the workday so friend me if you'd like some added support.